He wants to see my bank accounts.

[sewingandcoffee]

Been with my OH for 8 yrs. always had separate bank accounts and now I am a SAHM. I rely on house keeping from him and my minimal tax credits. He pays all bill. I pay for my car and all day to day expenses for 4 children. (He's away during week) in about to make a large purchase for our daughter. He wants to see what in my bank account as in transactions before he transfers over money to pay the bill. I feel this is unnecessary as I have already told him the amount I need to top up what I already have.

Am I being unreasonable. Should I just show him. I feel it is humiliating as I know he will be judgey about what I spend my money on.

This would be an absolute no from me. I would never dream of asking to see my husband's statement and he knows exactly what the answer would be if he asked to see mine.

makes me wonder am I entitled to his money.

It's not "his" if you are a family.

I would leave out whatever he earned before you get together, but I hope you haven't been eaten at your own savings from before you got together either.

newbed if he has a mortgage on the house then you have to pay stamp duty when it is transferred into joint names. However you might feel that is a price worth paying to be made a gift of half of any equity in the house.