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dh likes wanking better than sex!

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:16

My dh would rather wank himself than have sex with me. He acts like sex is a chore and I'm the one doing all the work! He knows that I want sex more than he does but he doesn't know that I know he's wanking. He leaves behind evidence in the trashcan and he makes all the disgusting noises from the bathroom, I am home and he doesn't even consider me. We usually have sex twice per week and he wanks in between, it used to be more but now he likes to wank more, I'm so pissed and he blames me, he says he's either too tired or I wasn't nice enough to him that day and I know the real reason is because he did hisself and is no longer in the mood. WTF do you do with that? It's getting worse!

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shimmy21 · 27/03/2007 21:47

I asked dh for a man's pov and dh said... 'does she smell?'

sorry

to be serious for a mo it sounds to me as a bit more than just a laziness or selfishness problem. He sounds like he has a problem with sex. No foreplay?? at all??? . That's not just a lazy man thing. That's someone who has 'issues'.

mousiemousie · 27/03/2007 21:47

watch dirty videos in bed with a vibrator whilst talking to yourself, don't let him join in, say you just want to do it your way but he can watch if he likes

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:49

Sounds like he is blaming you for not wanting to have sex.

You have 2 choices. You put up and shut up or you do something about it.

If you are not going to do anything other than moan about it then I've lost interest.

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:51

shimmy21
I don't smell, haha. like i mentioned before on the "mens room" site, I am a model and healthcare worker, I am thin and tall and have nice fake perky boobies, my legs are always shaved, my teeth are always bleached, I sleep in very nice nighties, what else does he want and yes, I think he has some serious mental "issues" he thinks it is wrong to make noises in bed and reduces it, he is completely quiet, he thinks talking about sex is a bad thing, and he is not open to doing anything new in the bedroom, he has issues expressing all other forms of feelings as well, can only write I love you has never spoke the words, he said he wasn't brought up in an emotional family.

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HoppyDaddy · 27/03/2007 21:52

wishing1, what are you doing tomorrow night?

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:52

Others have suggested that you might be a troll. Do you have a response for this?

moondog · 27/03/2007 21:53

'kick him in the cock'

moondog · 27/03/2007 21:53

lol lol at HD

giraffeski · 27/03/2007 21:54

Message withdrawn

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:54

And you said I was mean moondog!

moondog · 27/03/2007 21:55

Brilliant thread.

Wishing,you've been rumbled I'm afraid.

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:55

I'm free tomorrow night, haha. What is a troll? He likes to show me off, he says his brothers are jealous of him, but when all is said and done and we are at home, he doesn't act passionate or anything.

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HoppyDaddy · 27/03/2007 21:55

What kind of noises? Grunts and groans or saying stuff?

He sounds more and more like a cunt, by the way.

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:56

He makes frog noises.

crispyduck · 27/03/2007 21:56
Shock
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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:56

just the groans before he finishes that he can't help but making whether it is sex or bathroom and then a big sighhhhhhh....

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moondog · 27/03/2007 21:57

Lordy HD,don't tell me that you are getting off on all this smuttly talk.

Eeeewwwww

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:59

I wouldn't think that he is cheating, he never goes out except for work and on the weekends I have to drag him out to do stuff or he would sit around in his pajamas and do nothing, well almost nothing...

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HoppyDaddy · 27/03/2007 21:59

Does he shout "Shiver me timbers" at the vinegar stroke?

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 22:00

You know, he could just be having an enjoyable crap in the bathroom?

moondog · 27/03/2007 22:01

vinegar stroke????????

New one on me...

HoppyDaddy · 27/03/2007 22:01

You get it on you, moondog? yuck

morningpaper · 27/03/2007 22:01

Maybe he's cleaning the bath REALLY vigorously

HoppyDaddy · 27/03/2007 22:02

Morningpaper, I'm sure Cif doesn't stick, though...

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 22:03

He is not having an enjoyable crap because only when he's made those noises and for gods sake our house is small and the bathroom is right there, if I go in after him there's usually toilet paper stuck to the sink or it's on the floor by the trashcan so I know what he's doing. No...he is not singing or talking to himself, instead of 'whos your daddy', whos your hand! It's really pathetic. When we are on vacation if our room is super small and the bathroom has no sink, this is no fucking joke, then he wants to fuck me like every night!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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