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dh likes wanking better than sex!

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:16

My dh would rather wank himself than have sex with me. He acts like sex is a chore and I'm the one doing all the work! He knows that I want sex more than he does but he doesn't know that I know he's wanking. He leaves behind evidence in the trashcan and he makes all the disgusting noises from the bathroom, I am home and he doesn't even consider me. We usually have sex twice per week and he wanks in between, it used to be more but now he likes to wank more, I'm so pissed and he blames me, he says he's either too tired or I wasn't nice enough to him that day and I know the real reason is because he did hisself and is no longer in the mood. WTF do you do with that? It's getting worse!

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crispyduck · 27/03/2007 21:28

and get a vibrator

crispyduck · 27/03/2007 21:28

moan as loud sa you can

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:28

Move into the spare bedroom and stay there with your lovely clean sheets whilst he lies in his own filth.

And take a piss in his bed just to make sure it stinks too!

I'm anti-men today.

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:33

OMG that is so funny, I even dreamed last night that I did because he disgusted me so bad! He sometimes would wait until I left the house and wank as soon as I left and ran to the grocery, then I would get home and there would be a wad of toilet paper in our bathroom that missed the trash!!!!!!! WTF, he waited till I left the house to run and do it real quick, what a freak!

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HoppyDaddy · 27/03/2007 21:34

Kick him in the cock.

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:35

And what did you do? Put it in the bin for him?

I'd have put it in his pocket for when he next needed to blow his nose - bless!

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:37

I should have put it in his pocket that is sooo funny, I sure needed a laugh because I am man hating today and feel like shit! Kicking him in the cock sounds good too.

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VoodooSpringChicken · 27/03/2007 21:37

lol at this thread!
def. get yourself a vibrator, and the playboy mag, why the hell not!!!!

HoppyDaddy · 27/03/2007 21:37

We're not joking.

Put it on his pillow.

HoppyDaddy · 27/03/2007 21:38

Moan his brother's name.

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:38

I guess I'm one of those people that don't like to ruffle feathers and it has gone to far and now I am at my breaking point, things have to change drastically!

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Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:38

Clingfilm round the toilet bowl for when he needs a piss.

Nikki76 · 27/03/2007 21:38

Rhubarb - pmsl at the tissue and bless comment!!

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:39

are guys really happy just doing that all the time? I don't understand. I'm afraid if I refrain then we will never have sex, he might just be too happy with the hand.

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Nikki76 · 27/03/2007 21:40

Do you really want to be with a bloke that is happier with his own hand???

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:40

Then you get out of the relationship and find yourself someone who is a little less selfish.

You are talking yourself out of this.

I don't understand you at all.

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:41

he has been so lazy for so long now, not initiating and no foreplay for me, it's like he's doing me a favor!

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moondog · 27/03/2007 21:42

Rhube am staggered at your response.
Tis no crime to have a wank.Let him be.

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:42

I don't need to be with someone who is so selfish. I deserve to be with someone who wished to fulfil my needs as well.

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Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:42

You've let him hun.

ladymadonna · 27/03/2007 21:43

You've got to talk to him about it. I had (or though I had) the same problem with my DP. It turned out he thought he was being considerate (?!). He thought that I wouldn't want to have sex with him as I had turned him down in the past/ have been ill recently. It's all sorted out now but only because I made him talk about what was going on!

Rhubarb · 27/03/2007 21:43

Moondog, read the whole thread sweetie. He doesn't have good sex with her, doesn't do foreplay, doesn't clean up after his wanks, doesn't talk about it.

This is not a thread about whether wanking is good or bad.

And I am having an anti-man day for which I refuse to apologise and which my own dh will pay for soon.

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:44

moondog, when wanking replaces sex, it's a problem, when it's just another thing he does to relieve his stress it's different, but it has become a problem because he does it and then just lays around the house the entire day after that and wont do anything and the next night if I want sex, he can't get it up, makes me wait another night, like I said, 48 hour recovery for whatever the fuck he does with it!

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moondog · 27/03/2007 21:44

I have read the thread!
Stil lthink you are a bit mean though.

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wishing1 · 27/03/2007 21:47

isn't it mean to turn down your dw and to not clean up after the mess, sometimes there is toilet paper stuck to the sink for god's sake!!!!!! and blaming me by saying he is just too tired or that I wasn't nice enough to him earlier so he is not in the mood, is his hand nicer, does it cook for him and clean the house and do the laundry and so on!!!!!!!!!

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