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Original poster

To get rid of my fwb of 4 years.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 05:58

You can judge if you like frankly I don't care. I've had a fwb for 4 years. He disappears for months then comes back. I know he's probly in a relationship somewhere but I'm single and frankly I don't give a stuff.

Any hoo. He blocked me on fb. First time ever. Kind of stumped me. So I go looking and it seems I'm also blocked on wattsapp. Cue psycho woman . I've blocked him on everything. Okay I feel crap now. We connected sexually but emotionally not so much. Maybe I just have to high a sex drive to care. But I would rather not be broken for a second time

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araiwa · 03/04/2017 06:01

get rid of him?

too late for that, hes already got rid of you

move on

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 06:02

Oh no he will be back. Always is. He has his moments that's for sure. I've just blocked him to avoid temptation.

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MrsTwix · 03/04/2017 06:04

He probably has a girlfriend and is trying to avoid temptation. Not a nice way to do it though.

Move on. Don't unblock him.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 03/04/2017 06:05

Well aren't you both a treat? Hmm

He's blocked you. Move on.

hesterton · 03/04/2017 06:07

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster
HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 06:18

Thing is I don't know if he is. If I did that would be the end of it. Hey ho. All sorted now. He's done me the favour.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 06:19

To be honest I'd have preferred him just to tell me. You know can't see you tonight I've got a girlfreind. That would have been a little less harsh as I've always expected it. But never mind.

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Paninotogo · 03/04/2017 06:25

Why do you claim not to care? You clearly do. Maybe you wanted more..?

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 03/04/2017 06:25

Thats not FWB. That's his booty call.or unpaid whore. Not judging, but semantically the "F" part seems to have been lacking even before he did this.

When it was going on, did you ever get to make the date, or was it always when it was convenient for him?

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 06:27

I made the call as well. I suppose I did want more . Back to the drawing board I suppose. Funnily enough I may have become an ice queen where emotions are concerned. I'll break sometime later today.

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Original poster
HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 06:28

I wanted more once. Oh well. Life can be crap sometimes.

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FritzDonovan · 03/04/2017 06:45

I wanted more once. Oh well.
Um, so why didn't you go looking for it with someone who treated you better than this arse then?

GeekyWombat · 03/04/2017 06:50

Sorry to hear you clearly hurting. You can do better, both in FWBs if that's what you want (this one doesn't seem very friendly) and more conventional relationships if that's what you're after.

Blocking him is definitely a good plan. Take comfort in telling him to knob off if / when he comes crawling back for more sex.

Flowers

Be gentle to yourself today OP.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 06:51

I've always been looking. Just never found anything. Sometimes life doesn't give you the cake you always want.

I'm a little hurt yes. But no more empty promises for me. I just attract idiots.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 06:52

Thano you geeky. Maybe I've been a pushover. But the sex was always good. My downfall I suppose.

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PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 03/04/2017 06:54

I'll break sometime later today

Treat yourself kindly. Have a really nice lunch, or buy yourself something pretty (sorry, sounds shallow, but you know what I mean!). Call up a good friend and have a great natter. Clear out a wardrobe. Plant some herbs.

But do resolve not to do men in monogamous relationships. Really not good for the soul, and you'll feel better about yourself if you support the sisterhood. Grin

Guitargirl · 03/04/2017 06:57

Keep him blocked OP. He doesn't treat you very well and this wouldn't be good for anyone's self-esteem. Try to put him out of your mind, as if he didn't exist.

zen1 · 03/04/2017 06:57

You deserve better. Be strong if/when he comes crawling back.

Rainydayspending · 03/04/2017 06:58

FWB. The first rule is to be able to let them go. You've both dented that with all this blocking. It is hard to maintain boundaries in that sort of relationship. It doesn't mean you'll attract more the same though.
Sorry you're upset. Shows he wasn't really a friend after all. That bit sucks a hell of a lot probably more than the end of a short fling. Flowers.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 06:58

I'll be on here for.support if he does. If I can be strong with my ex husband this one should be a since shouldnt it

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skerrywind · 03/04/2017 06:59

If you treat yourself like casual fuck material then that is how others will too.

contractor6 · 03/04/2017 07:00

Deleted his numbers and email too.
We all deserve better than being the ow, whether it is fwb or not.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 07:03

If you treat yourself like casual fuck material then that is how others will too

Wow

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MrsJamin · 03/04/2017 07:04

If you treat yourself like casual fuck material then that is how others will too.

^ this! You need to have respect for yourself before you expect others to respect you too.

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HowamIgoingtocope · 03/04/2017 07:08

That's me told then.

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