I am really upset and disgusted that he has done this. Our dc regularly play on his phone and I am blue in the face asking him to put some child controls on it as I want to make sure they are not seeing anything inappropriate . They do not use my phone at all. He uses his as a babysitter so he can have peace if he is meant to be looking after them.
Today I picked up his phone after my ds5 was playing minecraft in dhs phone as I have recently downloaded Norton Family which is safer to use and I wanted to install it on his phone. I click on safari, and there is a sex video from Vimeo, of a naked woman. I didn't click on the video but it's porn. I took it to dh and asked him what was it. After him taking the phone and huffing and puffing saying I don't know how it got there it must be a pop up etc, I went ballistic and crying and said I don't care if you are looking at porn, I just want to know if you put it there or has my son found it and looked at it? He lied for a bit and then admitted it was him , like I didn't know that. I have gone mad at him saying it was one click away. I literally clicked on safari and then there is was, legs spread.
I am so angry that he was just, yeah, it won't happen again etc. So apology or sorry, or feeling terrible what his young doc might have seen. I still don't know if they have seen it as I don't know what to ask them. What question do I ask?
He is now blaming it on me as we haven't had sex for a long time as we have gone through a very bad patch, our marriage is very difficult anyway, but where do I go from here. My ds gets into bed with him every morning (separate room due to snoring) and gets his phone. How do I know he won't have been looking at something and my 5 year old then sees it? I am really upset.