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Horrible tinder message

84 replies

polkadotrocks · 30/08/2016 22:37

Just opened a message on tinder:

'you have a good first pic, but you're really just a fat girl'

Sent a suitably scathing response but am kind of crushed.

I have lost 3 1/2 stone. Am now a size 14. I thought I looked ok now.

Waaaaahhh!

OP posts:
GloriaGaynor · 30/08/2016 22:39

I'm sure you look fine.

He's probably a fat bloke with a fake pic.

PepsiPenguin · 30/08/2016 22:40

And a small penis...

Georgeofthejungle · 30/08/2016 22:41

Knob! Ignore him. Probably someone you wouldn't go near with a barge poll anyway!

ImperialBlether · 30/08/2016 22:41

Why do people do such cruel things? So horrible.

Congratulations on losing weight, OP, and thank god you're not going out with that heartless bastard.

knaffedoff · 30/08/2016 22:42

Congratulations on losing 3 1/2 stone. I wouldn't bother replying again to the tinder message, some folks have nothing better to do with their time and are just not worth the effort x

FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty · 30/08/2016 22:42

Wow what a dick! Don't let him get under your skin - imagine what sort of a person he must be to want to say that to a stranger! Doesn't bear thinking about. FlowersCakeBrew

longtermsinglemummy · 30/08/2016 22:42

Some people are just utter tossers! I bet he was nothing special.

Well done for losing the weight, you must be so proud of yourself.

Original poster
polkadotrocks · 30/08/2016 22:43

But it's so mean!

I replied 'good first pic, but you're really just a moronic fuckwit'

Then blocked.

Then had a little cry while being self critical! Grin

I'll be fine. He's just horrid.

OP posts:
LineyReborn · 30/08/2016 22:43

You need to be analytical about this.

The sort of man who would go to the effort and mental energy of sending that message is massively damaged, hugely insecure, and dimmer than he cares to admit. You really are lucky to be out of his league.

Hassled · 30/08/2016 22:44

Well he's one less person you need to waste time considering. It's like some perverse natural selection - the wankers kill themselves off all on their own.

AWaspOnAWindowInAHeatwave · 30/08/2016 22:44

We need to know your response OP (and I can only hope it contained the word 'micropenis')...
Congratulations on your weight loss - i'm sure you look amazing - he sounds bitter because he knows you're out of his league.

AWaspOnAWindowInAHeatwave · 30/08/2016 22:45

Xpost, sorry.

FathomsDeep · 30/08/2016 22:45

What an absolute twat. Good response though OP.

He's a sad, inadequate little man. You're worth 10 of him OP. Chin up!

ohlittlepea · 30/08/2016 22:45

What a dick. Forget him.

TokenGinger · 30/08/2016 22:46

Pencil dick Pete. I hate these kind of nobheads.

MyCatIsSparticus · 30/08/2016 22:46

Micropenis for sure

iamapixiebutnotaniceone · 30/08/2016 22:47

Some people are vile! A bloke that my OH knew in school had his nasty Tinder messages go viral. Some of the things that he said were downright cruel!
Strangely enough, he is still single...

Good on you for your weight loss, don't give the poisenous little man another thought x

Original poster
polkadotrocks · 30/08/2016 22:49

Isn't it shallow though, the whole thing?

I feel like saying but I am warm and kind and funny, my kids and friends adore me. I cry at adverts and would do anything for anyone...I work hard, raise 3 kids and pay my mortgage and all my bills. I make time to run and go to the gym.

But I am 'JUST a fat girl'

It's the just that got me. No one is just anything. Bleurgh.

OP posts:
PepsiPenguin · 30/08/2016 22:56

The fact he doesn't want to get to know that your all those things surely should make you think "thank god for that"

He's a nasty vile person, sadly they exist look at the trolls on here at times.

That's what he is a troll, he proberly doesn't even think that about you he is just trolling around and making nasty comments to people in the hope he gets the response of "but I'm a nice person" so he can be more nasty stick and hurt you even more.

Forget him, your worth much much more

Montane50 · 30/08/2016 22:57

3 years ago a similar charmer messaged me to meet, i politely declined.
His response? 'Thats ok, i was just feeling sorry for you! You've got more chins than the chinese phone book' (i was size 10 at the time!)
My reply: 'And its now obvious why you're single'.
It still makes me chuckle Grin

PepsiPenguin · 30/08/2016 23:03

I just got a lot of cock photos, most of which weren't even that impressive.

whambamthankyoumaam · 30/08/2016 23:09

Some guys actually follow a game plan of insulting a girl they like because they believe that will make her try harder to win their affection and compliments.
Maybe he was trying to do that. Or maybe he's just an absolute moron.

Completely forget about him, he's not even worth your time! He probably insults every girl on there in the desperation of getting a response back from them!

CheckpointCharlie2 · 30/08/2016 23:09

I love lineys response so much. What she said.

Also (hug) for you, what a little cunt he is.

thingame · 30/08/2016 23:10

I never had a cock photo sadly in 6 months on Match. met plenty of knobs though....Grin

OLD is a knobs paradise

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 30/08/2016 23:12

Hey lovey, the man that posted this message to you - he hates women. All women. Women have to be an 'ideal' for him - he doesn't consider equal human beings - and he would probably be the sort that would find something to criticise about Rosie Huntingdon- Whiteley.

You don't want to be with someone like that, or take any notice. Congrats on your weight loss.

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