Horrible tinder message

[polkadotrocks]

Just opened a message on tinder:

'you have a good first pic, but you're really just a fat girl'

Sent a suitably scathing response but am kind of crushed.

I have lost 3 1/2 stone. Am now a size 14. I thought I looked ok now.

Waaaaahhh!

He’s a nobhead who has never had a girlfriend.

TL

He's got to be seriously inadequate to go to the trouble of messaging something designed to hurt - happy people just don't have the need to do that sort of thing. Don't let a complete stranger be your barometer of how you feel about yourself, you were happy with yourself, you've made positive changes - that's still all real, don't let this sad little man spoil that.

Ignore the dickhead.

You sound pretty great to me, OP. Where are you from?

I'd report him to tinder. What an asshole.

Yes sir, tell me exactly how you want me to be and I will mould myself to that.

Not!

Lucky escape!

He's a dickhead.
You get these people online everywhere - take no notice x

When I was about 18...many moons ago, a lad started chatting me up and I wasn't interested, so I got... 'I'm only chattin to yer cos me mate fancies yer friend, yer not even that pretty, yer just paint yer face well'
I was glad to be rid and have continued to paint my face well ever since
The world is full of prats OP always has been, always will be!! Just ignore the idiot and carry on being your fabulous self!!

What a horrible excuse for a human being. Reminds me of going on a first date with someone he was nice enough but just not for me. We only met for an hour and a cuppa. Next morning big text saying how he thought I seemed like a nice girl but that he was looking for someone slimmer. Horrible to do that to anyone what's wrong with sorry we didn't have a spark. Ignore him and well done on your weighloss

what a sad little man he probably thinks he's 'negging' you and you'll swoon with desire at his manly machoness

don't let a sad little tosser like Thai get to you OP - and check out r/creepypms on Reddit for some light relief - you're not alone, unfortunately!

Aww you guys! You've cheered me up!

Only been on 4 online dates so far, they all asked for second dates but I wasn't feeling it. But got on so well with two of them that we are meeting as friends, and all 4 have been lovely to me.

So, I do feel good about myself... Most people are lovely!

It was just a shock to open a first message off someone and read that!

Well, I wouldn't concern yourself further with it. Must be a bit boring living in his Mum's house at his age :)

You will be fine. He is horrid. I bet you're gorgeous and he was 'negging' you - look it up, it's what vile professional 'pick up artists' recommend men do. Insult women so they desperately try to prove them wrong. I bet he thought you'd reply saying 'excuse me?! Look at this pic - you think that's fat?' And bam - he's in.

But you're too smart and too good for him so it didn't work. Shame

Hes a prat Im a size 14 down from a 28. My attitude is...........fuck it. As ive got older ive got less and less time for people who are shits.

Its very liberating.

Better to be fat than to be cruel and an idiot.

What a wanker. If it is any consolation, I'm a man and I had far worse unsolicited messages from women - and not to do with my physical appearance - on Plentyoffish than that one you had, unpleasant as it undoubtedly was. It's not just Tinder and it's not just the men. I'm afraid anything internet based brings out the wankers who get a kick out of it. The only response is either ignore or a quick reply of similar ilk and then block.

Some people are just out to upset others. Pay absolutely no attention.

I don't doubt you do you look OK. No, scratch ok I don't doubt you're beautiful both inside and outside. Size 14 is an amazing size womanly curvy and healthy.
Easy for me say, but. Please do not let a stupid prick probably with a 4 inch dick and that's when erect break your confidence.
Count your Lucky stars. You dodged a bullet. God help the women who does get him.

Just know, with a sick attitude like that, he'll probably end up alone with no friends or partner. No one wants to be friends with someone like that.

Be happy in the knowledge that you have loving children, friends and family and that you're an all round better human being than he'll ever dream to be.

He has read crap like this:

www.seductionscience.com/2010/negging-women/

It NEVER worked with me, even when I was very young and probably a little insecure. Just got my hackles up straight away and made me think the guy was very unlikeable and not worth bothering with.

Eugh what a horrid person. Thank goodness that that's the only contact you ever have with him. You sound lovely and good luck with the dating...Enjoy!

And that's why pencil dick is single...

I'd be like "Yup, and???"

The asshole probably tells girls wearing size 6 that they're fat. Like the jerks in the DM comments that go on about how teeny tiny actressess and models have "packed on the pounds."

Absolute assholes who probably weight about 600lbs themselves and can't leave their mom's basements.

This guy is an inadequate cunt.

Anyone who picks on someone's size/physical shortcomings to put them down is a shit.

So I'm a bit surprised at the number of people who have decided that this twat has a small cock/micro-penis.

Oh well.

Helmetbymidnight Totally agree.

Anyway, the person might be a woman. Haven't they done some research that found out that many of these nasty people are actually women.
Either way, you just have to feel sorry for them having so little in their life that they resort to upsetting people.

I bet someone who was a size 10 would feel just as bad about it, as in my experience most women seem to think they're overweight for some strange reason. I think we all need to feel better about ourselves.

The criticisms levelled at me after weight loss came from women. Post weight loss ive not had one derogatory word from a man.