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Original poster

I'm so angry right now...

87 replies

Longdistance · 03/08/2016 22:24

So, no dd's, they've been palmed off this week to mil and step fil, oop Norf.9

We decide to have a date night, Dh and I. Great...

...well, no not really. All good so far, a few drinks and then on to a posh restaurant.

We had a starter which we shared, then mains, and then waited to see if we wanted pud.

We did, and had some cheese and crackers (not keen on puds anyway).

So, pud was all eaten, when twat Dh decided to pull a light fitting down from over our table...

.., The next bit involves me picking glass out of my hand, and getting First Aid, just because h wanted to pull down the lampshade 🙄

How would everyone feel about this
Twattery?

I'm so angry right now, I'm in the spare bedroom with a throbbing hand...

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Aworldofmyown · 03/08/2016 22:26

Did he really like the lampshade?

Dutchcourage · 03/08/2016 22:27

Grin sorry!

Yep he is a twat. I bet the restaurant owners think he is a twat. I bet the other diners think he is a twat.

But one day you will laugh at this!

Larrytheleprechaun · 03/08/2016 22:27

WHY did he want to pull down the lampshade?????

gamerchick · 03/08/2016 22:27

Why did he pull down the lampshade?Confused

SandyY2K · 03/08/2016 22:27

Surely it was an accident?

Stressedout1980 · 03/08/2016 22:28

In the restaurant? Was he drunk? How did he think that was appropriate even if he hadn't hurt you in the process?

LewisAndClark · 03/08/2016 22:29

Why did he do that?

NickiFury · 03/08/2016 22:30

I'm not seeing the issue here or the need to describe your date night in such detail, how is your preference for cheese and biscuits relevant? Are you pissed?

maldini · 03/08/2016 22:31

Was it one of those ones that move around like a desk lamp kind of? If so yabu, if not yanbu!

Floggingmolly · 03/08/2016 22:31

One day you will laugh at this??? Don't be bloody ridiculous, Dutch Hmm
Was he drunk, op?

Original poster
Longdistance · 03/08/2016 22:32

I have no idea why idiot wanted to pull the lampshade down. I'm baffled.

The bit I didn't like was picking the bit of glass out of my hand.

Just why the fuck do it?

They offered me a free glass of wine.

It was twats fault for pulling it.

I'm so fucking cross Angry

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Oddsocksgalore · 03/08/2016 22:33

Wtf flog, course they will laugh.

Oddsocksgalore · 03/08/2016 22:34

Calm down op, it sounds like an accident.

Floggingmolly · 03/08/2016 22:35

I wouldn't laugh at my DH acting like a dick in public; either at the time or later. If you would, go right ahead Hmm

wonderingsoul · 03/08/2016 22:35

Why are you cross.. it was a stupid thing to do yes.. but weve all done stupid things by accident.

Was he apolgetic and alarmed you hurt your self? If so i think you need to get over it and not let it ruin your night.

dudsville · 03/08/2016 22:36

I don't understand why you're cross. You feel what you feel but it's not a clear link for me. Sounds like you were having some sort of evening, you describe drinks and foods but not fun or love or romance. Then your oh does something seemingly inexplicably that led to a physical would for you. Do you go straight to anger when you're frightened or embarrassed perhaps?

NerrSnerr · 03/08/2016 22:36

I assume you both got ratted and it was a. Drunken accident. It's lucky you got free wine and he didn't have to pay for a new lampshade.

bakeoffcake · 03/08/2016 22:38

Did he apologise profusely and offer to do anything for you for the rest of his life?

If not, LTB.

fedupofficeworker · 03/08/2016 22:38

It sounds like a tipsy error of judgment.

I'd be cross, tell DP he was a bloody idiot, but by now I'd be laughing about it, inwardly at least. Don't let it spoil your evening!

Original poster
Longdistance · 03/08/2016 22:38

The cut on my hand.
Just from pure stupidity.
I'm embarrassed too as it was a very naice restaurant
This was supposed to be a much needed date night as we take dd's everywhere.

As for the menu choices I was setting a scene for everyone before I got flamed for any drip feeding of details.

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happypoobum · 03/08/2016 22:41

What a bizarre thing for him to have done!

I hope it heals quickly OP. Flowers

Floggingmolly · 03/08/2016 22:41

Why was he swinging out of the bloody lampshade in the first place?! shouldn't he have saved that for when you got home?

maldini · 03/08/2016 22:42

Was it just a normal lampshade? That doesn't really look like too much of an injury (sorry!) maybe just chalk it up to over excitement and get on with it

wonderingsoul · 03/08/2016 22:42

Op dont let it ruin your night.

Im sure he was just if not more embarrssed.

As for you... your not going to see them again so fuck what others thought.

If i was you id go hug dh tell him he was a plank and he owes you another date night of your choice. Then finish the night on a good note.. not on here moaning about it.

Original poster
Longdistance · 03/08/2016 22:45

It was very bizarre.

It stings right now, but there was no need to pull the light fitting.

It was a lovely evening til then.

just feel cross at his stupidity.

We like to have fun, and muck about, but this was a real wtf moment.

A glass wedge was in my hand, so no, I won't be laughing in a hurry.

There was no apology from him, there never is...

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