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Original poster

I'm so angry right now...

87 replies

Longdistance · 03/08/2016 22:24

So, no dd's, they've been palmed off this week to mil and step fil, oop Norf.9

We decide to have a date night, Dh and I. Great...

...well, no not really. All good so far, a few drinks and then on to a posh restaurant.

We had a starter which we shared, then mains, and then waited to see if we wanted pud.

We did, and had some cheese and crackers (not keen on puds anyway).

So, pud was all eaten, when twat Dh decided to pull a light fitting down from over our table...

.., The next bit involves me picking glass out of my hand, and getting First Aid, just because h wanted to pull down the lampshade 🙄

How would everyone feel about this
Twattery?

I'm so angry right now, I'm in the spare bedroom with a throbbing hand...

OP posts:
HermioneJeanGranger · 03/08/2016 22:46

Um, sounds like an accident to me?

I don't get why you're so angry with him. Confused

AtSea1979 · 03/08/2016 22:48

Looks like a scratch from that pic, I'm guessing it looks worse in RL. Also not sure why you aren't laughing it off? I'm guessing there's more to this?

CocktailQueen · 03/08/2016 22:49

??

Can barely see your cut, op.

Was it an accident by your op, or did he try to pull the light down??

Original poster
Longdistance · 03/08/2016 22:54

Yeah, it was hilarious picking glass out of my hand Confused

Can't think why I'm not laughing at all?

Was really hilarious when all the staff came over and to make sure I was ok, and offer me another drink.

I have no idea what possessed him to do such a stupid thing.

But, then it was the usual of ignoring me when I told him not to do it. Pretty much sums up my frustrations.

OP posts:
HeddaGarbled · 03/08/2016 22:54

That was a bit odd to go into all the details about sharing the starter, waiting to see whether you wanted pud, having pud and cheese and crackers. People will only accuse you of drip feeding if you leave out something relevant like he is always vandalising lamps or you were having a row or he is an antique expert with a special interest in lamps or something.

Did he have any explanation as to why he did it? Did he apologise? Does he have form for ruining pleasant evenings with bizarre behaviour?

Original poster
Longdistance · 03/08/2016 22:58

No explanation, or apology.

Gotta set a scene, so everyone gets an idea.

Probably won't bother next time, and then get accused of drip feeding.

Can't win on MN lately.

OP posts:
bakeoffcake · 03/08/2016 22:59

I think there's more to this than just him pulling down a lamp.

"There was no apology from him, there never is" Well he sounds like a prize cunt then! No wonder you're fuming.

gamerchick · 03/08/2016 23:00

It's pretty obvious that there is a backstory. Is this a last straw moment OP or pretty close to it?

bakeoffcake · 03/08/2016 23:00

I think you're getting a hard time OP.
Sorry you're having a shit night Flowers

exWifebeginsat40 · 03/08/2016 23:01

did he think it was one of those 70s pull-down ones?

FiveShelties · 03/08/2016 23:01

At least you got the cheese and biscuits, it could have been so much worse - he could have done it before you started the meal.

SirNiallDementia · 03/08/2016 23:02

I'm sure he never intended to cause you a minor injury. Shit happens. DP slammed the car door on my hand yesterday. I cried but no way would I be mad at him (as it was an accident and he apologised massively).

I think you're making a massive deal out of this TBH, do you have issues with your DH in general?

wonderingsoul · 03/08/2016 23:02

He didnt say sorry...

Theres more to it and maybe its the straw that broke the camala back?

HeddaGarbled · 03/08/2016 23:04

Ah, cross post.

"We like to have fun and muck about". There's the explanation. He was mucking about, probably going to point the light in your face and pretend to interrogate you or some other childish joke, and wasn't expecting it to break, showering you with glass.

There's having fun and there's stupidity. Do you think that you might be growing up a wee bit faster than he is?

SirNiallDementia · 03/08/2016 23:04

Oh, just seen your last post where he has form for not listening to you or appologising.

I can see why you are cross then. I'm sorry your night ended badly.

BurningBridges · 03/08/2016 23:04

ok so he has form? Do you want to share some other examples?

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 03/08/2016 23:06

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Summerwood1 · 03/08/2016 23:06

Oh dear,hope you're ok now.

MephistoMarley · 03/08/2016 23:07

So you told him not to and he ignored you as he usually does, then he caused a scene and hurt you and didn't apologise as he never does?
This isn't about a sore hand or ruined date is it Flowers

Alachia · 03/08/2016 23:09

How very strange, why on earth would he do such a thing? I hope your hand, and you, are ok now

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 03/08/2016 23:14

It feels like there's a big chunk of the story missing? What happened after the lampshade breaking? He must have apologised and helped you?
I don't understand how you can be beside yourself with rage over a small accident resulting in a minor injury?
There must be more to it? Confused

feralgoat · 03/08/2016 23:15

wtf

JudyCoolibar · 03/08/2016 23:17

Have you asked him what on earth he was thinking? What did he say?

Lorelei76 · 03/08/2016 23:21

I'm sorry you're injured and you've had a shock.
He should apologise, regardless of his reason for pulling it down...

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 03/08/2016 23:24

At least your hand is alright for typing, that's the main thing. I had to look quite hard, I was expecting to see it hanging by a tendon. Grin

An error of judgement on your husband's part but I think your anger is disproportionate. At least nobody's told you to LTB yet.

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