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Original poster

I'm so angry right now...

87 replies

Longdistance · 03/08/2016 22:24

So, no dd's, they've been palmed off this week to mil and step fil, oop Norf.9

We decide to have a date night, Dh and I. Great...

...well, no not really. All good so far, a few drinks and then on to a posh restaurant.

We had a starter which we shared, then mains, and then waited to see if we wanted pud.

We did, and had some cheese and crackers (not keen on puds anyway).

So, pud was all eaten, when twat Dh decided to pull a light fitting down from over our table...

.., The next bit involves me picking glass out of my hand, and getting First Aid, just because h wanted to pull down the lampshade 🙄

How would everyone feel about this
Twattery?

I'm so angry right now, I'm in the spare bedroom with a throbbing hand...

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 03/08/2016 23:26

My husband showered us with glass one Christmas when he smashed our overhead light whilst demonstrating how to use a lightsaber.

Queenbean · 03/08/2016 23:27

Sounds like it was an accident that spoilt an evening you were looking forward to

The cut isn't bad though, try not to ruin the evening all together

VioletBam · 03/08/2016 23:27

When you say "pull down a lamp" do you mean one of those that is on a stretchy lead so you can lower it?

Your cut is TINY.

And I had hearing "pud" and "Mains"

SO YABU

rollonthesummer · 03/08/2016 23:28

This is bizarre!

Did he pull it by accident? Did he think it was one of those ones that pulled down?

ohtheholidays · 03/08/2016 23:34

I'm Shock as much at the answers you've received OP as your idiot husbands actions!

What the hell was he thinking?I'd have been bloody furious with him and know I would never laugh about what he's done.

We've got 5DC if my DH did that I'd think I'd left the adult at home and bought one of the children out with me after feeding them nothing but sugar for a week.

Two of our DC are autistic and we'd be really shocked if they did that so God knows what was going through your husbands mind.

BlueFolly · 03/08/2016 23:36

Clearly this isn't an anomaly in an otherwise happy marriage?

GothyGeisha · 03/08/2016 23:44

You sound so thoroughly fed up?

Other stuff happened before?

Hope your hand is ok

ExitPursuedByABear · 03/08/2016 23:44

Sorry but can't see the injury on your hand. And how did him pulling the light down result in you apparently being injured?

LadyStoicIsBack · 03/08/2016 23:48

NickiFury

'I'm not seeing the issue here or the need to describe your date night in such detail, how is your preference for cheese and biscuits relevant? Are you pissed?'

Why so nasty? Genuine Q as struggling get head round why people invest time solely for point of being nasty/reductive/scathing Angry

GDarling · 03/08/2016 23:49

MEN!!
Can't do with them, can't do without.
Some never grow up.
Don't let him forget it, so next date night you can chose where you go😂😂👸🏼

RepentAtLeisure · 04/08/2016 00:06

Have the AIBU mob migrated over here?!

I'll never understand why people react to posts hysterically while telling the OP to stop being hysterical.

Pineapplechunkster · 04/08/2016 00:13

Its all a bit confusing! Did he have to stand on chair to reach lights? Did he want to take it home? Didnt he burn his hand? i have so many questions! Ps your hand doesnt look too bad OP Flowers

fastdaytears · 04/08/2016 00:18

I don't think it's mean to say this is all a bit confusing. Skipping the cheese info wouldn't have been drop feeding but leaving out the history of similar events is.

I can imagine being embarrassed if everyone looked over. The physical injury doesn't look like much though unless the picture is misleading.

maldini · 04/08/2016 09:27

Did he think it was a pull down lampshade?

heron98 · 04/08/2016 10:36

sounds like an accident to me. Jeez. Cut the guy some slack.

IrianOfW · 04/08/2016 15:32

Was it not an accident? A stupid and avoidable one yes, but still an accident. Are you angry because he embarrassed you? I can see it would be embarrassing and a bit silly but perhaps you could just let it go? Perhaps he didn';t apologise because he was a bit embarrassed himself and then you started ranting at him.

coldcanary · 04/08/2016 15:36

Not sure why you're getting so much flack, sounds very much like he purposely acted like a dick, caused an avoidable injury to you and won't apologise.
Most people would be mortified that their OH's ended up picking glass out of their hand due to their stupidity.
Is he one of those people who thinks they're all zany and spontaneous?

RepentAtLeisure · 04/08/2016 16:15

Why do people keep saying it sounds like an accident? Of course it was an accident, but a very avoidable one caused because her DH deliberately decided to mess around with the restaurant lighting. It's really not something you'd expect an adult to do. A fidgety child maybe.

Original poster
Longdistance · 04/08/2016 17:02

It's been stinging all day, which doesn't help when I've been typing most of the day.

It's just a list of long ignorance on his part for me telling him not to do something.

Like today, he's going to the bank with two forms of ID as he's been targeted by someone who's applied for 7 different accounts and a store card in his name. He's taken his passport, and another country we lived ins drivers licence with old address on it. I told him it wasn't right. You'd think as I work in finance and do ID checks.

I also suggested he get an Experian type credit report. No, what does he want one of those for... He talks to someone from one of the banks who suggested what I said, and now he's gone and got it.

bangs head on desk

The light was hanging from the ceiling and it was pinned there. He works in the building trade and was being a smart arse dickhead you can clearly see it's not for pulling.

Yes, I am mortified at him doing it. We went there as its in the small town I work in. Everyone knows everyone. It's completely Blush

I'm so angry right now...
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Original poster
Longdistance · 04/08/2016 17:04

Btw he's 44, not 4 🙄

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feralgoat · 04/08/2016 17:26

OMG do you think they'll be able to save the hand?! What did A&E say?

OnionKnight · 04/08/2016 17:28

You seem very angry OP, if it was me I'd have called him a twat and left it at that.

The cut on your hand looks more like a scratch to me.

cansu · 04/08/2016 17:28

I feel you pain OP. When we go out I often spend my time wondering why I bothered as my partner pisses about whining, making a fuss about bullshit. That is exactly the sort of crap thing he would do. I also advise him what to do and he refuses to listen with predictable results.

Original poster
Longdistance · 04/08/2016 17:34

No. They're gonna chop my hand off so I won't be able to whinge anymore.

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SandyY2K · 04/08/2016 18:05

Does he generally do stupid stuff like this?

I can't understand why he thinks it's acceptable not to apologise to you though. That would really piss me off.