Over-reaction to DH?

[CheekyMaleekey]

Last night, DH and I were having playful banter in bed. Nothing sexy, just messing around.

He then got in top of me and started pressing his erect penis against the outside of my vulva, groin area. I said, in a cheery way, that I didn't want to have sex. He persisted anyway, I repeated "No" a few times. He then tried to push it inside me and I said, very forcefully, "I said 'No'!" He then rolled off and said I wasn't a real wife, was crap, and "Who doesn't want to have sex?!"

I was furious. I felt totally disrespected. It isn't the first time he's done this.

He's still in a bad mood about my "over-reaction".

Not an AIBU, but am I over-reacting by feeling that he must have no respect for me?

Sorry, I meant to say that because I told him that I felt totally hurt disrespected, over-reacting apparently.

God not at all an over reaction. He did not respect your wishes. I am so sorry this happened to you.

Not overreacting at all. That might have been attempted rape.

He's a dick.

Horrible bloke. And he's done it before? And then sulks?

You don't have to stay with him, you know.

He said it was just a joke and I have no sense of humour. I said I felt as though he'd tried to assault me and he just shouted something. Can't remember what, but it was insulting.

If you don't consent to sex it's rape. You are not over reacting about his behaviour.

It didn't take much effort to get him off me, but he was verbally vicious afterwards. I just feel used. Really not respected. Not an equal partner.

Thanks for your replies. It's good to know I'm not crazy.

It is him. Not you. Please don't feel you have to put up with this.

Does he act like a twat generally?

You haven't overreacted.You've done nothing wrong.
He doesn't sound very understanding at all.
He shouldn't make you feel bad about turning him away.

You have it right and he has it wrong.

What is your next move ?

Unfortunately he is a selfish, inconsiderate, sulky sod for a lot of the time, yes.

You are still with him, why ?

Well, if you were having playful banter in bed, I am assuming by this, that you mean play fighting, which I could imagine he thought was going to lead to sex (it would with us).

It sounds like he assumed that, but you didn't.

He didn't persist and enter you, so it's not rape.

If play fighting in the past has led to this outcome, why are you repeating it?

But I hope you know, that over the next few hours, you will be told that he is abusive, he is a rapist and you will be much pressed to LTB, call Women's aid, and to get him arrested for rape.

This is how these threads always go.

Only you know how it really went down. If you don't like his behaviour, you can leave him.

Yes, why? He's a twat.

Have you got children?
If I did I might try and sort this out,if not ,time to go

Same old story - children and finances. I'm ashamed of my lack of backbone. I wish I could just leave. I'd hate for my daughter to end up with someone who does this to them, and I'll try my hardest to make sure my son isn't like him and respects women.

No, it was just chat not physical at all. I was surprised he had an erection, as we weren't being sexy, just joking around.

Blonde here you are again excusing dodgy sexual behaviour

It's OP's fault is it ? She is in a relationship with him and within reaching distance but didn't put out, so what's a man to do ?

I worry about you

Cheeky, your wishes for your dc are admirable but are you really sure that you staying with this man is the best course of action to realise them ?

He's called me a "Broken wife" for not wanting sex many times. We have sex about once a week, which I know isn't loads, but it's hardly "broken", is it?

Hmm. That's a bit different to the scene I was imagining then.

Op, once a week is absolutely fine. It's more than most, I would think.

"Broken wife" ? Really? What a dickwad.