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[jesy]

Can I start us ???'

Does he make you happy ? do you think if he got diagnosed and treatment for bi polar it could make a difference ? You obviously get on very well.

Thanks for the welcome all. The lying on profiles thing really is so disappointing when someone has otherwise come across very well.

Bant If only life were so simple! Can you really buy a 'wand' in Boots?

Blossom A diagnosis and treatment/therapy could help if your ex would be open to the idea? It depends on what the issues were/are and whether he is aware that he might have BPD. Most people only see/saw one side of the relationship.

dipp When we are to yes he makes me happy and I him, we enjoy each others company as I say we just sit for hours and talk. Yes he has admitted his MH issues, on AD's but he does not manage it well and refuses to go to counselling which he needs. As I say he is having high atm, it does make me laugh the crazy things he does and says and don't mean to sound cruel but is my way of dealing with it. What I can't cope with his running back to his little flat every night.

On the dating front ( just to keep me sane) have bitten the bullet and messaged this very interesting person who I thought looked to good for me, he has replied immediately and wants to chat, Well let's see. A good distraction

Bant

Wish that was the answer.
He just texted saying best not send a card I've basically said tough I'll send one , your not dumping two female school mates are you.
His answer no why , then why me lol

Turned my fone off now

excellent blossom .. fingers crossed

doc I had one guy say he was 35... turned up he must have been 50, he has since changed age to 45 . Another guy said he was 5 ft 9 .... I'd say he was 5 ft 5.... not for me I'm 5 ft 9 in my flats ... another guy turned out to be married why lie ? I have no idea why they do it... It gets found out

Dipp Thanks. As you know I have been ranting about lies all week, I think people get lost in the their own little fantasy's. As you say what is the point though as if you do meet all will be revealed, I know it is not just men, woman do it too.

Dippin

My age isn't right mainly as initially I didn't set up profile. But I tell people that.
Plus home town is just outside of where I stated as after I chatted to some one local and we got on brilliant and I really liked but he got creepy ( think it's me lol ) saying you looked nice walking the dog today .
And this was before Wed met.

I keep being told it a numbers game but sometimes numbers need help I'm not condoning it as well age maybe in a away I told some one my true age but wouldn't believe me Lol

But it would no good me telling someone I'm 5ft10 leggy blond with size 8 body and 32f boobs and then they meet lol

Jesy of course it's a numbers game, some people manage to click with the first person like me. Others, like me, take ages and meet lots of lovely people.. but we never seem to be quite right for each other!

The biggest lie to watch out for on lesbian OLD is... the creep MAN pretending to be a woman!

Can I just point out that saying you're a 5'10 blond would put me off anyway, and would put lots of men off - apart from those with some fantasy. Most men want a woman who is a bit shorter than them. In the same way most women want a man who is a bit taller. Also, personally I don't like size f boobs.
The only men who have a fixed idea of physical perfection are ones who aren't interested in you as a person anyway.

I generally don't message anyone over 5'9. Most men would be happy with a woman over 4'10

Ewwwe doc now that's wrong x

doc bloody freaks that would really annoy me yuk!, do they have fake photos then . Funnily enough have seen several woman viewing my profile on POF lately.

Interesting to have a lesbian pov on here, welcome Doc

I'm really shocked that women send those kinds of pics! I'm no prude, believe me, but blimey. I thought it was a man thing.

Bant

I'd never say it I'm only 2 out of the four mentioned lol
I know what ppl mean about height I like taller men although I've read some where tall men cheat lol

Blossom sometimes they have pretend pics.. usually photo shopped ones of models. Other times no picture (I do chat to people without a picture if it says they're a teacher or something where it's understandable).. a couple of times I've even received a cock shot! Cos obviously I had never seen a penis before, and the sight of one was bound to 'turn' me! Surely your profile shouldn't be visible to women on POF? The idea that I might be viewing profiles of straight women is kind of annoying! Mine was viewed by a couple of men a few days ago, maybe POF had a temporary glitch?

Hi Dolly I guess those ones could be men too? But yeah, I think there are some women out there who do start a conversation with pictures. At one time there was an apparent mother and daughter on one site, who shared a profile. How weird is that!? I got separate messages from the mother and the daughter, both with pictures attached.

Jesy I wonder what the scientific basis of that assertion was? Whoever said that was 'tallist'!!

doc I would never talk to anyone without a photo but that id me. Oh some people are so sad. Yes it is weird re POF there are several woman popping up so not sure what is going on there.

Conversation with lets call him MR Music, not turned into a perv yet. lol

Fingers crossed for Mr Music, Blossom

Ok, I'm going to call my main interest at the minute Ms Accent.. we have spoken on the phone, she is really lovely. But a couple of times over the two months or so we've been chatting, she has disappeared for a week or me. She seems keen to meet so I'm hoping we'll hit it off.

I am also chatting to a Ms Plod who is not so chatty, always very short texts, so seems harder to get to know.

Last night I received a message from a Ms Doolittle, she asked lots of questions about my pets and mentioned one of my favourite restaurants so worth getting to know.

I really need to preview my posts! A week or more, that should say.

Doc

No idea but I'm convinced I'm tallist lol

Looks like my hot chocolate date is going ahead lol

Chatting to a guy on dating site, after Mr Young I'm not sure I'm that enthusiastic.
Think my judgement regarding men Is off right now. Think I will spend weekend with family.
Blossom I see my ex sometimes up to 3 times a week. He's got depression that made it hard to work out relationship problems. Its sad when you could be good friends with ex but not have a fully functioning relationship. I have had to become more distant and put up boundaries, its hard because we have so much in common and DC but we cant the loving relationship we had in the beginning. I would be lying I I said I was 100% happy to of ended relationship. Think Mr Young was for a distraction and sex but not a healthy relationship.
I miss cuddles and being with a man but I need to look for the right fit. Not a ok for now relationship.
OLD can suck.

Sorry for poor grammar.

Doc sounds promising, I always tend to me meet people quite quickly for reasons we were taking about earlier as reality often very different to the on line world

Welcome *Doc Very creepy to hear men pretending to be women but not surprising. I have had women and couples send me messages on POF and often think its some freak pretending for kicks.

gotta I think we are in a very similar place. I miss being a couple so much. Don't get me wrong I have always been independent. I think most people have no idea we are not a couple, it is most strange. I have had several sexual relationships this year which was great for my confidence but when I think about an emotional relationship I feel guilty somehow. Mad isn't?

Blossom I usually like to meet fairly quickly too, but this one is quite long distance so no chance of a quick coffee and we both have a lot on at the minute.

Hi Gotta Yes, lots of 'couples' looking for threesomes, bi women looking for sex while partner watches, bi curious wanting to 'try it'. I doubt they're all men, I'm sure there are plenty of creepy women out there too. Don't you just love OLD!