new boyfriend constantly telling sexist jokes.. should I end it or am I over sensitive??!!

[misssounsure]

I've been seeing a lovely man for a few months and he is great in every way except one... he makes some sexist jokes. They are just jokes and initially I laughed as I didn't want to come across as having no sense of humour or being over sensitive! His father is also like it... cracking sexist jokes all the time and jokingly saying his wife cant do x, y, z etc because she is a woman... its constant joking sexism with his family.

The other day my boyfriend started telling me how he and a colleague told a female colleague they could tell she was on her period. He was laughing hysterically as he told me this and told me she got very embarrassed. I've been thinking this over and over and I dont think its acceptable. Q. is would this be enough to end the relationship for you? He is amazing in all other ways but for these stupid jokes and comments

His friends are also like it too!! Last month we went on a weekend away with his friend and his friend's wife. His friend CONSTANTLY leered at the air hostesses saying "phhwwoooor look at that" (this was a 3pm flight with families, kids about... not a night club environment!

My boyfriend is 33 years old by the way. Would you get rid now???? He is great in all other ways!!

If he is looking at her with sexual interest, then it's disrespectful to both of you.

The first thing is to stop laughing at the jokes. In a way, you're miscommunicating. He doesn't realise that you don't like it. Perhaps you're not really right for each other.

He sounds dreadful and, on some level, it sounds like he despises women.

I don't mind the odd thing about men not seeing chores that need to be done. But this period thing with a colleague would be a red flag. Very immature and silly. I couldn't put up with that. I would just finish and not give a reason. Just say you're not suited.

I used to be a waitress. I hated the smarmy flirters much more than the openly hostile ones. They made you feel uncomfortable and dirty but not in a way you could complain about and they knew it. It's a nasty way to control people.

Let me come at it from another angle, miss. Right now, you're being 'admitted into the club' because you're 'special and not like the others'. Sadly, that can make some women feel good. They won the competition.

But it doesn't last because he's showing you how he basically views women and he'll give up trying with you, eventually.

How would you feel if he started telling that sort of joke to his mates about you? Because that's how it will end up.

Get rid now.

Sexist jokes, sexist friends & family, leering at waitresses, bullying colleagues: He's telling you who he is.

How did you react when he told the story about the colleague? Because I'd have been and and shown it.

He sounds a right plonker.

Hes acting like an immature, leery twat. I don't expect he'll change if he surrounds himself with like minded individuals.

OP - he's not a "lovely"man. Lovely men don't continually make sexist jokes. You know what you should do.

I should have seen a huge red flags when I started dating STXEH and he was always making fun/undermining and being downright rude and disrepectful to his Mum - yep he eventually started doing it to me.

He sounds pathetic. Dump.

He sounds like a cock. Get rid.

So he and his male colleagues called their female work colleague out on her terrible bleeding vagina? If a man did that where I work it would be a sackable offence.

I'd lay money on the fact that if you've slept with him, his friends have been treated to an in-depth run down on the state of your nethers as well. Judge a person by the company they keep and the way they treat people who aren't in a position to answer back.

Run. Like. The. Wind.

OP, you sound nice, and he sounds like an irredeemable twunt. Please ditch him, put it down to experience and find someone worthy of your respect - I wouldn't think twice about it.

Right, time to ditch him me thinks!! Thank you all so much for making me see sense!! :-) xx

Tell him it's because he's just not strong & manly enough for you

Oh I think you'd already seen it, eh ? Just needed to talk about it.

You were already feeling uncomfortable and questioning it. Cherish that instinct!

Well done missso.

Hello I am late to this as usual!!! But yes I would ditch. I had an excessively right wing boyfriend at one stage and he was the same, making crap comments, being an embarrassment, it drove me mental.

Just one thing tho, do you think you might be able to tell him squarely what you think bout the sexism on your way out of the door? Say for example, would he make racist jokes in mixed company and expect everyone to laugh at the black people, including themselves? I told a man I was leaving him partly because he was sexist. I said I had told him and to,d him I didn't like it, and he carried on, and well, now I was leaving him, I think the more we do this as women the more men will learn that women won't put up with it anymore.

Good luck x better luck next time as well!

Only read the OP. Yes, I would end it. He is very disrespectful. Humiliating others for entertainment...you know if you stay with him you will be his favorite subject to degrade and I would predict that nothing would be kept private.

Really? surely you know the answer op?

no portofino because I've just told you the negatives about him. In all other ways he is amazing... a long long list of fantastic qualities. On the list for negatives this is the only one thing! So I didnt want to just write him off with no consideration on the matter

So if he so lovely, why are you even asking?