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Waves is winning.....Here comes the Acrobat!

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wavesandsmiles · 13/07/2013 06:31

Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

Will this become the live birth thread? Will Lodger 1 leave? Will waves be smiling throughout this thread?

Doula is on call, bags are packed, acrobat was a teeny 14 weeks foetus when I started posting - he is about to become DC3, I'll stop being sick and a whole new chapter will begin.

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CounselorTroi · 14/07/2013 22:22

another thinking don't have him there. I'd would be ALL about him, the knobhead, and worse he'd probably drag along the two not so pleasant kids. So no. It's all about waves and acrobat right now.

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CounselorTroi · 14/07/2013 22:22

DHtotalnob best name ever lol

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Orianne · 14/07/2013 22:38

Go on Waves, you can do this.

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babyhmummy01 · 14/07/2013 22:42

think he made your decision for you huni! ignore the twunt and just tell him when acrobat arrives.

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springytato · 14/07/2013 22:48

oh yes, he'd put on a great show of being the most adorable husband and father - also devilishly attractive to the nurses (t-shirt! ex-rodent stretched out on ds's bed, sighed, and joked with the nurses when ds was taken down for heart surgery.) They're all the same! don't think he will be bashful or human about it - he is inhuman.

thinking of you darling woman. Just think, you'll have the double joy of acrobat in your arms and the HG gone! Couldn't get better than that! Smile Smile

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eagerbeagle · 14/07/2013 23:01

Delurking too to say you are amazing and inspiring and sending you a hand squeeze.

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BerylStreep · 14/07/2013 23:41

Night waves. Hoping you have a peaceful and painless night.

Another one hoping that your calm isn't shattered by twunt. I wonder if there isn't a large part of you that still hopes that he cares about you, and when he makes it clear he doesn't care, it hurts as deeply as it first did. Totally understandable, but that hope is what makes you so vulnerable to him hurting you again and again.

Anyhow, now is the time to focus on the imminent arrival of Acrobat. You know when you are sitting under that tree in York? Look around you, and you will see the assembled strength and love of MNers in the background. X

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Allalonenow · 15/07/2013 00:11

Hope you get some peace and rest tonight waves.

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tightfortime · 15/07/2013 00:22

Delurking after a few posts, but plenty of following, to wish you a speedy and safe delivery.

Generations of men have bonded with babies having not been there at the birth. You do it YOUR WAY. Fuck him.

You have been dignified, amazing and a superstar throughout. I predict a lot more laughing soon for those lovely DCs of yours. And you.

The viper aunts are all waving pom poms and excited to hear you news.

Loads and loads of vomit-free hugs x

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 15/07/2013 00:49

Hope you'll be back to laughing again waves on a regular basis. Your DCs are great and soon they'll have a new playmate. Take it easy you have nearly completed 9 months and it's been far from ideal but you have coped fantastically. Tons of positive vibes flying your way from every MN friend and well-wisher.

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Mixxy · 15/07/2013 02:26

delurks I have a feeling Acrobat will be here soon too. Wishing you a pain and care free delivery, waves.

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Guerrillacrochet · 15/07/2013 05:41

from IAmNotAMindReader Unfortunately waves Twunt will make every situation he is involved in about him.
^This
Waves I'm delurking on this thread to say how brilliantly you're handling everything. I really hope the birth goes well.

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Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 15/07/2013 06:02

Hi Waves! I have to come and register on your new thread, because it sounds like it's basically an extended live birth thread by now. How exciting! Just think, you are days at MOST from the end of this awful horrible vomiting. Oh, yeah, and there'll be a freshly baked new baby too.

Cheering you on from the other side of the world, girl.

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ClairesTravellingCircus · 15/07/2013 07:57

Hello waves, hope things are progressing nicely and you're having the calm labour, calm birth you wanted. Thinking of you and AcrobatThanks

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MissStrawberry · 15/07/2013 08:08

Morning Waves

Hope you slept well and when you wake you had Baby Acrobat feeding contentedly WinkGrin.

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MissStrawberry · 15/07/2013 08:08

woke, not wake.

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Listmaker · 15/07/2013 08:23

De-lurking again to say you're still being amazing! Hope you managed some sleep and hope the birth goes well when it happens. Hope you are laughing lots more soon I really do.

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wavesandsmiles · 15/07/2013 08:26

Well nothing happened but woken again to contractions. This could be the longest latent phase ever (or a uti)

My doula warned me this was likely because of the emotional stress. And beryl you have hit the nail on the head with respect to my still having hope that twunt would actually care about me. His letter said he did. I also cried a bit when i read your words about my tree in York.

I promise that all of you wonderful, wonderful people will be there. When I look up from my book I will see people walking by, smiling, and maybe giving a quiet wave, to wish me well with the final stages of my journey to meeting Acrobat.

I am so grateful for all of the support you have all been giving me. Off to hospital soon for regular appointment but will speak to them about the pain and contractions and see if anyone can work out what is going on.

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Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 15/07/2013 08:28

A friend of mine recently had a labour like this with her third,waves, with about ten days of prodomal labour. And then the active stage was about three hours start to finish - home birth, 10.5 lb baby, no tearing. Your body is doing some incredibly important work right now, it knows its stuff and all of these contractions are paving the way.

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Alwayscheerful · 15/07/2013 08:29

De lurking to wish you and baby waves well.

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AndMiffyWentToSleep · 15/07/2013 08:48

Hoping this doesn't go on for 10 days, waves!
Oh and if you look up from your book and see someone with a yellow balloon waving at you, that's me!
Grin

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springytato · 15/07/2013 09:08

What tortoise said is so true - your body is paving the way. In a way I am relieved you were able to sleep last night - your body getting some strength.

thinking of you dear waves and cheering you on xxx

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Cluffyflump · 15/07/2013 09:19

Good luck waves Thanks

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themidwife · 15/07/2013 09:20

Hope it goes ok, take an MSU & mention the kidney area pain honey.

Of course you wish he cared - he promised the world & then cruelly took it away (blaming you in the process!) You are in a vulnerable position needing care & loving support. I'm glad we help a bit.

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MinnieBar · 15/07/2013 09:49
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