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Waves is winning.....Here comes the Acrobat!

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wavesandsmiles · 13/07/2013 06:31

Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

Will this become the live birth thread? Will Lodger 1 leave? Will waves be smiling throughout this thread?

Doula is on call, bags are packed, acrobat was a teeny 14 weeks foetus when I started posting - he is about to become DC3, I'll stop being sick and a whole new chapter will begin.

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MrsTomHardy · 13/07/2013 12:48

I've read all your previous threads OP.

Good luck....Wink

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pointythings · 13/07/2013 13:10

Yay!

Go, waves!

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FrequentFlyerRandomDent · 13/07/2013 13:11

Good luck. I do hope L1 is out for good.

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GoodtoBetter · 13/07/2013 14:13

Hoping wanky lodger has indeed fucked off :)

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 13/07/2013 15:02

Hope l1 has gone. I'm hot! Waves. You have come on leaps and bounds. So proud of you

I think acrobat will be here in next couple of weeks and I can't wait to see him. I reckon he'll be the most famous MN baby and loved by all his MN Aunts.

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SpecialAgentTattooedQueen · 13/07/2013 15:03

Whenever I see L1 I read as 'IT' without my glasses.

Much more deserving name IMO.

Nod

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AppleCrumples · 13/07/2013 15:19

waves just de-lurking to say i have followed your story from the hg pages and you are an inspiration!

I think of you often and find myself checking to see if acrobat is here and you have reached the pink castle.

Good luck Flowers

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wavesandsmiles · 13/07/2013 15:40

Oh, it's lovely to see lurkers de-lurking and wishing me and my family well Smile

Pleased to announce that WANKY LODGER HAS LEFT. Room is spotless, so at least he had the grace to do that (I think mainly he just wanted his deposit back in full). My home already feels so much better and relaxed. I can breathe again.

We had a ridiculously busy day - after a bite to eat for the DCs at the festival, we decided to go to a nearby beach for a bit so they explored rock pools and had a swim in the sea. I just wandered about relaxing through the contractions. Then we did our instrument collection, drove home (I had to pull over a few times on account of the contractions), unloaded, and I got a load of washing on, checked L1's room, then headed here to give you an update.

About to crash out in bed with DD who is a bit poorly still really.

My doula does think that acrobat will be here in the next few days. I hope so, because having contractions AND vomiting is really not fun. Plus our cooling breeze has disappeared so now it is just super hot here.

She has taken twunt's number, as, following a long conversation with her yesterday, I pretty much reached the conclusion that I may want him there right at the end of giving birth, and it is better that she has the number to contact him with rather than me getting upset in the throes of 10 cm dilation and crowning etc (scaring myself again now....).

Anyway, crash out time for me. L1 has gone, and I want to do a happy dance, but it may bring on acrobat's arrival/cause me to fall over/set off another bout of vomiting. Oh - anyone who ever has full term hyperemesis like me, AVOID the birth ball. Bouncing on it is just about the worst possible activity as the bounciness sets off the vomiting almost instantly (as I discovered when I tried, and subsequently had to clean the thankfully non-carpeted floor of DD's bedroom Blush)

Ouch. Must think about golden light, and my tree outside york minster, and breathing away the tension and stress of the past months.

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shiningcadence · 13/07/2013 15:58

Not long now waves until you'll be free of pain of sickness. And I will do a happy dance on your behalf

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shiningcadence · 13/07/2013 15:58

Pain and sickness

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wavesandsmiles · 13/07/2013 16:21

In terms of twunt, I think it is more me wanting to give him the opportunity to be there? I am pretty sure that I will be ok by myself with my lovely lovely doula, just would feel terrible potentially if I hadn't given twunt the opportunity to be there for the birth of his son....

DD is sound asleep, lucky girl! Hoping to follow her soon, just need a nap. Have taken a couple of paracetamol and lain down immediately in the hope I keep them down.

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JaxTellerIsAllMine · 13/07/2013 17:17

Twunt doesn't deserve anything from you.

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HumphreyCobbler · 13/07/2013 17:19

Oh best of luck waves. I have thought of you often since we were on the HG thread.

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babyhmummy01 · 13/07/2013 17:50

Whoop waves u could be third august baby

Glad lodger has buffered off and I think giving the twunt the option to be there us a huge thing. Just be sure u can take the emotional side of that sweetie.

Good luck and keep posting and pls tell me how u do it, I am desperate for mine to show up.

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wavesandsmiles · 13/07/2013 17:51

jax I know he doesn't deserve anything from me, and it is really a just in case thing. I may or may not feel able to share my experience, but it is leaving the option there. I don't want spite or anger to overshadow the experience, so need to keep the option so I don't suffer any regret.

Hi humphrey thanks for saying hello. How are you doing?

I have an ice cream box clean and ready for the placenta, snacks of nuts in case I'm able to eat a little, and figured out how to put some music on my phone so feeling a bit more settled in terms of being prepared now.

And the house feels like home again, almost instantaneous relief now that L1 has gone. It is wonderful.

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ArcticBlast · 13/07/2013 18:15

delurking to wish you the very best in your brand new chapter of life Waves Thanks Thanks

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ManAliveThisThingsFantastic · 13/07/2013 18:22

Another de-lurker!

You've done...amazing waves. Your kids are so so lucky to have you as their mum and hope the next lucky one arrives as smoothly as possible for you!

Flowers

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MissStrawberry · 13/07/2013 18:23

Good luck waves.

I take my hat off to you. You are amazing and an inspiration.

And a bloody Angel for even considering allowing Twunt there when you have your baby.

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HumphreyCobbler · 13/07/2013 18:50

I am doing really well thank you! I was incredibly lucky in that my sickness stopped.

Glad to hear you are all set. Wow. You are nearly there Smile

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Jux · 13/07/2013 21:00

Next couple of days!!! Wow, Waves, good luck!

(Twunt has had two boys already hasn't he?)

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MushroomSoup · 13/07/2013 21:06

Another delurker! I've followed you forever and am so excited for you, getting ready to start this new chapter of your life. And I think that you are right to be thinking about the possibility of calling on the fucking wankery cuntbag the Twunt at the birth: I understand where you are coming from. It changes nothing but means that you cannot be seen as unreasonable right from the start.

Of course that doesn't mean he deserves SHOULD be there, only that IMO you are right to CONSIDER it.

God speed to acrobat! Have you his name ready?

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wavesandsmiles · 13/07/2013 21:06

Less frequent pains now... Using the opportunity to have a rest. Twunt had 3 sons, his first was still born Sad.

I'm so so tired, and really hoping I get some sleep. Meant to be playing tomorrow, but if things don't ease up completely I am cancelling as I don't think I need to be quite so determinedly stubborn to carry on til acrobat is crowning!

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ChasedByBees · 13/07/2013 21:25

So glad your trainee twunt left!

I'm another one that thinks fully trained twunt doesn't deserve how kind you are to him. I don't think excluding him would be an act of spite and anger, he has removed himself from this situation. The birth is about you getting acrobat out safely. I hope the option is enough to make you feel more comfortable but please don't feel you would be mean if you choose not to contact him. It would not be mean at all.

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EccentricElastic · 13/07/2013 21:28

waves I've just spent the last couple of hours reading your previous threads to this one, and I've de-lurked as I simply want to wish you a wonderful life with all your wonderful DC's, however you choose to live it.

Your strength of mind and spirit is awesome, and I'm sure will carry you
to wherever you wish to go.

You are an inspiring woman.


Sending you peace and tranquility. Flowers

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thegreylady · 13/07/2013 21:41

Way to go waves-another delurker here wishing you waves of peace and joy with your lovely children Flowers

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