Busy thread today. Will take the thread wisdom and join POF.
Snape if something 'bad' happens to me on waking, bad dream, or something that makes me jump, or kids fighting etc it always makes me feel much worse than if it happened during the day. So I totally get how waking on your own could give you a big case of the wibbles.
I'm right there with Kin, Velvet and others with the whole dream future business. It's just the way I've always been. In theory I love the idea of a FWB, but I know the reality would involve me staring moonily out of the window, picturing my second wedding.
Bant, anyone who regularly and bitterly whines about any previous relationship excessively, be that a partner, friend or relative is a red flag to me. As others have said, there is a time and a place for a good ole whinge, but not if it's the overriding theme.