Last train to Loserville Part 2

[LoserNoMore]

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

LNM you are doing amazing.

I am 6 months on from a very similar situation and I am generally so much happier without the lying cheating knob jockey, and I know he did me a huge favour by leaving me for the OW.

I have 2 DD's and we have great fun together. PM me if you ever want to chat.

Autocorrect changed dickhead to duchess!

Thanks Dolly :) it's good to hear from people months down the line.

Better go and eat I suppose.

Ps where in the world are you? My DD's are at their dads tonight and you'd be welcome on my night out tonight!

Ah thanks Dolly, I'm in Scotland, probably miles away. I think it'll be another night on the sofa.

There's nowt wrong with a night on the sofa. Especially if you have some nice treats.

Reward?...My exams start in 3.5weeks so 7 days a week study is a must at the moment. The little flurries of panic are just beginning to set in too. But I'm having some friends round on April 26th for a glass of wine so something to look forward to there!

I quite like the 'duchess' autocorrect - makes his behaviour seem all the more ridiculous!

That's good you have something planned Lazarus, always good to have something to look forward to. I always need something to look forward to, keeps me going.

I sometimes take a flask to bed . It's just very nice to have coffee in bed and not get out for it.

I've worked today. Foul weather and lovely new DP has minded DC for wet weather day in. They are now with their dad and we'll have a day out tomorrow instead of me working

I have looked at the skipping item ... Do you do it outdoors?

Dolly. I think I remember you ? Good to hear you are doing ok. I'm sure your experience and seeing you 6 months on will help LNM

did you post about the car in legal LNM?

sorry if ive missed something but what do you think about contact for children?

bi-weekly?

you could shelve thinking about it, but dont want to be in the position of him calling the shots wrt access...

i remember Dollys thread...search it out LNM, thats your saturday night sorted!

LittleEsme. How can you bail out of skipping now? I've ordered one of the ropes, I was thinking of getting scaffolding as well. Spent £6 on chocolate when I popped in to the paper shop earlier. Just doing a nice steak and then I'll start on Chocolate. I'm on Sofa already and its only 6.30!!!

I've not posted in legal yet, im not sure my tiny brain is up to legal talk today. I'm not sure about access either, he works shifts and some weekends so will need to arrange it round that. It's going to take a lot if getting used to, the girls not being here all the time. I miss them so much :(

I am possibly a bad mother but I don't miss them often. All those things I can't do with them...I do. It's infrequent for me however.

Dating would be impossible if I had to rely on contact time.

Well I've ordered a skipping rope as I need to get in shape a bit too. May I please have a special dispensation from you good ladies for the sports bra, though?

LNM - I've followed your thread ab initio too and am full of admiration for you and your dignity. The thought that I could treat my wife like that makes me go cold. Do keep your resolve, although I can see that you will.

Hang on hang on....

I'm feeling like I should get a little kudos from El Skipping Rope company. Their sales must have shot up courtesy of lil old me and my flabby arms. Eh? eh?

LNM - get thee to a nice bath, shave your legs, moisturise, then snuggle up to watch your fave TV. Or tape it, if you can so you and your girls can watch it tomorrow. Either way, remember this: This is a tough night for you, it really is. But it just further demonstrates how utterly selfless you are. Again and again, you amaze me with your resolve. Your decency. Hang on to that. You're a rare breed LNM, indeed you are.

Disclaimer - I've not bailed out of skipping. Got a really painful chest so having a break today. And I skip in my kitchen (got a high ceiling in there) whilst the weather is so bad, else it would be in my driveway.

I don't care what the neighbours say, although I'm sure I can hear sniggering. Bastards.

Second Disclaimer: Promise you won't tell?

I wear 2 sports bras. Yup. 2.
1 is simply not enough to keep these boobies down

Esme!!!!!

You've done the right thing tonight LNM - no harm in them staying another night since its the first time. But you're right, be clear this won't happen again and that a proper schedule needs to be agreed. Also, (and I've had to argue this with my ex) absolutely no discussing with the DCs until agreed with other parent! It's only fair!

Enjoy your extra night. I love my boys to pieces but those weekends when they're at their dads are bliss

you're forgiven, look after your chest and let us know when you'll teach us to skip!!

Oh dear god, so I thought I'll go for a nice bath, couldn't find the plug so turned the shower on, stepped in skidded and smacked my head on the fucking tap. I think I may have been knocked out for about 10 seconds. Came to, wondered where the fuck I was and climbed out. My head aches and I've just lay on the sofa in a daze for the past couple of hours.

Omg!! Hope you're ok??

I have ordered one of those bloody ropes to now

But tbh it reminds me of a strawberry lace and I may try to eat it?

What's your plans tonight lnm? X

I think you should ring someone to be with you or out of hours drs. YOU will not be making a fuss. You will be looking after yourself for your Dcs tomorrow.

Shit I've just refreshed!! Wtf? R u ok?? Xxxxxxx

LNM you really shouldn't be alone if you were knocked out. Can you call a friend?

You need to be really careful and I second a call to nhsd etc

Fucking hell I hope you are ok.