Last train to Loserville Part 2

[LoserNoMore]

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

Its a strange way of supporting you LNM but I've joined your bingo wings be gone skipping troop. And I think you've been fantastic.

LittleEsme, thank you

No skipping today - still peeing down. Am slobbing on the sofa with tea and To Kill a Mockingbird. 'Tis lovely.

Jux It's so frustrating isn't it? I do a lot of walking too. Any exercise for my back has to be weight-bearing, which is fine when I'm not in pain but impossible when I am! Bit of a Catch 22...

LNM - I had a friend who started running but without a sports bra...I told her the damage she was doing running without one, she thought I was being daft and buying into sports bra advertising claims! It wasn't until another friend commented on what she actually looked like while running that she bought one! She was quite busty & impossible not to notice!

Jux, sounds like a good day.

We should go on Got To Dance with an alternative street dance crew with skipping ropes! Then Ashley Banjo will fall madly in love with me and we'll live happily ever after...too far? God he is my ideal man though.

Oh Lazarus, a sports bra is a must!

Oh gawd - been and bought myself one of those skipping ropes can't believe you lot made me do that !!

LNM - I said further back that I admire you - I will say it again, as it is so great to see that you have not lost your sense of humor in all of this. That is so great & will help you so much.

PS Do not admire you enough to take up skipping, however! My pelvic floor would probably hit the ground if I did.

Sports bra?!

Surely you mean.... SCAFFOLDING!!

The skipathon starts TODAY! Whoop whoop.

after I've finished eating my Victoria sponge

Well done you lot - my arthritic knee & G cups do not facilitate skipping!!

Hope you're ok today LNM - this must feel so weird - first time kids away.

Are they back now LNM?
Are they ok? Are YOU ok?

He called me just before 4pm. He asked if it would be ok if the girls can stay again tonight. I wanted to say no but I asked to speak to them and they all want to stay. Sounds like they've had a fun day at M&D's theme park. I told him on this occasion it's fine but we will need to discuss a more concrete routine this week at some point which he agreed to.

Not sure if I should have just stuck to the arrangement. I don't want him thinking he can do this all the time but as the girls wanted to I said yes. It means I can tackle the ironing and housework eat cake, crisps and chocolate without having to share

on the plus side it is good that he is spending time doing stuff with the girls, not so good that he put you in a position where if you said no, then you would be painted as the 'bad' parent.

He is still a prize dickhead though.

I want a skipping rope! Imight get one for when my back is better, if it ever gets to the point of me being able to skip again I will literally jump for joy!

With letting them stay another night at least they can see that you are not being obstuctive in thier dad seeing them. Also on a more cynical point its a chink in his armor if any time outside the times you agree that you do want him to help you out.

LNM, this seems fine as it's the first time. But once you are getting your routine with him sorted it would be a good time to point out that all arrangements should be made with you before he suggests anything to the dcs.

Today, this happens to suit you, them and him, so all well and good. Enjoy your free time

Yes it's early days but you need a formal contact arrangement so you can plan wild nights out so the DCs know where they are & what to expect.

It is good that he is seeing them, he is a good dad despite his behaviour this week with not seeing them but I guess...can't believe I'm saying it but, he could be forgiven for neglecting his dad duties this past week under the circumstances. He is a prize dickhead, nothing will take that title away from him ever.

In saying that imI pretty sure I've had a worse week than him and I didn't put the dd's second, so I take the above back.

Yes steady on - he's been an arse!

Don't know what the hell came over me there

It's because, for the first time in all this terrible mess, he's actually acting human. Don't let it de-rail you LNM.

Good dads treat the childrens mother decently.

Glad to see you have returned to sanity there!

Well..I've given in & ordered a skipping rope! My back is ok at the moment and I think, once I've finished my exams, it will be a good incentive to tone up a bit.

Well done LNM. I'm going to be sceptical and suggest that he was hoping you would say no! However, as you are immersed in the milk of human kindness, I will be sceptical on your behalf! I hope it's actually a sign that's he missed your dds more than he thought possible & it further rubs salt in his wounds

Disclaimer: Been studying all afternoon so not in the most forgiving mood.

That was a close one. Good point lowercase.

I'm sure he won't disappoint in his duchess behaviour in the future.

Hope you'll reward yourself for studying on a Saturday Lazarus?

Well I'm kind of lost now, I had bought some munchies in for me and the girls tonight and was planning on a Britains Got Talent/The Voice night. Now I'm on my tod...again.