Last train to Loserville Part 2

[LoserNoMore]

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

Good..let's hope he sticks to it! As regards his contact, please don't feel responsible for his stupid, self-centred decisions. Unfortunately it is usually the resident parent who bends over backwards to facilitate contact but don't feel it's your fault if he messes you around. As others have said, this is the only part of your life he can now control...he is clutching at straws.

Look on the bright side...this IS the only part of your life he can affect, look how much you've coped with without him You are a great Mum, you really are.

Yes do go out and have some me time tonight!!

Delurking to say yes go out tonight!!!

Please try and go out you deserve a rest and something un mummy !! You have had sole responsibility for your DC for days and that alone warrants a night out

Get in that shower woman!
Get on some going out clothes, bit of lippy, some cash in your pocket and GO OUT!

That's an absolute order!

Has he picked them up?? I agree with all the others .... GO OUT!!!!!!!

^^ What they said. Go out, have fun!

Another one saying to go out! I hope he has picked them up by now and you are out of the shower and ready to go.

You are still doing brilliantly, remember that. Take care.

Hopefully the girls have been picked up hitch free and you are now glamming up for a night out with your friends. Waterproof mascara, just in case. Let your hair down and relax. Fu(k work, you really have enough on your plate without adding that into the equation.
Have one on me
xxx

Hooray! Hope they have a great time.

Hope you have a good time whatever you do, from going out clubbing with friends to just collapsing on the sofa!

If you are lurking at home hiding from this thread because of the weight and pressure of going out . ...it's ok you know

Slippers on and glass of wine here

Hope u r having a wee tipple lnm you bloody deserve it woman! & I hope that loser treats them like princesses tonight and realises how fucking shit life is going to be without you! Xxx

Slippers and sofa here as well LNM, but no G&T on the go oh no

Thinking of you.

I'm on the chocolate here!!

I really did plan on going out. I jumped in the shower, he picked the girls upandv I started to get ready. Then I got a bit upset and felt how weird the situation was. The first time the girls are away but spending the night with their dad. Si I jilted in the car to Tesco, bought some wine . So now I'm feeling all sorry for myself. Watching Friends, eating Doritos and drinking the wine.

Ah well, probably the best decision if you weren't really feeling up to it - there will be more nights. I always watch friends when I want to forget the world and all the crap we have to deal with!! Just thinking of Joey makes me smile .

Enjoy some time for yourself and get some rest. I remember the first time my boys went overnight with my exH - it is weird and I totally understand why you didn't feel like going out x

Hope you're ok - take care

It is weird LNM, but plan for it. I eat what I like...prawn stir fry being a favourite. I have a glass or two, a film, a book and always lie in. If I can't lie in (poor sleeper) I get myself a coffee and toast but go back to bed.

In the day time I shop alone (unbelievable to wander uninterrupted), I walk in places DC wouldn't tolerate...and work/decorate. I'm usually busy!

I meet friends and eat out or cook for friends...it's a real luxurious time for me

I'm sure next time will be easier.

at least you got wine, crisps and are watching friends. I am back from airport, munching crisps and drinking... WATER! hahaha I am watching Big Bang Theory and about to munch on some maltesers. Oh I am living the high life!

Of course it will and maybe you needed time for yourself tonight.

You have been fabulous throughout this short horrible time x x

Stay strong and enjoy the lie in in the morning.

Don't drink to much wine and get out of the house in the morning once you have had your lie in

Water, WATER?! I'll be wishing I'd stuck to water in te morning.

Baby steps LNM, baby steps.
You're doing fine, you really are.

It's early days & you must be pretty exhausted anyway. Take it easy love & try to have a good lie in

Thanks briansbrain, all noted and taken on board