Last train to Loserville Part 2

[LoserNoMore]

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

Thank you, you're all lovely.

I delurked to say "go out"! but it must be hard, havent been in your situation but totally understand you need time to adjust. Joining with a here.

Yesh, I mean yes we are lyfli

Pass me the water, LNM.

Yes baby steps are right and learning to do something just for you, you will need to get used to time alone which as a married mother there isn't much of.

Take your time x

I've started a really stupid thread in chat about my need to Change my facial expression when pissed off if you fancy some silly time.

I feel sick now finished all the chocolate!! must admit to not being too good at going out. Enjoy slobby nights and morning going back to bed to cry and read !!!

I have no water, only wine LittleEsme. Well the bottles almost gone

I prefer nights in too cjel, too much effort involved going out.

Brian, that'll be a bonus once I get used to it. I hardly had a minute to myself before.

You are a lovely,very strong woman! He is a very bad man < and a total twunt > Your kids are lucky to have such a good mum.

There is nothing wrong with a bit of slobbing out on the sofa. Anyway, you've been working yourself very hard and deserve a rest, whatever form it takes. I have been doing a bit of slobbing myself this evening. In fact, I am a past master at slobbing and vegging

Rest. Tomorrow, have a lie in. Read in bed with a cuppa by your side. Luxury.

LNM at some point in the distant future you will think about all this and not feel like you've been kicked in the chest. Your girls will be fabulous - look at their role model, you! - and everything will be sorted. Until that day comes everything will feel weird/shit/horrid/disconnected or a combination of this and everything else you're feeling right now. It's ok to feel these things, you're grieving and this takes time.

He'sATwuntTiggaxx

no wrath from me. you still managed to have 'you time' - yes Water, was all that passed my lips.

I know this will shock you all, but I am not a big drinker, when Im out for the night with friends then I will drink alcohol but rarely drink in the house. It just never enters my head to open a bottle of wine or something else.

I am Scottish and a huge embarrassment to the stereotypical depiction of 'us' .

Morning....

No paracetamol needed here. I'm fresh as a daisy. Might have been the 2 pints of water I drank before bed.

Jax, I'm not a big drinker either. Not a fan of drinking alone at home but sometimes, like yesterday I thought it'd be a good idea!

Thanks Dawn, everything is weird, feels like a dream.

I'm torn about going to work, I want to sort out the backlog of work but I also want to lie in my bed for a bit!

morning lnm

bit of a dodgy precedent to set if it's not your fault that there is a backlog and you are not going to get paid or even thanked for going in in your own time. might be better to use the backlog to show your manager that the workload is not viable? obviously don't knwo the details though.

really glad he has taken the dds overnight.

What would you regret most? Staying in bed longer or not getting work done? Glad you feel good this morning.x

If I go in it'll be a one off. My boss won't even know unless the other girl who is in work today tells her.

Morning, Cjel, I'll just worry about work all weekend if I don't go in. I'll lie in bed for a bit anyway. Wish I had someone here to bring me tea!

sounds perfect. I always find its a long way from bed to the kettle when I'm on my own!!

Bring back the teasmaid I say

A teasmaid would be great right now!

I got out of bed and now have cold feet

You can just imagine the exh saying my wife chucked me out, got online groceries and a teasmaid and doesn't need me anymore.

You can buy the little milk jiggers online so the milk doesn't go off overnight. Not that I've looked into them.

Hope you managed to have a relaxing evening/night last night LNM, your doing really well, what time are your girls coming home?

Fluffy, don't forget the fence fixing

The girls are home about 4pm. Just heading to work for 2 hours tops!

Fluffy!!

And then you can have lunch out, and look around a few shops, and still be home in time for the girls' return. Sounds like a good day!

Well the office is all locked up there is usually someone in on a Saturday. Oh well, least I tried. Going to try not to worry about work.

Today I'm car hunting, the car is his. He said I can use it until I get another. Just a cheap car around £1500 in looking for! Wish me luck!