I have name changed, not ready to deal with rl yet.
After shits loads of ea, sulking, rages, controlling behaviour, blaming the whole world for his actions etc, etc, etc, tonight poor hard done by twunt was bathing dd (I had engineered this as I am sick of him being a useless twat), he started shouting at her, I went up to see to her and he kicked off.
Screaming at me to fuck off, pushing me about, all in a tiny bathroom being witnessed by hysterical dd, he wouldn't let me go to dd to calm her down, just carried on screaming and pushing me out of bathroom and towards the top of the stairs, I really thought he was going to shove me down the stairs.
I managed to get back in the bathroom, he ripped stairgate down i guess to make it easier to get me down the stairs, he came back in shoving and screaming, so I said fine let me go and I will fuck off, he let go I tried to get out of the bathroom but where he was blocking me from gettingnto the bath, when I opened the bathroom door it hit his head.
He went apeshit, tried to push me down the stairs again, I managed to get past him and downstairs to phone police. 3 lovely officers were here in no time and have taken him in for questioning.
They said that from what he has said in custody they will probably let him go with a caution, and will come back when he returns for his van to prevent a breach of the peace.
I don't have anyone left in rl close enough to turn to, as being a by the book style twunt he has made sure I have been distanced from friends.
Dd is only 3, but all she kept asking was "is daddy going away in the police car, I'll miss daddy" what do you say to that? 
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Twunt scored a full house and won himself a ride in a police car
BeingAWifeIsNotForMe · 21/03/2013 22:34
Chipping Yes twunt is staying with Dd1's dad, they have been mates from school. There was a lot of years between leaving one and getting with other, they don't have regular contact with each other, but are always each others first call when something goes wrong. I have no contact with dickhead, and Dd1 and I are never (well up until now maybe) discussed.
I can use the money to rent somewhere else, that is the plan short term, but I'm not currently working so getting own place not an option right now, I'm applying for any job going right now.
Math it's often been said I take the path less travelled 
and it would appear I'm looking at this from the wrong perspective. What you say makes a lot of sense, I guess I'm still clinging on to the deluded idea of a clean break.
Just flicking through the telly and realised Roadhouse is on.
Had not been with dickhead very long, he wanted me to meet his mate (twunt) and wife, went to their flat, twunt had just got back from video shop with roadhouse, I remember ignoring the pair of them once Sam Elliot came on the screen 
Twunt had the bike and the look back then, tbh I only stayed with dickhead so long to keep contact with twunt 
instant chemistry on both sides, we came close to acting on it, but I was 17, he was married with a toddler, we agreed to just be friends.
Eventually split with dickhead, moved away eventually lost contact with twunt.
Moved back a few years later, would bump into him from time to time, attraction still there.
He had moved back to his parents when marriage split up - Jeremy Kyle moment #2 his wife went off with his nephew actually Jeremy Kyle moment #3 his half brother, his "sister" is really his mother, he was then adopted by gp's fuck me you couldn't make this shit up, can anyone still hear me over the fluttering of all these red flags, where the hell was mn 20 years ago to stop me getting involved with this shit.
Anyhow finally we were both single at the same time so went for it, moved in together within months.
Coincidence, I don't know, but two things today have triggered this unloading, Bf said earlier she couldn't believe what he'd done, we were made for each other yadda yadda, "you waited for him for half your life" and yes she's right unconsciously I did.
Then back to roadhouse, symbolism, for me that says things have gone full circle, that film has marked the beginning and the end of our relationship.
God that was cathartic, rambling, waffling shite, but better out than in
Izzy I'm back on track, there will be NO contact, I was over thinking the rent thing. Tomorrow will be lady gaga all the way 
Only a twunt would think shiny floors were a good look, no matter what I try today I can't stop the smears 
I know the inspection thing isn't about my standards as such, but I do have a bit of my mother in me unfortunately
I think he's probably trying to frighten you with the black and whiteness of it all, but why not play along? Call his bluff. My guess is he won't make any calls, but you need to see about the LL situation anyway.
The break needs to be made. YOU CAN DO THIS. And I second Fool's advice to not allow him to occupy space in your brain. Plough ahead with your own agenda. Do what needs to be done for you and DD2 and let him take it or leave it.
(I love the way he tells you in a text out of the blue what you need to do/ who to talk to, what 'we' need to do wrt the LL. 
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Inspection done, I don't know why I worry, we have done so much to the place over the years it's unrecognisable, they love coming in to see what has changed, twunt has actually gained a fair bit of work from them, based on what we had done here.
Anyhoooo poker face was firmly on, said he'd had some random activity on his account, bank should honour long standing payment, but if any difficulty phone me and I'll drop cash up to the office, I must have done a good job, cos they were so sympathetic, ah has card been cloned etc felt horrid lying to them.
Right time to hit supermarket, poor Dd has been living out of the freezer for the last few days
Feeling good this morning
Dropped Dd off at cm's then decided to clear away a few cobwebs.
No point driving a wankers car if you don't drive like a wanker every now and then
Wednesday 13 on very loud, a blat up through the lanes and back down the m/way.
The best way to start the day
Hmmm received some advice today that has made me think a bit.
It was put to me during an incredibly helpful discussion, that maybe I was trying to "buy my way out of trouble"
That if I hadn't had this money come through, my situation would obviously be very different, and this money should be 'protected'.
So the advice was to secure an occupation order, but not remove twunt from the tenancy so that he us still jointly responsible for the rent.
Now this goes against my dream of a clean break, but equally the money wouldn't last more than about 18 months if I choose to not work until Dd starts school.
Very confused right now, cos obviously I would prefer to sever all links, but I do need to be practical about finances
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