I have name changed, not ready to deal with rl yet.
After shits loads of ea, sulking, rages, controlling behaviour, blaming the whole world for his actions etc, etc, etc, tonight poor hard done by twunt was bathing dd (I had engineered this as I am sick of him being a useless twat), he started shouting at her, I went up to see to her and he kicked off.
Screaming at me to fuck off, pushing me about, all in a tiny bathroom being witnessed by hysterical dd, he wouldn't let me go to dd to calm her down, just carried on screaming and pushing me out of bathroom and towards the top of the stairs, I really thought he was going to shove me down the stairs.
I managed to get back in the bathroom, he ripped stairgate down i guess to make it easier to get me down the stairs, he came back in shoving and screaming, so I said fine let me go and I will fuck off, he let go I tried to get out of the bathroom but where he was blocking me from gettingnto the bath, when I opened the bathroom door it hit his head.
He went apeshit, tried to push me down the stairs again, I managed to get past him and downstairs to phone police. 3 lovely officers were here in no time and have taken him in for questioning.
They said that from what he has said in custody they will probably let him go with a caution, and will come back when he returns for his van to prevent a breach of the peace.
I don't have anyone left in rl close enough to turn to, as being a by the book style twunt he has made sure I have been distanced from friends.
Dd is only 3, but all she kept asking was "is daddy going away in the police car, I'll miss daddy" what do you say to that? 
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BeingAWifeIsNotForMe · 21/03/2013 22:34
OK well, if you are married I would seriously consider spending the money because when you divorce him he will have a claim on it as part of the financial settlement as part of the joint assets of the marriage
I think you need legal advice re the whole package
Thanks Math You're right there's nothing stopping me getting a job, Dd currently gets the 15 free hours per week childcare, I was working up until january, never had the 'luxury' of being a sahm before.
I am applying left, right and centre, but i'm aware of how many people are chasing so few jobs.
Thanks Fool I would much rather have the clean break and how much of a hardship can it really be to go and blow the dough 
I will have to get another car at some point as wank mobile is his (gonna miss that toy) and Dds ctf or building society account could always do with a top up (he's clueless about these) so there won't be any left for him.
Beryl next wednesday was the earliest I could get an appointment.
I am now officially on the council housing list, bid on 2 properties was 170 out of 171 on the first and 190 out of 192 on the second 
think this could take some time.
Fool there is a plan b, which at the moment may seem foolish and in all probability extremely unfair to Dd, but it's something that's been a desperate wish obsession for over two years and would certainly use a chunk of the money.
I realistically don't have much time left to decide whether to go for it, but know that right now I might not be in the best place to make such an important decision
Math No not planning on doing a bunk, I don't even have a passport, this ice queen would melt anywhere remotely warm and who would want to live anywhere that's even colder than here?
No, it's even crazier than that I'm afraid well I think it makes absolute sense, but then I also thought marrying twunt was a good idea so what do I know I'm not ready to hear a bellowing NO from the mn sages [deluded emoticon]
neighbour caught me outside earlier trying her best not to be nosy, turns out those 3 nice policeman I saw last week was the tip of the iceburg, there was 8 of them in 4 cars.
It freaked me out tbh that as bad as it was, they were obviously prepared for something far worse
My XH went through a stage of stalking me when we split.
He turned up at my place, drunk and abusive, and wouldn't leave. So I called the police.
They put him in their car to 'take him home'. Except what they actually did was drop him off in the countryside 10 miles from where he was living... [bugrin]
He couldn't understand why I laughed so much when he phoned to shout at me about it the next day. It was the beginning of the end of my fear of him.
Good luck OP 
[bugrin] I think I might have nearly wee'd at your amazing policemen Sunny
No chocolate here Blackcurrants it makes me very unwell instead I have treated myself to some flavoured cartridges for my e-cig (quite proud that I haven't caved in and gone back to real cigarettes) although I am getting through them at a rate of knots. I can highly recommend cherry or cinnamon [buwink]
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