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Dating thread no 45

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JulietteMontague · 08/03/2013 21:59

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

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lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 19:54

Plus as mercury said meeting first is good... that's probably partly why I like the date part first too. I would leave if anything set my spidey senses off.

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 19:58

I think you do find your own way of screening people...I've never had any bad experiences, but in the past often wished I'd not bothered with the sex, thats why I'm so reluctant to actually do it with anyone new these days.

VelvetSpoon · 13/03/2013 20:44

I did try the FWB thing once last year, but it was just same old same old, even they didnt want to see me again!

Western, hope you have a great evening :)

I am hoping for a half decent nights sleep. Couldn't get to Boots (every pensioner in North Kent was in there doing their shopping) so trying the traditional hot bath and warm milky drink route instead. I do feel sleepy, rather than just tired which hopefully is a good sign!

Snapespeare · 13/03/2013 20:46

ike at the ' soulful connection' for your cut and paste job. Nowt ventured, Nowt gained. :)

lubey I think you're fab. I honestly do. :)

oww hope you've had a lovely evening with LM.

bant small community....it's like a village, isn't it.

All is well in the house of snape. Had wildly successful series of meetings today, did 4 presentations. Hit my stride by the 3rd one Hmm was really nice though. Had drinks with chum after work, which was also cool. Applying for several jobs on promotion ( sorry to hear about your job/twatty ex potential HMRC woes lulu) so hopeful of not starving to death. :) tried to get appointment at clap-clinic local to work for general check up, in case i have other murky evils lurking in my foof... phoned and phoned, no response... Dropped by and they closed 4 years ago!! Shock Internet woefully out of date. Local clinic only during working hours. Will need to go to major hospital during lunch break. Ugh.

Hate medical things. Scared of needles. (Which is hilarious given am grown up and covered in tattoos) needs must. Is responsible thing to do.

By which you can all assume all is well with nameless, because it is. Still regard this as my safe place. A lot of wobbles are related to past experience...am starting to regard the past as firmly in the past. Weird.

Scrazy · 13/03/2013 20:50

Velvet, hope you sleep well. I am sleeping much better recently except the horrible hallucinations are back before I drift off. I saw someone standing over my bed last night and watched his face fade to darkness.

I have been free of them for a while and wonder if it's the nicotine as I gave up smoking for a couple of years. Good reason to keep trying as I'm failing to quit.

Do you mean you did and IE profile.

I think I had far too much casual in my younger days to want to repeat it all now. I prefer to make a connection first, nowadays, haven't slipped up much in the past few years Blush.

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 21:09

sounds like hypnogogic hallucinations & sleep paralysis Scrazy?

actually quite useful if you are into the whole lucid dreaming thing...I take it you're not!

VelvetSpoon · 13/03/2013 21:11

Snape well done on the presentations (I love doing them, it appeals to my inner show-off!) and good luck on the promotion front too :)

Scrazy I did set up an IE profile but the text did say that I was looking for casual dating/a FWB type arrangement and not just a ONS. The sort of men who messaged me were no more or less flaky and economical with the truth than the ones I encountered on a normal profile, so it really just confirmed that it was highly unlikely I would ever meet anyone via any form of OD who wanted to see me again, whatever was or wasn't on the agenda!

One of my male friends on FB keeps 'poking' me on FB. Is this some inept attempt at flirting? Hmm It feels like being 11 again with someone pulling my pigtails in the school playground!

Scrazy · 13/03/2013 21:30

Mercury, do you know much about it, the hallucinations etc? I do experience sleep paralysis very occasionally, a feeling of being pinned down. Also energy with the bed vibrating, oh er!! I would welcome any advice and more info on the lucid dream thingy.

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 21:33

hypnogogic hallucinations are a normal part of the transition into sleep, not everyone will notice them and the content will vary from person to person, not everyone gets sleep paralysis, but it's still 'normal' if unpleasant.

I'm quite well up on that sort of thing, but there's alot of info on the net generally, esp about lucid dreaming:)

Scrazy · 13/03/2013 21:44

Thanks, I have had a look briefly and will continue to read up. It's spooky but I realise, harmless and I've had it for years on and off.

lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 21:45

mercury have you ever heard of a feeling like your head is being crushed in a vice... I get that sometimes when just on the edge of sleep. horrid.

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 22:00

Lubey, physical hallucinations involving feelings of pressure are quite common so that would be consistant.

The 'classic' is the feeling of pressure on the chest which is 'spun' into an hallucination of a demon (incubus or succubus) sitting on the chest

Hallucinations of spiders are very common on waking (hypnopompic hallucinations)

sometimes it's all just referred to as 'REM intrusions' ie dreaming whilst awake

Scrazy · 13/03/2013 22:08

Spiders crawl up my curtains, so do teddy bears. Umbrellas and clowns float around my bedroom and weird looking people peer down at me, regularly Grin

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 22:11

I am SO jealous!!
I'm really into the idea of the sleep wake transition being some kind of portal into I better stop right there :o

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 22:12

all I've had is one spider, 2 clouds of dots and one figure in a blue toga...you get all that and you dont even want it!

lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 22:14

Oh Scrazy i want your hallucinations.

Best one i got was that glastonbury was happening in my garden and exdh was in bed frying chips on his chest, as I wandered blearily through for the 20th time that night to a poorly DD, after 3 nights with no sleep...

Scrazy · 13/03/2013 22:14

It was a basket of bloody red flowers a couple of nights ago.

I hope we all have a lovely sleep tonight, hope I haven't spooked anyone Grin.

Scrazy · 13/03/2013 22:16

It's the vibrating bed that I like the most, now that is freaky.

KinNora · 13/03/2013 22:21

Clowns ????!!

Scrazy · 13/03/2013 22:26

Yep, and clowns give me the creeps too.

KinNora · 13/03/2013 22:33

That, Scrazy , is because clowns are wrong. Shudder.

KirstyWirsty · 13/03/2013 23:04

I once stayed in a friend's son's room and there was a 7 foot clown sitting in a basket chair .. I don't sleep a wink!!

Alittlestranger · 13/03/2013 23:06

I didn't think this was possible, but I think the internet has run out of men. I'm pretty sure I've looked at, messaged and dated every one of my matches. I've had approx 25 dates, only two I was remotely interested in seeing again. The problem is me and unrealistic expectations isn't it?

I'm contemplating making it clear that I'm after a fling and seeing if that shakes out any good looking players.

ike1 · 13/03/2013 23:13

I know, A little...I thought that as well in the last few days! I once saw huge spiders all over the walls when waking from sleep with a temperature once...

lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 23:14

Kirsty the scary bit though is when you mention the 7ft clown to them and they claim not to have one...

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