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Dating thread no 45

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JulietteMontague · 08/03/2013 21:59

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

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ike1 · 13/03/2013 17:00

Cor its all going on here.. cheese n toast eating..hair washing...anyone would think we had dates to go to..

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JulietteMontague · 13/03/2013 17:02

Scazy for some reason, when I see 'dating but nothing serious' I think shag and run disguised as dating. IE I would hope would be more honest, either fwb or straight shag only. But I haven't done it so no idea.

Bant different parts of town and tight pants?

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Scrazy · 13/03/2013 17:14

Juliette, that's how I read it as well. Hey IE is fine if it is really what you want. If you are hoping for something more long term then perhaps not because you are meeting with a view to it be NSA.

I would use it if I wanted a few one offs. I might even do that one day.

Bant · 13/03/2013 17:17

Juliette - I just found out both Buffy and MedStudent are at the same university. One is a lecturer, one a student. both roughly the same age though

This may all end in tears. Probably mine.

WarmFuzzyFun · 13/03/2013 17:23

Bant hehehe! That is peculiar, and intriguing at the same time...

Scrazy · 13/03/2013 17:26

Bant Grin Is this why they are both in your area at the same time. Is it a Uni field trip?

VoiceofUnreason · 13/03/2013 17:32

I don't like cheese on toast. Can't do toasted or cooked cheese. Just wrong.

Bant - small place, Budapest. Slightly reminds me of your Artist and that other woman in the same village a while back.

pixiebelle123 · 13/03/2013 17:38

Hello everyone, it's been a long time since I last posted - sorry Blush

It's been fun trying to catch up with what everyone's been up to - looks as though there has been some good dating going on, well done!

The debate on IE profiles is interesting. I only met a few guys doing OD and several of them were clearly after one night stands, despite my profile stating I was looking for a relationship - at least you know what you are getting involved in with an IE profile, it's more hurtful when you think they want a relationship with you but are actually just after sex!

I am still with my chap from POF, it's been over 3 months now and it's going really well! We are going away on a little holiday together over easter (a dirty weekend!) I can't wait Grin

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JulietteMontague · 13/03/2013 17:39

Bant the of separation when you are part of the ex pat community must be 3 maximum and as anyone who has been in this situation knows, separation is all that is between you and a woman pile up with Grin.

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JulietteMontague · 13/03/2013 17:39

degree of separation

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lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 18:03

I agree pixibelle... I think my ad (currently hidden, but when it was active) was very honest... in IE but with intent as 'dating but nothing serious' seem the perfect categories for me at the moment.

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JulietteMontague · 13/03/2013 18:06

Lubey so do you think the 'dating but not serious combined with the IE signals the casual/fwb/on going set up? I had assumed if I put that I'll get all the chancers but you got a quality response.

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ike1 · 13/03/2013 18:11

For the last coupla days I seem to have been approached by quite a few young Asian guys..odd that they have all decided they like mature red heads..

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 18:15

that reminds me of a message I had which started 'I am Asian man with small penis but I will show you that this doesnt matter' I cant remember the rest of it

my favourite thing to do with toast is soak it in egg and then fry it

ike1 · 13/03/2013 18:18

now THERE's an offer you CAN refuse Merc! At least it's honest! All I can say it thank gawd you also like running with treats like that!

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 18:22

well these days I find myself more and more tempted to go back to the 'smoke cannabis and eat cake' method of self soothing

lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 18:24

Juliette whatever you put you'll get chancers, duds and tatas. More in IE as well due to the greater 'traffic' - the paid for search has made no difference as you still show up in the online list.

Just be very harsh with blocking anyone that is a no, saves so much hassle and makes spotting the messages you want actually possible.

I also used to just log in and out all evening then go back and sort through the messages and the profiles late at night when it's quieter. Blocking any idiots or even the perfectly nice ones that I knew i wouldn't fancy. (stops repeat messages and begging which happens a lot in IE it seems)

But yeah... I think the decent ones who do actually read profiles, if a fwb is what you are looking for that's probably the category to be in.

ike1 · 13/03/2013 18:32

Begging lubes? Oh no!..

EternalRose · 13/03/2013 18:38

When you have an intimate encounter, and please excuse my naivete with this, but do they just turn up, you both have sex, and then leave only to never speak to them again? How many intimate encounters would you have in a week so to speak?

Please tell me where you get the confidence for something like that, because I dont think I could ever do it. Confused

[feels shy]

ike1 · 13/03/2013 18:44

Help! You know I was complaining about only receiving 1 or 2 line messages?? Oh my GODFATHERS! i HAVE JUST RECEIVED, sorry shouting there, the MOTHER of all messages....it goes on FOREVER! About my soulful eyes, the connection he has with them, my hair...shitting hell! What the hell am I gonna say?

ike1 · 13/03/2013 18:47

Oh no I cut and pasted most of my profile from someone elses and he has really gone for the connetion aspect of my words!!!I feel like such a fraud!

lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 18:50

Rose yeah that is an option.

I have done it before in the past, usually if I'd been stood up and didn't want my shaved legs and various other efforts to go to waste... and yes you can easily pick someone out and have them turn up within a couple of hours.

It's not currently what I want though, and it's not for everyone. Haha.

I like a date of some kind first because I think it's better with a bit of build up and flirting. And then to have repeat performances when each other have free time, rather than never seeing them again.

Sex with a connection with that person is way better, and the 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc times onwards tend to get better as you get more comfortable with each other and know all the likes and all that.

Although when I used it for my Glasgow trip that was the first time I'd used it with the specific intent of never seeing the person again.

Even in the past when I've used it for an urgent meet that night, I still intended to see them again until they turned out to be rubbish in bed then I got rid asap and never bothered with them again

mercury7 · 13/03/2013 18:50

Rose, IE can be whatever you want, and really women should be able to call the shots seeing as there are far more men than women looking for that kind of arrangement.

I tend to insist on plenty of photo's, then a skype call, then a casual chat over coffee, then I go away & think about it.

Some people like the thrill of anonymous sex but it's really not my thing and I'd always want to get to know someone a bit...just to see what his temperament is like

ike1 · 13/03/2013 18:50

Infact he has written so much it has fallen off the page!

lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 18:51

and ike yeah begging!

"PLEASE meet me! Please, I promise you won't be disappointed"

Hmm