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Dating thread no 45

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JulietteMontague · 08/03/2013 21:59

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

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ike1 · 13/03/2013 23:16

and once more!

ike1 · 13/03/2013 23:18

I have a mahooosive pile of washing up to do ....and I dont wanna...

lubeybooby · 13/03/2013 23:19

Go for it Alittle...

OhWesternWind · 13/03/2013 23:26

Weird shit going down on this thread tonight Scrazy maaaan. That sort of stuff would freak me out, although when I was younger I can remember strange sensations of my legs extending so my head and feet were a long, long way apart and all the bits of my body were the wrong size...

Lovely night out, drove out to a village pub and had a meal and a couple of drinks. The thing I like best is just having a laugh with him - we can both make each other crack up laughing and it's great. Sat in the pub holding hands and laughing, perfect. He is very clever and witty and i love it that I don't feel like I have to dumb down for him or be less sarcastic with my sense of humour. I can just be myself and it's a really good version of myself that comes out with him, a brighter and better one than usual. I love being with him. Now in bed by myself unfortunately but never mind, it's always difficult at mine with the children being here so I was expecting it. Hoping to meet up Saturday day with children just so we can see each other otherwise it will be into next week. All is well, all manner of thing is well.

lubeybooby · 14/03/2013 06:28

Glad you had a good night and all is well OWW. I couldn't bear the no sex thing though, you must be going mad with frustration... I'd have to lead him to a quiet country road/forest/hedge/anywhere with intent... Wink

I keep waking up with a massive and horrible headache... what fresh hell is this? It's like a tension headache. urgh. I did toss and turn all night but it happened yesterday and when I was away too even when I slept really well.

Very disappointed to note that it still isn't Saturday!

VelvetSpoon · 14/03/2013 06:37

Western glad you had a lovely evening with LM :)

Lubey, :( to the headache...is your room too warm in the night maybe? that sometimes gives me headaches.

I got more than 6 hours sleep last night! :) am very pleased and feel vaguely human today as a result. Did have a dream where I was back together with the Evil Ex Shock and kissing him (even more Shock). I think this is simply a sign that I am missing C, who I won't be kissing for at least another week. That is how I will interpret it anyway!

OhWesternWind · 14/03/2013 06:56

Far too cold for outdoor shagging Lubey - you're a tougher woman than me! Good plan for summer though. Haven't done it al fresco for decades

Hope the headache thing stops soon. Only two more days to go whoo hoo

Glad you got a good sleep too Velvet. Much easier to face the day with a decent night's sleep behind you.

lubeybooby · 14/03/2013 07:01

Yay velvet glad you had a good nights sleep at last!

Hmmm no definitely not too hot in my room, or any other room I've been in recently. I think it might be some kind of stress thing, like grinding teeth maybe. Ah well maybe back to the sleepeaze for me for a bit... see if that helps. Been meaning to get some for a while anyway to try and get back into a better sleep pattern.

lubeybooby · 14/03/2013 07:03

Haha OWW, doesn't have to be a long session just scratch the itch. God what the hell am I like at the moment? I blame this new pill I'm on having finally given back in to hormonal contraception.

MirandaWest · 14/03/2013 07:11

Glad you had a good night OWW. I may have been known to have sex downstairs with sleeping children upstairs occasionally and once with awake teenager (but one that was surgically attached to FIFA).

Velvet very glad your sleep was better - sleep does make things improve. I wouldn't worry about the dream about the Evil Ex - dreams are odd things.

Lubey hope the headaches stop. You have been through quite a bit in the past few weeks and it may be your body's way of trying to get rid of some of it. Are you still in touch with TT or has he gone off into the subset now?

Next door has been running their car engine for the past 15 minutes or so. Which they wouldn't (and surely it uses loads of fuel up). Had a nice email from Mr Nice during the night - they are having a great time and its about 29 degrees. It's probably not much above that in Fahrenheit here....

Need to get up and take children to breakfast club so I can go armed with my spy equipment (have to do some secret recording today Wink) which will at least stop me moping around. Think yesterday was a moping day but today will be better Smile

lubeybooby · 14/03/2013 07:16

Miranda yeah still in touch and still need to see TT at some point really to get the rest of the money off him Hmm I really CBA but the situation is such that I can't just leave it and absorb it myself. So annoying!

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lubeybooby · 14/03/2013 08:26

Oh Winefiend that is really super annoying! Gah.

Scrazy · 14/03/2013 09:06

Wine, have you met him yet? I am at that stage with someone, not met but emails and texts. I'm going away today hurray! Darn South, flying as well. Told him he might get a text while I'm away as I don't go in for lots of contact with people, even if I've met them and liked them, let alone never met. He is the only one on my radar so I will try and make an effort.

Lubey, that sucks about the money. I once lent a guy money, being a nice trusting person, and had to keep in touch even when I'd gotten sick of him. It was awful tbh, changed the nature of the relationship in a negative way. I eventually gave up ever recovering it and it wasn't peanuts but made sure family members I had met knew he owed me to shame him. One day out of the blue his mum called me for my bank details and I got it back. He had inherited a pile (maybe I should have stuck with it) Grin. I hope he come up with it and can understand you not letting it go especially if times are tough.

OWW, sounding lovely, I'm Envy tbh as the things you say remind me of what I thought I had with the recent ex. He was a twat though and yours isn't.

A little, no don't go for good looking players, they mess your head up ime.

Waves to everyone else. Must get on to pack for my trip.

OhWesternWind · 14/03/2013 09:59

Oh Lubey sorry you are having problems with TT coughing up the money. Must say I am a bit surprised, he seemed so decent earlier on, but money can always make things a bit difficult like Scrazy says.

Miranda I would love to have a spy job secretly recording people! Do you get to wear a false moustache and glasses too? Grin

Scrazy hope you have a great trip - is it fun not work? Jury's out still on the twattishness of this particular bloke but he is really making an effort at the moment so I am hopeful. I am really falling for him.

Wine I'd leave him be and see if you can rustle up a couple more possibilities. It's rude behaviour to keep you dangling like that.

ike1 · 14/03/2013 10:01

Yes Lubes that leaves a sour taste in the mouth, he has a fairly decent job too if I remember ...put your foot down definitely...power to you!

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Scrazy · 14/03/2013 10:33

My trip is fun, going to see DD.

Bant · 14/03/2013 10:44

Last night I actually found the Sweet Shop.

It was an event for Expats over here, pay a couple of quid to have french food and wine - about 150 people, most of them under 30, a lot of them students. Probably 2/3 women. The majority being stunning french women (and I do love that accent) who are single and a bit drunk.

It's odd to be in a room where beautiful women are coming up to me and saying we met last time (I'd had a few beers a couple of weeks ago so don't remember everyone I spoke to) and touching my arm and stuff. Obvious flirting.

However I'd arranged to meet MedStudent there as she was free at short notice before flying back to the US for a few days. I know it's unfair of me but I was comparing her, when I was sober, to all of these beautiful exotic women gliding past the table and smiling at me, and she definitely came off second best.

But, I walked her home, quick kiss goodnight (no biting), went home alone.

Pants. Part of me thinks a bird in the hand is better than two french birds in the bush etc etc, the other part thinks I don't want to settle for someone and having to avoid going to an event I've made friends at simply because I fancy all the women there more.

This is shallow. But having found the actual sweet shop I think I'm going to try some of the sweets.

Buffy is very slow to respond to mails/texts. She's better than MedStudent.

ike1 · 14/03/2013 10:51

Now Bant you got that that the wrong way round ...in your mind you were actually thinking..'in the bush of 2 french birds'...I am surprised that when you dropped off the Med Stu you didnt turn on heel and run back to the sweetshop...told you...fuck the etiquette...everyone else in OD does it seems!!!

ike1 · 14/03/2013 10:53

Would you describe yourself as an Alpha male Bant?

Bant · 14/03/2013 11:03

No Ike I wouldn't. I'm not bad looking but I'm not amazing. I lead groups of people with humour and self-effacement, not by telling them what to do. Sometimes I quite like to just sit back and follow someone else's lead

It was weird though. Sometimes you can feel down and shit, and sometimes you can just feel fantastic. I was walking from the tram to my date with Buffy on Monday night, and I just felt so full of energy - not like I wanted to run around and jump or anything - just - I felt incredibly confident, cool, attractive. People caught my eye, turned to look at me and smiled at me as I was walking down the street, which just made me feel better. Sometimes confidence just shows.

Last night, not so much, but I still felt a bit of a spark, and was getting corresponding looks. But maybe it's like luck. When you're confident you make eye contact and notice when people are looking at you. When you're feeling withdrawn you don't notice the people looking at you cos you're staring at the ground.

Scrazy · 14/03/2013 11:06

Bant, I havent a clue if you are hot or what you look like but you might be on the receiving end of being judged for your looks or just as likely how much money you have etc and be binned off by said younger french hotties, but hey, you don't owe anyone anything so fill yer boots Grin.

ike1 · 14/03/2013 11:08

Youre obviously getting good vibes out there Bant...and yes I agree about the confidence thing. Personally I think it rearranges the muscles in the face so that your features look more inviting and attractive (not looked into any reasearch for that opinion though ha!) . I am pleased for you! Enjoy the fun! Life is meant to have fun bits in it!