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Welcome to The Dating Thread. Number 40.

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JulietteMontague · 08/02/2013 17:39

The next chapter...

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KinNora · 10/02/2013 20:26

Yes, I read that, Voice, you pair of staying up late, rascals, you

ike1 · 10/02/2013 20:26

Voice....I was referring to the first sentence.... I think you will find (strokes beard) oh I am not beyond a spot of pendantry when it suits me Kin....Bant, now you have upset ALL of us instead of just SOME of us......grrrrrrrrrrrrr

VoiceofUnreason · 10/02/2013 20:27

I suspect Bant was being tongue in cheek with his cosmetics comment

Scrazy · 10/02/2013 20:28

MsC, I suppose they say what they think you want to hear, hence your IE men changing the message.

Bant is it really an unemotional act? For a man that is, even when you are in love.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 20:29

Yes one of my Octos plied with wine last night and then had to walk me home....

SweetSeraphim · 10/02/2013 20:29

I do hope so Voice Smile

ike1 · 10/02/2013 20:29

plied me

KinNora · 10/02/2013 20:29

Bant hasn't upset me - I think he's probably joshing.

OhWesternWind · 10/02/2013 20:29

No, all the men I've ended up tangling with have been very deep and complicated. I'd love a bit of one-dimensionality for a change. And it's not even men compared to women, it's just different people. Just look at the different personalities and viewpoints on this thread. You could never lump them into a homogenous mass called "men" or "women" and it's really naive of any of us to make this type of generalisation.

Have had a nice warm bath. Normal service is now restored.

KinNora · 10/02/2013 20:30

Those bastard pensioners taking advantage of you again, Ike - sheeeeeshhh.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 20:30

We were talking about a time when women were not allowed in the pub...heavens!

KinNora · 10/02/2013 20:32

Outrageous !!!!

watchoutforthatsnail · 10/02/2013 20:32

cheers lubes. i think anyone would be hurt though...
i do appreciate what you are saying. i am willing to take some of it on the chin. ill still make the same mistake again. I want the motherfucking spark, damnit.

I dont even know if i am looking for long term, or what really. i want a spark and fun, and not to be lied to. but i dont want living together. nor food shopping or housework or weekends in homebase.

bant - cant help yourself sometimes, can you.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 20:32

I know Kin he bloody made me drink it and this afternoon was covertly suggesting I was an alci ....honestly 'passive aggressive' pensioners...that is what they are!!!

KinNora · 10/02/2013 20:32

I'm glad you're feeling a bit better, OWW

Snapespeare · 10/02/2013 20:32

I am right going off of nailing nameless having read thread. This is sad. I want to nail nameless.

It's all very confusing.

Goes to watch BAFTAs

KinNora · 10/02/2013 20:33

Is he grooming you, Ike ?

Scrazy · 10/02/2013 20:33

I don't doubt that holding back on sex will catch a man, just as going for it won't either. Depends how much you like each other, ultimately.

Bant · 10/02/2013 20:35

No, scrazy, Christ no. Making love is an incredibly emotional experience, can bring a couple much closer together and if with the right person is incredibly fulfilling. With someone you don't know well though it's exciting, and fun, and great. But it's basically just a very pleasurable form of exercise.

Getting to the point where it's the former, not the latter, is what I'm looking for. I know I can pull, can get someone into bed, and it'll be nice. But I want to get to that looking into each others eyes when the world explodes thing. Which is rare. I don't just try to fuck people anymore as its a waste of time. Other (some) men are still there, some always will be. Sometimes I wish I could still be but.. Nah

And yes cosmetics was a joke. Valid point though

VelvetSpoon · 10/02/2013 20:35

Juliette you're bang on re narc, allaboutme, men.

I always thought these guys didn't pursue....I was wrong, they do, a hell of a lot at first. BUT only for as long as they feel like. And at some point they either expect to be chased (and flake when that doesnt happen) or are simply flattered by the attentions of other women.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 20:35

I am assuming women had to stay outside in the car consuming pop n' crisps with the kids...

ike1 · 10/02/2013 20:36

Or left tethered to the pub gate

lubeybooby · 10/02/2013 20:36

Watch, phew glad I made more sense that time.

it is completely not unreasonable to want someone not to be an arse no matter what you're looking for. I am sorry goat boy was.

VoiceofUnreason · 10/02/2013 20:36

Ike - alchy? No. Pisshead? Possibly... And "made" you drink it. Yeah, right...

OWW - a good soak in a hot bath always helps.

watch - I tend to agree with lubey. I do think one of the most important things we can do for ourselves is to know what we want. You do, at least, kmow what you absolutely don't want.

ike1 · 10/02/2013 20:37

Y eah grooming me for a cruise....

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