Welcome to The Dating Thread. Number 40.

[JulietteMontague]

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Sanpe . Go for it if you want to but don't come crying to us if he bins you off afterwards. This is a joke btw.

I want living together, and food shopping, and weekends in Homebase..or B&Q, I'm not fussy :)

....But Voice its rude to reject the alcoholic offerings of these venerable gentlemen...

snape, juust do what you want ;) you want win whichever way you play it.

velv, god, id rather die i think. I want fun. And excitment.
And lots of fucking. i dont do making love.

bant, make up isnt really for men. but, if you want to even it, or feel its unjust, feel free to visit boots yourself :)

Velvet, I would want that with the right guy too, but doubt he exists for me.

In the meantime I want the spark, I want the dates and most of all I want a bit of respect on both parts, including exclusivity when the time is right. Everything I had with the ex apart from the last bit. I was OK with it in the beginning but he took the piss so I ended it.

It's good if you know what you want.

You watch yourself, Ike, he'll have you down the shops buying you some comfy slacks, deck shoes and a sailor hat to wear at a jaunty angle.

We could buy Bant some guyliner

It actually IS possible to live together, go food shopping and have trips to Homebase and STILL have fun and excitement, you know watch

Bant you fucker

Actually question for you (and probably very similar to Watch's issue up there ^) a friend of mine used to get dates easily, she was very nice looking, took great care of herself, great personality etc.

Anyway, the blokes would usually be all 'you're the best ever, you're the most beautiful woman in the world, i want to marry you' etc etc, even after the first shag, but then they'd disappear. Happened 90% of the time. This was RL not OD.

We could never work it out. It wasn't her pushing for a relationship or more she was happy with casual, it was them but then within a week they'd vanish. Why? They didn't need to say that crap to get a shag, they'd already got it so why bother?

Still confuses me now 16 years on (needs to get life)

Certainly is Velvet, you can dress provocatively, get yourself felt up in the aisles and stop to have frantic sex on the way home.

Voice, nope. I have no desire to do that with anyone. I dont want mundane.

ncncnc - yes, that. its that. Exactly. thats me that is.

and thats why im annoyed/ hurt/ upset.

he didnt need to do any of that. he could have just asked if i fancied a bit and i would have said yes.

I want what bant said. I've had enough of players shutting their eyes and thinking about beyonce or their ex-girlfriend or seeing me as some sort of challenge. It might drive me absolutely insane, but I'm trialling holding out for a bit. I'm going to get to know him. Everything so far suggests he is lovely. Everything I find out from now might confirm that. It might not.

If he saw me as a notch on his bed post, he quite frankly could have had me after the first 20 minutes of kissing a week ago. He might shut down in three weeks/whenever when and if we DTD, but I am sodding well going to enjoy the bloody loveliness of taking it slowly, because it isn't a competition, it isn't about who comes first or hardest or most frequently...it should be about a connection. I'm going for that. It will be terribly frustrating. Bear with me.

But I might touch his cock tomorrow . And I will damn well gasp dramatically and store it up for wank fodder.

I want the whole thing. Talking about anything and nothing, hanging out together, waking up together, emotional connection when time stops sex and meaningless sex. I want to live with someone, share lives, have fun. Forever.

I would rather shag Jeremy Clarkson than go to Homebase though.

.....or a schlep around Ikea Jules

A spot of luuuurve making might be quite nice.....hopefully avoiding cystitis as an after effect.

Me too, Jules. Except for the shagging Clarkson bit.

I loathe the Swedish Store with a passion. Even though their bookcases are good

I see we've moved on. My Homebase comment is based on years of fixing this house alone. I also feel the same way about Tesco. No disrespect to you Velvet.

Apparently the meat balls are quite nice though

see, i just want massive fireworks.
its a high risk strategy.

im quite happy on my own, cant remember it ever being any other way ( was married to someone who was away more than they were at home). So, its all fine.

Dont remind me about DIY ....that's another think I m supposed to be doing, old houses take ALOT of constant up keep.

All that boring stuff is fun to me, if its with the right person.

I even like Ikea.

I know what I want. I've always known. Finding someone who wants what I want and finds me in any way attractive is the tricky part.

I used to quite like their fish and chips, too.

Agree with Jules about Tesco. Bunch of bastards, I know someone who has to deal with them.

I thought I had all that in my 16 year marriage.....apparently not.....