because hes not what you really want???
i dont know, i hardly ever get any spark. Ive decided im only going to chat to people ( on match or wherever) that i massivly fancy before the date. Noy ust because they seem nice, and we swap nice messages. Unless im getting a buzz, im not going on any date.
Since i have not had a date using this tecnhique, i have no idea if it actually works....