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Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

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lubeybooby · 01/01/2013 17:54

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

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lubeybooby · 02/01/2013 21:04

I am waiting to be messaged, but I keep logging in and out so I'm always on the first 'online' page.

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SevenSnapespearesSwimming · 02/01/2013 21:07

I think I peaked too soon on OKC. 80+ visitors this afternoon.... Two in the last hour. & one of those was Dumbledore.

VelvetSpoon · 02/01/2013 21:08

Nomore He added them as friends round about when he added me. They are on the same OD site as me (and him of course).

For all I know he's telling them they're out of his league too Hmm.

BUT

I know I need to calm down, relax and believe in the fact I'm a million times better than the competition, and if he can't see that he is a fool. And I don't want to date a fool.

JulietteMontague · 02/01/2013 21:09

I have a coffee date set up for tomorrow afternoon with The Major. I was going to cancel it but I am going to use it as practice to check my approach to first date meeting. I should set CCTV up reallyGrin.

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lubeybooby · 02/01/2013 21:09

So, two hours, 54 messages, 48 potatoes, 6 possibles.

Do you know if you send a message and then delete your profile, does the message still show in the persons inbox?

Because ideally I'd like to keep this up for another couple of hours, reply to the ones I like with my yahoo messenger, then delete my profile and chat only to the possibles.

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SevenSnapespearesSwimming · 02/01/2013 21:10

velvet

Shut up! (Said with love!)

JulietteMontague · 02/01/2013 21:16

Velvet you asked for it

Given with love

KirstyWirsty · 02/01/2013 21:19

lubey think you will need to hide your profile .. Not delete!! I still got messages from those I had been chatting with after I hid my profile but got nothing after it was deleted

VelvetSpoon · 02/01/2013 21:21

Thanks Juliette Grin

And everyone else for putting up with me.

He's just been out and text me as soon as he got back :)

I am not looking on FB anymore, too stressful!

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lubeybooby · 02/01/2013 21:22

Kirsty I mean if I message them before I delete my profile, would they get a message from me still saying my yahoo messenger addy to add me on there instead... would the message still show in their inbox once my profile is gone? In case they don't read it tonight before I go that is

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Pixiebelle123 · 02/01/2013 21:23

Ok, I've missed loads, this thread moves too fast for slow old me!

I'm basically now in a relationship with mr Tall who I met on pof. He says he loves me and I definitely feel infatuated with him. We live an hrs drive apart from each other but spend around 3 nights a week together. I might actually love Mr tall but I'm so fucked up by my stupid ex I don't know if I'm ready for this. Someone slap me with a wet fish please.

MsArsebiscuit · 02/01/2013 21:29

Give over, Velvet, just remember, we are the collective Voice of Reason.

Pixi - wet fish

JulietteMontague · 02/01/2013 21:33

Pixie Velvet has the fish at the moment, you'll find it on my last post Grin

SevenSnapespearesSwimming · 02/01/2013 21:38

We might need more than one fish.

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lubeybooby · 02/01/2013 21:48

Argh! PoF won't let me send my yahoo messenger thingy to anyone because I'm a new user. meh.

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48howdidthathappen · 02/01/2013 21:49

Juliette I think I have made my position clear.

But one minute he is saying how he likes it that I only want a casual relationship. The next that if we are still together in 3 months time he will think himself a lucky man. Other mixed messages along these lines Confused

Someone tell me I am over thinking this. Please.

Nomorepain · 02/01/2013 21:53

I just hate today. It is the busiest night of the year for od and I can't find anyone that I like that likes me back. That's ridiculous isn't it. And rubbish.

I should be ironing and instead I'm dotting between match and pof and nothing happening on either! I need to get out more!!!!!!!

God I hate my ex now! Stupid idiot! Dirty cheat!!

48howdidthathappen · 02/01/2013 21:53

Is any/all of that his cock talking. I can handle that.

48howdidthathappen · 02/01/2013 21:59

Nomore Ironing. Give it up. Its a shyte job.

Yogagirl17 · 02/01/2013 22:10

Snape fab news about your date! Hope CAMHS offer some help. I'm currently waiting on a referral for DD as I just don't know how to deal with her tantrums anymore. She got back from 5 days away with her dad and kicked off, kept trying to tip DS & I out of our chairs during dinner...queue much screaming, slamming of doors (repeatedly), DS hiding in his bedroom. Argh.

Kirsty 5 brothers!!! Ahem, yoga here, all alone, not far from you...! Moving can have the younger ones, I'll take the next oldest - unless that's the gay one?

(sorry for whatever else I've missed, you lot have been busy today!!)

KirstyWirsty · 02/01/2013 22:18

yoga I'll do some digging .. They are in north Ayrshire .. When do you start your new job?

Yogagirl17 · 02/01/2013 22:26

That's ok Kirsty I am (mostly) joking. New job starts tuesday. :)

Scattylatte · 02/01/2013 22:41

Ok, I don't think I need the fish tonight but anytime soon is a probability.

I'm on pof. No more messages than normal. A couple a day. But a lot more from couples Hmm and married men. 2 want to Skype. They can bugger off coz I know that means floating gonad territory.

Fireman has been on the text. I'm keeping a safe cool distance now that I've deluded myself into liking him when I didn't like him when we had our date and I was almost disappointed (he thought I was going to drive away). Anyway I'm going to see him next Tuesday. But in the meantime I'm fixated with the idea of him. All his texts are mildly flirty and not serious. I'm my head he is now a mega hunk love god. Ffs

Woopsiedaisy · 02/01/2013 22:50

Have looked on GS & TE tonight, searching within 25 miles, not one extra member in my age group!!

Clearly I am too old and l live in a dating desert sobs into large glass of red and prepares for celibate life

Nomorepain · 02/01/2013 22:53

Scatty - I do that!! You talk yourself into them
And then make them something they aren't! Got no advice though!! Just go with your gut I suppose but well done to you for continuing the search!!