Men who don't watch porn

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I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

Can I ask if the porn-haters watch steamy films without their partners and get off on it? If so, where do you draw the line?

So you are asking if people who object to porn watch and enjoy soft porn? What answer do you think we will give? There is plenty of soft porn in mainstream media yes, no, I don't think it is ok and yes I think it is often degrading and humiliating women, more so than some of the more ethical hardcore porn.

So you object to all forms of erotica?

Offered thats what I said earlier. I think men can put on a bravado front to fit in with the stereotype male as its easier than sticking your neck on the line.

Andula I personally don't watch porn anymore, no.

Not soft porn, I mean normal, 18 rated films.

Ok, i should have made it clear, the men i know all watch porn. Normal, healthy men, no sexual deviants, just young healthy, mentally stable males.

What do you mean by "erotica" because objecting to erotica is not what anyone has really mentioned on this thread. People have mentioned exploitation and degradation of women by the sex industry and now we are talking a little to how mainstream media is also part of that, where are you reading "against all erotica"? That sounds like the beginning of "you are just people who hate sex" to me...

I'd say 90% of the men I know watch porn online and own dvds

There is soft porn in mainstream media... Did you not realise that was what it was called?

Shoesme - you missed "in my opinion". How do you know they aren't lying?

Does being against rape mean you hate sex? Some people might say so...

no I meant you personally, I wanted to know your view on the point at which getting aroused by other people's intimacy turns into degradation of women which is not to be tolerated.

no soft porn is porn where you can't see genitals, like the stuff they show in hotels

But you seem to be coming from a perspective that porn is universally arousing and people have to prevent themselves being aroused by it if they object to it. Plenty of people just don't get aroused by porn of any kind.

so you've never been aroused by anything sexual you've seen on tv?

No soft porn is any pornography which isn't hardcore. So music videos and sex scenes in mainstream films are soft core porn...

Why is that hard to believe?

Steamy scenes crated by properly paid non exploited actors is very different from porn. Which is a nest, exploitative business which degrades women. And men.

wow, its no wonder you're so angry

Who's angry?

Except that a lot of mainstream films contextualise their sex scenes and their sex in an abusive/degrading way I think seeker. It isn't the sex that bothers me, it is the context.

I'm not angry, but I knew the ultimate accusation when you ran out of points would be something along the lines of "you need to lighten up and watch more porn, you must be so frustrated "... Quite predictable...

Yep blah blah people who don't like porn because it degrades women are boring/prudish/sex-haters... Blah blah...

Not really, I'm just surprised tbh. And you don't need context if its just a quick wank, you want to get straight to the filth

Me or you?

You know masturbation and pornography are different things don't you?

Andula and Shoesme

Imaging at some point in the future your married with children (not sure if you are Andula?) would you mind your wife watching porn?

If so , would she only be allowed to do it with you?

If she turned you down for sex and chose to watch her favourite male porn star instead would it be ok by you?