ah kirsty, I'm sorry. You can't be sure you've been played, these things do happen to people even with the best of intentions, but you're better off not getting too involved with someone who obviously has major ex-issues or is lying about it.
Speaking of which, there isn't a list of red flags for men to look out for - there are obviously huge lists of signs to look for in men, but I'm a little concerned about the Artist. She's attractive, funny, and sweet, but quite full on, wants to know if we're boyfriend/girlfriend after 3 dates. I said lets see how we go, we only met 8 days ago.
But.. we went to bed last night and she didn't have any condoms. I'd bought several, in case she didn't, and used them, and asked if she was on the pill too - she said it was the wrong time of the month for her to get pregnant so I didn't need to use them at all.
Now to me, that raised a fairly big flag. Obviously STI aside, I really don't want to have completely unprotected sex with a 41 year old who says she wishes she had kids after only a week of knowing her. AIBU?
Coffee was amazing (although ironically she made me coffee this morning which was horrible), and as I said she's really nice but I'm a bit worried here