Startingagain trying to move forward, without nightmare EXP

[startingagain88]

New thread for my ongoing journey of trying to detached from my nightmare, exp while trying to hold on to my sanity :(

Old thread here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1437647-Starting-Again-Moving-Forward-Onwards-and-Upwards

Congratulations!

Woohoo, congratulations!! :)

After what he did yesterday he thinks he's allowed to sleep in the garage?! The one with the same key as the front door??! Deluded or what?!!

Congratulations Starting! Great to hear your good news.

well done not responding to his text. And CONGRATULATIONS! on your new job. That is amazing, and just the tonic you need.

Just tried to post on your old thread, before realising you have started a new one.

Many congratulations on the new job. Am so pleased for you. I think it will do you the world of good.

As far as your shit head ex is concerned, the one upside is that you have no doubts about his intentions now - he has made it crystal clear what he wants, so you don't have to wonder whether you are wrong about him.

Who is your solicitor. If it is the useless one you had right at the start, then please get another one. You deserve to have someone who'll fight your corner properly.

The only words that should be uttered to twunt from this point forward (if you absolutely HAVE to say anything at all). Should be the mn classic line -

"Fuck off to the far side of Fuck, and when you get there Fuck off some more"

Oh wow Starting that is fantastic news!! I always had a feeling you would get one of those jobs but as time went on I daren't ask anymore.
What a clever and a brave girl!!

It will make such a difference and you will be in London and in the thick of all the action.

As for twunt, I just cannot believe the audacity ....... the gift that keeps on giving!!
He wants to sleep in your garage while he plots to screw half your house off you.

I feel so happy for you baby!

Fantastic news starting. The first of many new starts for you l am sure.
Keep your chin up girl. your MN fan club is cheering you on.

Another one wanting to say CONGRATULATIONS on the new job. You go girl! :)

o4t - How's yours going? Been promoted to CEO yet?

Congratulations on the job.. so when are you going to start? xx

Well done Starting!

Thank you so much everyone , i haven't signed the paperwork, but that should happen in the next day or so.......... :) Im due to start on the 28th (fingers crossed)!

I couldnt believe the twunts audacity either, he basically told me a day before that he is going to 'take me for 50% of everything' , pushed his way into the house, shouting and pointing at me and then next day he's asking if he can stay...?!?!?!

I really dont understand him anymore........night everyone!

Maybe his solicitor advised him he didn't have a leg to stand on claim or refused to act until he's put his money on the table, or he took it into his head that possession is 9/10 of the law?

Time will tell but I would suggest that, as he's clearly not averse to vindictiveness, you make sure that your car is safely locked away in your garage after dusk and is not left on the road if you're away during the day for any length of time.

I'd also suggest that you investigate the cost of installing an inexpensive cctv and a burglar alarm. If funds are tight, a dummy box with a battery operated alarm installed in visible place at the front of the house will be a deterrent to him opportunists - they're easily affordable on eBay.

Well done Starting - you are amazing x

I am surprised he has not yet tried to take the dog, just to upset you and isolate you further.

(((Hugs Huge Huge Humungous HUGS))))

The lyrics to "I am Woman" apply................ By Helen Reddy.
Youtube it, it is a powerful song.

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an' pretend
'cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again

CHORUS
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman

You can bend but never break me
'cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul

CHORUS

I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin' arms across the land
But I'm still an embryo
With a long long way to go
Until I make my brother understand

Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
Oh, I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong

FADE
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman

Well done on the job!!! That is a major worry off your shoulders and it will give you good opportunities to make new friends.

But, thank God you said "no"! It was the only thing you could have said, apart from "please, do not call me ever again".

If you'd done anything else, you would have been either allowing him to call your property his home (hence weakening your case), or giving him money to support himself (weakening your case again) or paying for his accommodation elsewhere (weakening your case).

I think you've reached a turning point in your life!!!

Jeez roxy its a mess here none of the systems work properly and the files are all over the bloody place. I am a disorganized person and if it looks bad to me it must be really bad. Everyone else seems to think its normal

Cogratulations on the job Starting. I also think that in light of recent developments you need to think about your house security and that of your car really seriously.
Are you still thinking about moving when the house is "done"?

De-lurking to say, my warning bell is deafening my ears.

He REALLY wants to get into that garage doesnt he?

Call me suscpicious, but i'd be in there having a really good look about.

I dont believe he wants to sleep there. There is something he wants in there.

or maybe when he barged into the house for the garage keys, he really was only intending on sleeping there cos he has no where else to go. ??????

I'd still look.

Congratulations on the job-brilliant.

You are right, theonlysaneinthevillage, there is something important about the garage as far as Starting's ex is concerned. Otherwise it doesn't make sense that when he is actually in the house, he would immediately leave it again and try to get into the garage.

but whatever is in there, or he thinks is in there, why didn't he take it when he had ample chances a few weeks ago?

Great news on the job!

He's not got a stash of something in the garage has he?

Oooh intriguing!! Let's hope it's a suitcase full of cash :o

Reminds me of The Divine Comedy Song "There's something in the woodshed"!!