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Very Nosey BJ QuestIon!

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NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:35

Yes I've name changed - come on I had to!

So the question is - how often do you give your DP a BJ? This is following on from a conversation with DH last night. I had just given him one Blush and to summarise, he basically said "that was amazing, shame you don't do it more often though".

Admittedly we sometimes go weeks without me going 'there'. I don't dislike it, but it's not top of my 'sex list' IYSWIM. So when I'm going through a knackered phase and we finally get around to a bit of rumpy, I would quite often rather go for the 'standard' shag rather than faff about (god that makes me sound old and dull, I know!). But then we'll have more 'up' times when a BJ is every week or two. But it's never really part of every session. BTW DH is very willing the other way round and definitely does it to me more often than I do to him, so I suppose that's why I maybe feel a bit guilty about his remark...

So can we all leave our blushes at the door and compare notes please? Grin

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noodle69 · 11/02/2011 21:03

My husband thought he ciouldnt come from bjs before he met me. Theres nothing like getting with a man who tells you a woman cant make him cum from bjs and then making him do it every time Wink

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NoseyNosey · 11/02/2011 21:11

Wow have just come back to this thread and am surprised by the response!

Seems like there are two BJ camps here - the ones that are doing it constantly Shock or others that hardly ever do.

Anyway, just to bring you up to date on my BJ count this week Grin, after 'bringing it to a head' by starting this thread.... I have given DH two this week so far and am planning on going for no.3 tonight if I don't fall asleep on the sofa dribbling after just starting on a shiny bottle of Pimms.

And BTW noodle do you not suspect your DH even a teeny bit of giving you a line there? Ie, it reminds me of somebody I'd just started seeing years ago who told me he'd been impotent for years and no woman could get him going. Up until that point I'd been good and virtuous, but on hearing that, I couldn't jump on fast enough Grin. Was a load of bollocks too BTW, either that or I had some secret gift no other woman had Hmm...

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noodle69 · 11/02/2011 21:19

No he was only 18 and had only had teenage fumblings, where as I was the same age and a bit of a slut lol.

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NoseyNosey · 11/02/2011 21:21

That's ok then, would hate to think of you sucking away under false pretences Grin

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emmyloopsylou · 11/02/2011 21:26

MY dh was the same, never really had bj's I could tell too as when we met it was sensory overload and he couldn't cope.

Now he loves them, but he dosen't want them all the time, it's 50/50. He never finishes that way, not because he can't but because he actually likes sex to finish. My orgasm sets him off, rather like Mal describes.

dementedma · 11/02/2011 22:36

Never. That's how often in this house!

Malificence · 12/02/2011 12:17

Trinity, did you actually see my reasoning about why I was down there for so long?

The idea of ejaculating into a pot isn't exactly the greatest turn on, that's why he wasn't very erm, forthcoming, plus he's not into taking pleasure without giving it. Nothing like having to perform for turning sex into a chore.

And yes, I did feel a bit useless tbh. Sad

Then I realised there is nothing wrong with me, or him. Wink

happiestblonde · 12/02/2011 12:52

regarding 45 minutes he can come in like 5/10 the 45 is drawing it out as long as possible til he's a shaking wreck.

Oh and 2 this morning, and counting...

AnyFucker · 12/02/2011 12:55

hb...how do you find time to do anything else ?

happiestblonde · 12/02/2011 13:11

I'm going to the gym in a bit then we're going out for the 2nd day of 4 days of Valentine's celebrations.... wildly productive!

crystalglasses · 12/02/2011 13:12

Seems most men prefer BJs to penetrative sex. Why?

QueenStromba · 12/02/2011 13:16

He is rather TobyLerone. I've been with a couple of other men who required a lot of effort and they were quite large too - wasn't sure if that was random chance or not.

TobyLerone · 12/02/2011 14:26

Seems to be the case, IME.

noodle69 · 12/02/2011 14:38

My husband is 8 inches but he about average width wise though. Its mostly long length. I dont bother getting it all in (as I couldnt if I wanted to) but the most sensitive part is the tip anyway. I sometimes cheat and use hands at same time as its easier to do both when in 69 to finish cause I get lazier once I have had mine sometimes lol.

threecurrantbuns · 12/02/2011 19:33

Well suprised dh with one last night...its been a while and went down well Smile

After reading all these regular bj posts think i shall carry on giving them out more regulary Smile I def enjoyed him struggling to control himself and dragging me on top of him before it was too late Grin

If only he wasnt at work atm Wink

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