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Very Nosey BJ QuestIon!

115 replies

NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:35

Yes I've name changed - come on I had to!

So the question is - how often do you give your DP a BJ? This is following on from a conversation with DH last night. I had just given him one Blush and to summarise, he basically said "that was amazing, shame you don't do it more often though".

Admittedly we sometimes go weeks without me going 'there'. I don't dislike it, but it's not top of my 'sex list' IYSWIM. So when I'm going through a knackered phase and we finally get around to a bit of rumpy, I would quite often rather go for the 'standard' shag rather than faff about (god that makes me sound old and dull, I know!). But then we'll have more 'up' times when a BJ is every week or two. But it's never really part of every session. BTW DH is very willing the other way round and definitely does it to me more often than I do to him, so I suppose that's why I maybe feel a bit guilty about his remark...

So can we all leave our blushes at the door and compare notes please? Grin

OP posts:
inbetweener · 11/02/2011 14:29

toby I'm not sexually repressed ( great name by the way, are you a Chris Moyles fan Grin I just think Im a bit lazy.
I cant be bothered to stick DH's cock in my mouth when it does NOTHING for me and get jaw ache by sucking that for half an hour.
I dont like the sensation of receiving from him either it doesnt do anything for me. I enjoy sex but just not oral sex. It doesnt disgust me I just dont like it !!

TobyLerone · 11/02/2011 14:36

Thanks :) I namechanged because the whole Toby Lerone thing made me laugh.

I honestly wasn't directing my comment at anyone in particular. It's just something I've noticed online/via friends/colleagues/family etc. It is, of course, absolutely fair enough to have any number of things that you just don't like doing/having done to you. It's perfectly ok to have missionary, lights-off sex once a month if both partners are genuinely happy with that. It's ok to only ever want to have sex if you're dressed as David Cameron if that's what does it for you!

It's just that in general, I seem to be seeing it increasingly from women of my age/generation (I'm 33), and most often because they have some ingrained feeling that certain things are 'dirty' or 'disgusting'. I thought we were supposed to be freer and more emancipated now than we've ever been.

(sorry, bit of a hijack Blush )

inbetweener · 11/02/2011 14:42

Missionary sex is the only type that does it for me lol.
I can practically fall asleep at the same time...bliss Grin

TobyLerone · 11/02/2011 14:43

I absolutely LOVE missionary sex. Although not for the same reasons Hmm

inbetweener · 11/02/2011 14:55

LOL I was joking.

TobyLerone · 11/02/2011 14:58

Oh, thank goodness! I'm so used to seeing/hearing that sort of thing that I just accepted it as gospel!

ihatethecold · 11/02/2011 15:26
Shock i cant believe how much blojobbin is going on!
inbetweener · 11/02/2011 15:27

Not in my house it aint....Blush

QueenStromba · 11/02/2011 15:39

Are you all saying that men don't need to have their cocks sucked after they come because otherwise what hasn't come out will harden inside and he won't be able to pee and his kidneys will explode? I really need to have a chat with my DP when he gets home!

threecurrantbuns · 11/02/2011 16:07

Im Shock at how much bj-ing is going on...good for all that it is good for though!

Our third is finally started to sleep and i am gradually feeling less zombi like...so think i might suprise my dh with one tonight Grin

Used to be a regular thing but that was a looong time ago!

nickelbabe · 11/02/2011 16:43

Grin QueenStromba

TrinityMotherOfRhinos · 11/02/2011 16:44

I'm reckoning I may indulge tonight Smile

its dps birthday and we have been out for chinese, had my hair cut and bought some things

I'm very happy, we're doing cake and stuff then kids to bed as early as and onto the vodka and coke together...may watch rome too

stubbornhubby · 11/02/2011 16:56

Malificence

"I could be sucking for an hour and 45 and my DH still wouldn't come...
..my technique is just fine"

Ummmm.. HELLOOO !!

1hr 45!! So what is he doing while you are down there?

Sudoku? Catching up on his email? Balancing the chequebook? Reconfiguring the Wireless Router?

nickelbabe · 11/02/2011 16:56

you do it loads anyway! Shock

(bad smiley to chose, bad...)

TobyLerone · 11/02/2011 17:33

Some men just don't come from blowjobs, ever. My bf had never done so...until he met me Grin

QueenStromba · 11/02/2011 17:34

My DP takes an age to come as well stubornhubby - he doesn't even come every time we have sex even if he's really enjoying it. When I'm giving him a hand job or blow job he'll have lots of half orgasms (he says that there are two stages - the second or two before and the actual ejaculation part, and a lot of the time he just gets the first bit) but for him to actually come properly we need to have sex or he needs to take over (for him to come during a handjob it has to be way more vigorous than either of us would want me trying). It's just difficult to make some men come in my experience.

TobyLerone · 11/02/2011 17:37

IIRC, your partner is very well endowed, isn't he, QueenStromba? I used to date someone who was pretty huge. His cock was bigger around than my wrist, and about 10" in length. It was often fairly difficult to make him come too. Oddly, though, BJs could often do the trick, although I always felt like one of those snakes who have to dislocate their jaws to eat whole eggs.

Malificence · 11/02/2011 18:09

The only time I was down there for that long was when trying to coax a sample out of him after his snip - we ended up giving up and using a condom for collection.

He can come through oral, he has in the past, though now I would probably have to not touch him for a month beforehand .

He's trained to respond to my body basically, my orgasms trigger his .

My technique is "fantastic", according to DH, but then I'm all he's ever had so make of that what you will.

Wysiwig · 11/02/2011 18:23

When I was in a relationship BJ's were like Martini..anytime...anyplace..anywhere...

Why oh why am I still single:(

annababy · 11/02/2011 18:30

'he's trained to respond to my body'
my god what utter crap you come out with sometimes

Malificence · 11/02/2011 19:02

Why is it utter crap? Confused
We've been having sex for nearly 30 years, only ever had sex with each other, 9 times out of ten , he doesn't orgasm until I do, if that's not trained or conditioned, what is?

Malificence · 11/02/2011 19:03

When I say 30 years, I don't mean continuously, I'm all for tantric sex but that's taking it a little too far Wink.

SummerRain · 11/02/2011 19:18

dp doesn't come from BJs either... probably part of why I can't be arsed (and my technique is brilliant, have plenty of exes who'd testify to that). Main reason though is that he's incapable of sitting back and having things done to him, always starts thrusting which is fucking unpleasant when i've got his cock in my mouth and my gag reflex is triggered as well as my jaw being dislocated.

TrinityMotherOfRhinos · 11/02/2011 20:57

wysiwig, thats me totally

its very easy to do anywhere and I love it

I'm very shocked at the 1 hr 45 mins

I'm sorry but if that was happening I would be feeling totally shit about myself
I'm not having a go at anyone but i know there is no way I could do it for that long without it working as it were, either he rolls me over cause he needs to or he comes

would feel like I was no good at it if it took that long

TrinityMotherOfRhinos · 11/02/2011 20:59

hmm summer, no thrusting or its game over

I dislike retching more than I dislike spiders and they are the most hideous creatures ever to walk the earth

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