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Very Nosey BJ QuestIon!

115 replies

NoseyNosey · 10/02/2011 12:35

Yes I've name changed - come on I had to!

So the question is - how often do you give your DP a BJ? This is following on from a conversation with DH last night. I had just given him one Blush and to summarise, he basically said "that was amazing, shame you don't do it more often though".

Admittedly we sometimes go weeks without me going 'there'. I don't dislike it, but it's not top of my 'sex list' IYSWIM. So when I'm going through a knackered phase and we finally get around to a bit of rumpy, I would quite often rather go for the 'standard' shag rather than faff about (god that makes me sound old and dull, I know!). But then we'll have more 'up' times when a BJ is every week or two. But it's never really part of every session. BTW DH is very willing the other way round and definitely does it to me more often than I do to him, so I suppose that's why I maybe feel a bit guilty about his remark...

So can we all leave our blushes at the door and compare notes please? Grin

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bettyswollocks16 · 10/02/2011 23:59

I'll leave my blushes at the door.....

I happily give my DH all he wants in that department, every day if he wants it. He loves it, I have the power to make him happy, so I do!

I know how to put my teeth away, plus have had my tonsils out Wink....... I love it as much as he does.

Grin
ElephantsAndMiasmas · 11/02/2011 01:38

Bloody bloody hell you lot. I'm with Crawling.

You guys must be knackered/have your jaws hanging off.

chippy47 · 11/02/2011 01:48

I can safely say none of you serial BJ givers are the partners of anyone I know! Crikey. Envy

bettyswollocks16 · 11/02/2011 02:03

Laughs at Chippy!

And Elephants!Grin

My jaw's not hanging off.........

I don't spit either - bloody disgusting habit that is, how common!!!!!!!!!

Morloth · 11/02/2011 07:28

A full actual BJ is a bit of a rare treat here, about once a month.

DH doesn't do me though cause I fucking hate it, no idea why, am up for pretty much anything else. But getting a BJ is actually irritating.

noodle69 · 11/02/2011 08:08

We do it every time we have sex. We are propely different to most people as we have sex and then finish off in 69 practically every time we have sex.

We both love it the most and 69 means you both get the pleasure at the same time. I dont think there is any better position.

Its not hard or a job when you are getting some back at the same time. I always come first and once I have and I just carry on and just finish him it always seems more of an effort but thats cause I have already had mine! I wouldnt let on that of course as that would be harsh lol.

BelfastBloke · 11/02/2011 08:14

"I don't spit either - bloody disgusting habit that is, how common!!!!!!!!!"

lol

BJs. I remember them....

TobyLerone · 11/02/2011 09:24

I really hate 69. I can't concentrate properly on the job in hand whilst being distracted.

stubbornhubby · 11/02/2011 09:47

happiestblonde seriously if it's taking 45 mins I wonder if you are doing it right...

... be a bit firmer

stubbornhubby · 11/02/2011 09:49

...or is it that he can only relax at half time ?

batman47555 · 11/02/2011 09:49

I LOVE 69
but its more about the giving than receiveing

BelfastBloke · 11/02/2011 10:05

"...or is it that he can only relax at half time ?"

Heh.

Does it depend on who the pundits are?

SummerRain · 11/02/2011 12:53

Can I just ask... how long have all you 4/5/6 times a week ladies been with your partners?

QueeferSutherland · 11/02/2011 13:02

I do the dong-in-mouth almost every time we have sex. (2-3 times a week.)

Full-to-completion BJ maybe once every 1-2 months. That's only because half way through he'll pull me up onto him. Blush

I dislike 69 too. I need to focus to come.

I've been with DH 6 years last month.

TobyLerone · 11/02/2011 13:06

Not long compared to the others -- just under a year. But I can't see it changing any time soon.

Malificence · 11/02/2011 13:10

"happiestblonde seriously if it's taking 45 mins I wonder if you are doing it right..."
Is that so? Hmm

I could be sucking for an hour and 45 and my DH still wouldn't come, he sees it as foreplay and needs penetrative sex to finish, as do lots of men when they get older.
He loves it and my technique is just fine.

Noodle , bit of a bummer if you want to get pregnant though Wink. Don't like 69 much myself, not nearly enough intimacy and too distracting, for me it's bottom of the list of good positions.

Malificence · 11/02/2011 13:14

Oh and to answer the question, almost every time, as foreplay.
I think I'm making up for the ten+ years when I couldn't do it due to TMJ problems, I actually find it relaxes my jaw nowadays, so when I say my jaw is a bit stiff, DH is happy to oblige. Grin

StarlightPrincess · 11/02/2011 13:17

Errrmmm...well...I gave him one last night!

nickelbabe · 11/02/2011 13:21

I have never done it to DH.
We had a talk early on in our relationship, when we started doing sex stuff, and I said that i didn't like it done on me, and what did he think.
he said that he'd had it done by the other woman, but he didn't think much of it.
i asked if it was just her technique andhe said he preferred the cuddling of sex.

so we've never done it.
I did bring it up last week, and he seemed a bit grossed out, really.
so I kissed it (just a peck as you would a cheek) and it just felt a bit weird...

but hten, we're still exploring and getting used to each other, so probably not the best person to ask.

I did it to my ex, but i bloody hated it.

marge2 · 11/02/2011 13:23

Once only ever - disGUSTING - never again!

Malificence · 11/02/2011 13:34

If you think that a loving act between two consenting adults is digusting, then you have ishoos.

Guildenstern · 11/02/2011 13:46

I reckon I could count the number of times on one hand that my DH has had a BJ from me. And we've been together 15 years.

Does that make you feel better? :)

(And I don't like receiving, so there are no double standards going on).

inbetweener · 11/02/2011 14:04

I dont like doing it either. I last did it about 2 and a bit years ago and we have been together for 19 years.

DH likes it though and has bene asking constantly.

He tries to do it to me but im afraid I yank his head away and move Blush
I prefer to just get on with it and get the job done and go to sleep. Again Blush....

TobyLerone · 11/02/2011 14:09

I genuinely feel quite sad for the more sexually repressed people (usually women, but sometimes men too) in our society. I cannot imagine not wanting to experiment with sex. My bf and I are in agreement that there are very few things that would be dismissed instantly if suggested by either of us. There are a few (fairly deviant by many peoples' standards) things that we have discussed in a hypothetical "it's not something I've ever wanted to try, but if you really wanted (me) to, I'd give it a go".

I'm not being smug or judgey or talking down to anyone for being however they want to be. Not in the slightest. To each her own and all that. But it just makes me a little dismayed for those who have boring sex lives because they think certain things are 'disgusting' or 'unladylike' or whatever their parents society has drummed into them.

Rieslinger · 11/02/2011 14:12

No very many at all.....boo-hooo.

I love to give to my DW but she has to really be in the mood to receive or give herself.....so hopefully that'll alleviate your guilt somewhat!

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