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Handhold, 12 week scan today

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Dalmatian0 · 08/01/2025 03:42

I’m petrified. Both my previous pregnancies I was told at my routine dating scan ‘I’m sorry there’s no heartbeat’. Both times I’d had a positive early scan at 8 weeks and no bleeding / cramping.

I don’t know how I’ll cope if it happens a 3rd time. Friends keep announcing their pregnancies to me. How do I cope?

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Cupofteaandbiscuits · 08/01/2025 17:01

Such brilliant news! Xx

WutheringMights · 08/01/2025 17:04

What wonderful news! Huge congratulations and here's to a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Mielbee · 08/01/2025 17:04

I've been checking back today in the hopes of seeing that update! So happy for you!

tulipsunday · 08/01/2025 17:05

Amazing! I know the fear of scans after loss. My baby following two miscarriages is currently tugging at my leg 😊 wish you all the best xx

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Dalmatian0 · 08/01/2025 17:06

💗💗💗

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Squidtentacles · 08/01/2025 14:11

Handholding!

I have 2 weeks to go for my 12 week scan. I have 1 son, no other pregnancies. However, I went for an early scan last month and the embryo was measuring nearly 2 weeks behind, so I am preparing myself for bad news too.
🤞for us both

Thinking of you, that is very tough. Could your dates be wrong? I hope it is a comfort to have your son, it has worked out for you before and so it can do again 💗

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Starlight1984 · 08/01/2025 15:29

Oh @Dalmatian0 I feel for you. It's so scary. We've been there. 2 miscarriages last year. Just deciding when to start trying again - third time lucky hopefully.

Sending lots of love to you ❤

I am so sorry for your losses,
it is really hard to go through. I hope the new year will feel like a fresh new start and that it will be third time lucky for you xxx

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BeAzureAnt · 08/01/2025 17:14

WutheringMights · 08/01/2025 06:18

Keep reminding yourself that having a positive 12 week scan is statistically the most likely outcome after seeing a heartbeat previously.

It's incredibly hard to stay calm on the build up to scans after 1, 2 or more losses and I'm afraid the anxiety doesn't really leave you completely.

Take a deep breath, clear your mind and focus your thoughts on a healthy pregnancy. Come back later and update us.

Excellent advice. All the best to you OP.

BeAzureAnt · 08/01/2025 17:14

Dalmatian0 · 08/01/2025 17:01

I utterly can’t believe it but scan went well. Baby alive and measurements on track. Thank you so much to you all for posting,
it really helped. And glad to leave this post here to give others hope - after two heartbreaking experiences I couldn’t believe it could go well this time, but it did 💗 still a long way to go of course but taking this as a huge win xx

Just saw this. Congratulations!

morningtoncrescent62 · 08/01/2025 17:18

I didn't see this thread in time to provide a hand-hold, but I'm so glad to see your update, OP. Wishing you all the very best for the rest of your pregnancy, and for happy times to come.

CluelessAsFuck · 08/01/2025 17:19

Dalmatian0 · 08/01/2025 17:01

I utterly can’t believe it but scan went well. Baby alive and measurements on track. Thank you so much to you all for posting,
it really helped. And glad to leave this post here to give others hope - after two heartbreaking experiences I couldn’t believe it could go well this time, but it did 💗 still a long way to go of course but taking this as a huge win xx

Yessssssss!!!

Squidtentacles · 08/01/2025 17:25

Dalmatian0 · 08/01/2025 17:07

Thinking of you, that is very tough. Could your dates be wrong? I hope it is a comfort to have your son, it has worked out for you before and so it can do again 💗

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So genuinely thrilled for you! I kept checking back hoping for the positive update!
I don't see how I could possibly be wrong as I know when my period was, have regular cycles (on the shorter side rather than longer) and I know I ovulated at the average stage in my cycles (around day 13) as I was tracking ovulation. I had lots of bleeding with my son, which thankfully turned out to be nothing worrying. None this time, saw a heartbeat at our early scan, but measuring so far behind. I'm trying not to stress but not getting my hopes up either.

I hope you can relax a bit now and enjoy your pregnancy!

Shahhhh · 08/01/2025 17:27

Eeeee I'm genuinely tearing up. So completely buzzing for you OP! Good luck with everything xxx

Seawolves · 08/01/2025 17:30

Wonderful news! Wishing you a smooth pregnancy.

hazelnutvanillalatte · 08/01/2025 17:35

So happy for you and good luck 💖

Sabrinaspellman01 · 08/01/2025 17:39

Dalmatian0 · 08/01/2025 17:01

I utterly can’t believe it but scan went well. Baby alive and measurements on track. Thank you so much to you all for posting,
it really helped. And glad to leave this post here to give others hope - after two heartbreaking experiences I couldn’t believe it could go well this time, but it did 💗 still a long way to go of course but taking this as a huge win xx

Ahh congratulations to you all OP!!🩷🩵 🎊

fashionqueen0123 · 08/01/2025 17:39

Very pleased for you! Was hoping you’d update! Such a relief x

Dontjudgeme101 · 08/01/2025 17:42

That’s fantastic news op. 💐💐💐

ShalalaIa · 08/01/2025 17:43

💏

PumpkinSparkleFairy · 08/01/2025 17:48

Dalmatian0 · 08/01/2025 17:01

I utterly can’t believe it but scan went well. Baby alive and measurements on track. Thank you so much to you all for posting,
it really helped. And glad to leave this post here to give others hope - after two heartbreaking experiences I couldn’t believe it could go well this time, but it did 💗 still a long way to go of course but taking this as a huge win xx

Amazing update!!

I was third time lucky - baby currently napping on my chest, very grateful 💕

Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 08/01/2025 17:57

You may not find you really really believe it until s/he starts kicking in a few weeks time.
or you may not find you really believe it until you gave birth !

as more than one of us said, and have personal history - 3rd time lucky !!!

Flux1 · 08/01/2025 18:00

I'm so happy for you. The best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy

Jl2014 · 08/01/2025 18:00

Congratulations, OP. Lovely news.

Americano75 · 08/01/2025 18:02

I raced through your posts for the update, I'm so happy for you!

AppleBlossomMay · 08/01/2025 18:08

Such wonderful news, so very happy for you!💛