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Bad news at 20 week scan, please help.

365 replies

No1worrier · 10/03/2021 09:02

I hope someone can tell me their experiences from something similar. I have just been told at my 20 week scan my little girl has something seriously wrong with her heart. I have been referred to the fetal medication unit to see a specialist cardiologist tomorrow. She is moving so much, heartbeat has been strong since was 6 and a half weeks pregnant, everything else like her brain, kidneys etc look fine but something is so badly wrong with her heart. I'm so confused 😥. The consultant at the hospital didn't say what he thought it looked like but he said it was serious and I will probably be given options, one being it is fixable, another is ending the pregnancy which we refuse to do! I am 21 weeks pregnant now so more than half way and I can't even think about ending it. All I know is she doesn't have the normal 4 chambers etc like a heart should have. Sorry I don't have much more information than this, we don't get to take notes away home with us at our hospital. Any input would be appreciated 💗

Sorry forgot to mention my down syndrome screening bloods came back as 1 in 99,000

OP posts:
Holothane · 18/03/2021 00:05

Prayers and hugs.💐💐💐💐

boymum1x · 18/03/2021 00:06

Sending love & strength so sorry your going through this Daffodil

Lofari · 18/03/2021 01:16

Sending love

GreyhoundG1rl · 18/03/2021 01:19

So sorry. Love and strength Flowers

BobbidyBob · 18/03/2021 06:44

@user20211

Oh OP, I just remembered, my milk came in a couple of days after the birth and my boobs were painful and rock hard (obviously, because I had no baby to feed!). And the whole thing was just a reminder that my body had given birth and was ready to feed my baby.

The midwives gave me a pill to take to stop any more milk coming but said it is usually given before the Milk comes in to stop it completely.

Sorry I'm not sure if PP had mentioned it. And I can't remember what the pill is called either 🙈

This is a good point. I was given Dostinex. It didn’t stop my milk coming in entirely but it was less bad than it would have been.
pinkyboots1 · 18/03/2021 07:20

My little boy was born at 22 1/2 weeks almost 17 years ago and it was nowhere near as bad as I'd built it up in my mind. I was in all day and stayed overnight too as I had complications with the placenta. I was given lots of Morphine so large parts of the day are 'missing' it helped time pass although I was sick a lot.
Things I wish I'd known/done were to take a specialty blanket and outfit etc, taken more photos and I hadn't realised that my milk would come in and that was devastating as a reminder.
I'm sending all my love and hugs to you and your partner x

doodlejump1980 · 18/03/2021 08:18

Thinking of you today op. X

RedPandaFluff · 18/03/2021 08:29

Thinking of you, your DP and your little girl today, *OP Thanks

bubblegeek22 · 18/03/2021 08:44

Sending all the love today OP. 💐

trevthecat · 18/03/2021 08:49

Thinking of you today x

CustardGoodJamGoodMeatGood · 18/03/2021 08:52

Thinking of you today OP x

dalmatianmad · 18/03/2021 09:04

Thinking of you today xxxx

JoyousAsOtters · 18/03/2021 09:42

Thinking of you today OP. Sending you strength and love.

JustAddCoffee91 · 18/03/2021 09:43

Sending all my strength to you today op 💐

WitchDancer · 18/03/2021 09:51

Thinking of you today

3AndStopping · 18/03/2021 10:37

DaffodilDaffodil Lots of love to you OP DaffodilDaffodil

Dillybear · 18/03/2021 10:49

My heart breaks for you, I’m so sorry this is happening. I am thinking of you.

mummytoone28 · 18/03/2021 10:52

Thinking of you today❤️

Newnamefor2021 · 18/03/2021 10:55

So sorry OP. Thinking of you.

onedream · 18/03/2021 11:46

Thinking of you today ❤️

SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 18/03/2021 12:41

Thinking of you 🌻

Alonelonelyloner · 18/03/2021 13:03

I'm thinking of you Daffodil

SunsetOverEasterIsland · 18/03/2021 13:06

So sorry, thinking of you, your partner and daughter x

ILoveBountys · 18/03/2021 13:10

Thinking of you today xxx

Misspacorabanne · 18/03/2021 13:16

Thinking of you op, sending love and strength. Flowers