Pregnant with no. 3 / 4 / 5...?!

[LimeLeafLizard]

Just wondering if anyone else is pg with their 3rd, 4th, 5th, or more?!

I am newly pg with baby number 4 and finding it a bit different this time.

Yesterday I flicked through a couple of magazines but the content didn't seem that relevant to me. I am quietly happy but not nearly as excited or nervous as I was before, especially the first time.

I know what kind of birth I want (same as the last two times) and I don't need to buy any stuff, so there doesn't seem so much to think about, at least until the scan.

I am also a bit worried about how other people are going to react when we tell them. There seems to be a general view that wanting 4 children must make us mad.

Hope I am not alone?!

This always makes me laugh Shelly and Haitch - particularly when you go for medical appointments with no kids in tow and they haven't looked at your notes....is this your first...erm no this will be number 5 . This week one of the midwifes asked me how old my youngest was - and she was a bit when I said she will be one at the end of the week!

Well just about ready for our 2 week camping trip. Am just hoping that it is not too stressful.....going with lots of family though, so hoping that they will help out a bit with the DC's! Oh and also praying for good weather (obviously!)

Can I join?? I'm 22+2 with no 5. I already have 4 ds's 9,8,6 and almost 4 and this is a little girl according to 20 week scan.
People's reactions are really funny and people's stares now it's school hols and my bump is showing are obvious

Hi CODwidow

Congratulations! I am also on no.5 - how are you finding this pregnancy? I have to admit I am really struggling (currently 27 weeks) - I feel like my body has been completely battered by so many pregnancies! I know things will be much better once I've had the baby though - I always find being pregnant harder than the 'looking after the baby' bit afterwards!

Hi COD!

You lot are a bad influence on me , I'm thinking 4 isn't that big for a family but I'm getting sterilised this time to stop any wavering in the future!

Oh I love the 'is it your first?' comments. I had my 28 week appointment at the hospital and when I told the midwife it was actually number 4, her chin almost hit the floor apparently I don't look old enough. I'm 26, not 16! lol. It gets even better when I say little lady has 2 more half sisters as well because although it's our first together, DP also has 2 girls with his ex :o

I am finding this one a little harder physically than the others, I feel this time that my body has had enough tbh. Hoping once school hols are over it'll get a little easier though.

Glad I am not the only one struggling COD! I honestly don't know how people manage to go through more than 5 pregnancies! And yes - at least 2 of mine will be out of the way at school in a few more weeks - although there is the joy of getting organised to do the school run, instead of everyone staying in their PJ's until gone 9!

Haitchjay are you planning to get sterilised straight after the birth? That was our plan after no4, but unfortunately the GP said we had to wait for 6 months after DC4 was born for DH to get the snip (in case we changed our mind!), and I discovered I was pregnant a few weeks before DH went for his op! He has had it now, so this one should DEFINATELY be our last....

I know what you mean 4 kids but I always struggle in the 3rd week of the hols then I'll be fine again. But once their back i'll be wishing for the next holiday so we don't have to be so organised. Can't win!

I think that's the only thing I'm slighty worried about is making sure I keep up with everyone's school work with a newborn as it is quite challenging already do any tips from anyone welcome

4kids- I'm having a section so can have it done at the same time. That's what they offered last time anyway

Had booking appt and another scan yesterday. All ok they decided on 9 weeks starting yesterday so I have a due date now. Spent ages filling in the forms. Am not getting a 12 week scan now either :( not sure how to do the 'I'm pregnant ' announcement without a pic
Dr told me I didn't have to come back until 34 weeks and MW had to argue him down to 16.

Hello everyone, good to catch up with your news, and hello COD!

I had a funny 'is it your first?' moment last week. I was on my own in mothercare, buying a couple of maternity tops as I've started to show now. The Assistant at the till started telling me about their 'Baby and Me Club' - I quickly said it was my 4th child and she said, 'oh, right' and said no more!

Haitch I can't believe the Dr didn't want to see you from 9 weeks to 34! Madness. Thank goodness your MW put him straight.

COD I don't have any good homework tips but my friend gets her eldest to listen to the reception age child read most nights (she or DH do listen once a week). Depends on the children as to whether that would work I suppose.

I do know a few families where the older one listens to the younger but it doesn't work here. The older one gets bored or the younger one won't read properly. I think I'll just have to come up with a system so that everyone gets their homework/reading/spelling done on certain days.

How's everyone doing? I'm now 13 weeks and italready feels like its going on for ages!

Hi Ood I felt like that for the first few months especially with young children to chase after, but I'm now 25 weeks and don't feel ready! DC3 was born at 34 weeks, so hopefully this one will last longer. Have you had your first scan now? Hope all is well with you.

Hope everyone's doing well and pgs going ok. COD I have also been getting funny looks from people now my bump is so obvious. I don't understand how people feel they have the right to stare when DCs are walking along quietly. Oh and I finally got the "Don't you have a telly" comment too. The woman was sweet though so couldn't hit back with anything shocking.

I had a scan at 9 weeks and they wouldn't give me a 12 week one. Have a consultant appointment next month but nothing for ages

Hi everyone

Can I join you? Am expecting DC3 next month. Had a quick scan back through the thread and so many of you are on no. 4 or 5 I feel like a bit of a wimp!

My DDs are 4 (only just) and 18 mth. DD1 starts school on Wed.

Having a good pregnancy all in all but definitely more tired, especially having just had the summer holidays to manage. I've got spd/pgp and have been seeing a chiropractor, which has definitely made a difference but now at 34 weeks I'm finding it much more difficult to cope with. 6 weeks will shoot by I know but still feel fed up from time to time.

I really identify with some of the things others have said. I have that 'are we pushing our luck?' feeling and keep just trying to push it down whenever it pops up. Not just to do with health of baby but worrying that this one might be much harder to manage than the other 2 who are very good girls really. That said DD2 is really starting to assert her personality and independence now, as they do, and I can see she's going to be more of a handful when the new baby comes than I imagined back in March when we found out I was pg. The other 2 have always been such good sleepers and generally contented babies - what if this one is a terror?!

I also feel bad for DD2 that she still needs me more than DD1 did when DD2 was born (2.5yr age gap between them but only 20 mth between DD2 and DC3). At least DD1 understood a new baby was coming and would be living with us always. DD2 has no idea what's about to hit her! She's so loving and cuddly and I worry she will feel pushed aside. DH took over a lot of the care of DD1 when DD2 was born and tbh she still prefers him to me as a result. Feel guilty that this may happen with DD2 and I will mind more than I can let on.

I don't really know anyone with more than 2 children although a good friend is also expecting her 3rd. I'm not really worried about coping with the demands of 3 more worried about the emotional side of things and spreading myself between them.

Sorry for the long ramble - it felt good to get some of that of my chest!

Hi moon are you on any of the other antenatal threads? I'm finding I feel a bit out of place on mine (hence trying to get this one back!) as loads are on their first.

That's a shame they won't scan you again Ood - hopefully the time will go quickly for your 20-week one.

Hi Moon sorry to hear you also have SPD/PGP. I've suffered from it quite badly in all pgs & it's hard going. It's good your nearing the end now - when's your due date? I know what you mean about wondering if you're pushing your luck. I did find going to 3 easier than when I went from 1 dc to 2, both physically and emotionally, so you may find that too.

Nice to see this thread again as thought it had been lost in the ether.

Hi Ood I'm not a regular on any other threads, like to comment on baby names and generally chip in on anything related to home birth but like you most threads around my due date, which is 20th Oct - thanks for asking Cravingtoms - seem to be full of those expecting their first. Just can't get into that heady mindset this time around!

Really sympathise/empathise with you craving re the spd, it's such a bummer. Had it last time around too, admittedly this time isn't as bad, for which I credit my chiropractor but when the pain is bad - it's bad. What number pregnancy are you on?

Be good to get this thread rolling again. Wish I'd joined in sooner.

I'm getting the start of SPD too, wavering over asking for Physio referral as they weren't much use last time but might need them for crutches.

Hello all, it is good to see this thread going again. I lost track of it when I went on holiday and since then it hasn't been on my 'I'm on' list anymore.

Hi Moon, nice to have you here. Like your DD, my DS2 starts school this term too, next Monday. I am quite nervous but I'm sure he'll be fine. He just seems so little compared to DS1 when he started.

I am now almost 18 weeks and it is getting hard to hide the pregnancy from nosy busybodies well meaning acquaintances, so I am starting to tell people if it comes up in conversation. Mostly the reaction has been positive but some people are clearly very surprised.

One of the school mums let it slip accidentally in front of some of the others, and one of them gasped in disbelief and shock to the extent that she started choking on her cappuccino! (she was fine though I was a bit )

Hello again everyone.

This thread had gone a bit quiet! Guess people are a little busy

Well I am 32 weeks tomorrow and feel like I can't wait to not be pregnant anymore. I feel like I am just draging myself round from day to day trying to get through looking after the other DC's. I can't wait to feel a little more energetic and enthusiastic about things once this baby has made an appearance!

Gosh that was a right moan! Just hoping this baby does not go past it's due date (none of my others have, so hopefully this one will also follow the same pattern!)

three already, thinking about no 4 (no 3 is 8 mo) - trying to decide! Was accidentally (excitedly) pregnant a few weeks ago and saw this thread then, but yet another mc :(
Four -- good number?!!!
Even with three, I had lots of comments mentioned here: 'no telly then?', and 'is it your first?' (i'm in my mid/late thirties, so this one surprised me a bit). But the only one that really annoyed me, was the LOAD of comments I got saying 'oh you must have been thrilled to have a boy at last' after DS3. What do they mean, 'at last'?! I even got a couple of cards congratulating me on 'finally achieving' a boy. Weird?!

Moon I'm on no 4 (eldest has just turned 5) and have had the pelvic problems through each pg (crutches etc). Good that your chiropractor is helping you, but sorry to hear that you too have had lots of pain. Did you find it got better quickly after the birth? Not long till your due date at all - Oct is a great month for a birthday too . Know what you mean about not relating to those on their 1st pgs now - it's a totally different experience.

Ood you should definitely get ref for physio espec if you might need crutches/ tubigrips etc. this time round they've given me a belt thing to wear around my hips which really helps. Hope they're more helpful for you this time.

Hi everyone else - glad to see the tread going again too. lime can't believe you're 18 weeks already! When's your next scan? Good luck with that. Can't believe how rude that mum was choking on her coffee at the news of your pg. Jealous I reckon. I still find it ridiculous that people think they have the right to judge pg women, espec those with large families. My mum doesn't mention my pg at all (she even rolled her eyes at DD1 who said she was excited about having a new sibling) and few of my friends do either! Ah well.

Sorry to hear you're really starting to feel the pg now 4kids. At least there's not too long to go. How early have your others been? Hoping you're getting lots of rest.

I got lots of 'is it your first?' with dd3. I was 31 but it was good when they realised dd1 was mine (almost 11 then!)