"How to talk so kdis will listenand listen so kids will talk" - anyone want to go trhough this book?

[Porcupine]

and see hwat we think of it?

Its wuite heavy reading( not intellectually) just very close set type and lots of americna egs
But i reckon we cna do it.

I really like this book too (well not like exactly, but find it useful ) - I use the bit where (I think) you "give them their wishes in fantasy" (sic) - so if they want something that you just haven't got and are whining on and on about it, you say something like "I wish I could just magic the [whatever] here" . It does work quite well

(of course if you're tired you just snap "no you can't have the sodding [whatever] stop whinging" )

yes ds3 was wingeing on abotu " i dont want to go to nursery" today
i said "I know" and he shut up

_-------chapter 2 " enagagin cooperation"--------

sounds pants

opk in summary chapter 2 is:

describe hwat you see

give information

say it with a word

talk abotu your feelings

AND/or us ea note

so milk left out in kitchen
ratherhtan going " oh god oyu always leave the milk out hwne will oyu ever put it away i am thjeonly perosn itn his housewho ever tidies up - its all your fatehrs fault"

etcetcetcte
you say "i can see milk on the table" ( describing)
" milk goes off when its left out" ( give info so kid sees htere is method in madness)

still no action??

then dont letcure ( esp for teens as they swithc off or just hate you)

£. ONE WORD - " oi miranda - MILK"

then 4 describe feelings " thats better" or " i get so mad when i say thing soevr and over again" ( kdi sees their bhaviour impacts on you)

5 if htis dosn twork oyu can use a not
so say kids turn tv on int he mornings wihtout getting ressed fro shcool or doing hteir school bag - put a post it note ont he tv saying" do not turn me on till you have done xyz"

another cute one int he book is this

"notice - story time tonight at 7pm. all kdis hwoare in pjs wiht teeth brushed are invited love "mommy" "

say what with a word?

does it work on pre-talking toddlers?

was just logging on to go to Aamzon to look for this book! I think will get it after redaing this!

Conversation the other day here;

Me: DS1 - you've woken DS3 now - he'll be crying all the time until we go to school
DS1: Yes but daddy said "Well done" when I did that.

(note - tell DH that sarcasm does not work on 5 year olds.....)

prob not no

you cna also use this if you prefer to clla ourself mummy
but mommy is fine

shit i think dp must have read this book it sounds very like his reaction to my kitchen messes.

adnt he decribign thing has for younger kids certianly the air of a game
i did it wiht ds2 this mornign and he raced upstairs to put his clohtes away

ooh ooh I have it in my downsairs loo

and I think it is great

I do the describeing back thing to the dds and it feels odd byt really really works

righty ho

amazon then yes?

I need that sensitive one as well

ta enid

i have the highly sensitive child book i think olive if you want it?

pr me ol matye

hello you

trying to distract myself on your humourous thread

this is the convo dd1 and I had yesterday:

dd1 'i had a bad day today'
enid 'you had a bad day today'
dd1 'miss spiker was mean to me'
enid 'miss spiker wasmean to you'
dd1 'she said I threw a pencil at harry and I didnt!'
enid 'she said you threw a pencil at harry'

dd1 'yes! and I didnt. well I didnt MEAN to'
enid 'you didnt mean to'
dd1 'no. I'll have to think next time before I throw something'
enid 'you'll have to think next time'
dd1 'I love you mummy'
enid 'Ilove you too'

OMG text book

i nkow so pleasing

have read on to chapter three and our adn am rather smug that i am doing a lot fo what it wasy alaready

Have just ordered it porc, and threw in a 'free' book for me to qualify for free postage

do you have a sensitive child? which one?

god not me.
no all mine fine.

fine eh

harrumph

x

oh I am getting all the P's confused

pecka I meant

did you find it any good?