"How to talk so kdis will listenand listen so kids will talk" - anyone want to go trhough this book?

[Porcupine]

and see hwat we think of it?

Its wuite heavy reading( not intellectually) just very close set type and lots of americna egs
But i reckon we cna do it.

the senstive child book is good

although they do bang on about them being undiscovered geniouses not dd1 obv

I will underline those bits for dh who thinks I analyse too much

I have said before "I see you have left your dirty pants on the bedroom floor" to ds.

(though I often follow it with "do you think there are fairies who come and clear them up? )

I have tried this and it works sometimes, but it does depend on me not being tired and screeching instead.

I try to work from home on a Mondays which usually ends up with me on my mobile in the office, sitting at my PC with one leg against the door, trying to keep out 2 screaming toddlers who choose the minute my mobile rings to scream for attention.

It's a mystery one minute their sitting nicely playing, as soon as my mobile rings OMG chaos regins.

Read the book and made a sign saying Shhh Mummy on the phone. Explained that when the sign goes up, they must get out of the office and be quite.

Absolytely frigging amazing, now when the phone rings ds(3) runs to get the sign, sticks it on the door, draggin ds(18mths) behind him!!!

Wouldn't beleive it until I tried it!!

An amazing book.

Ok, I'm nearly convinced, I can certainly see it would work with dd.

dd can read the notes to ds.

Will see if the describing thing will stop ds throwing stones and wacking things with sticks And if it will get him to eat properly

RTL - forgot to say, great idea about the note for when you're on the phone!

RedTartanLass- I love the idea of the sign for when you're on the phone and think I might just try that! Amazing how they know exactly when we need them to be quiet and choose that moment to demand our full attention!

why would anyone feel smug about sounding like a text book? ffs it's almostas bad as blw meaning you have to jetison all the spoons in the house

Who's sounding smug? Better than yelling and nagging, at any rate.

bundle? Are you feeling OK?

Watch it, she might get fresh

By PeterAndreFanCLub on Wed 02-May-07 14:47:51
have read on to chapter three and our adn am rather smug that i am doing a lot fo what it wasy alaready

I was feeling fine, till I read that

aha
only cos we had day of hlel yest
farking ds1 lied twice abotu a cheque he had "takne" to school - but in reality has no idea where it is.
he is so HOPELESS at self organisation

anwyay so i ranted in a totalyl NOT text book manner
stalked off to read book

and in chapter about 6 it says

" give them a awy to show you they wnat ot make up"
and ds1 layed the table in a really tidy ans sweet way - wiht ice in the water and straws and all

yeah! but he did it without reading the book!

(and after you'd ranted)

so the moral is - forget the fecking book!

good to non-text book behaviour, I applaud it, there should be more of it. individuality is the order of the day cod (sorry about the cheque)

yes but i was feelign pleased that i had worked that out A LONE. ;(
lordy if yOu dont liek it nadine that's fine!

IT WAS ANNOYING ABOTU HE CHEQUE COS I SAID" DID OYU HAND THE CHEQUE IN"
YES

HTEN "DID OYU REALLY DS1"
"NO"
OK "GOAND FIND IT AND PUT IT ON THE DESK"

DS GOES OFF
" ive handed it in"
have you really?

"no"

oh fgs

well no, it's not my cup of tea but I do like commenting on it

I'm sure it has lots of good points

hmm peter thinkign of tellign jordan abotu you.

ds1 sounds fab, a proper boy.

you make your convos sound so funny!

ds1 is a sweetheart tbh. very biddable, totalyl open,enthusastic, but so chaotic
ds2 is much mroe a closed book, adna a creep.( dos very well with teachers hwo all love him)adn other kdis love him but is moody.

ds3

mentalist

OMG - sounds just like the dgs's in the same order

oh my that's really wierd

And if you keep practising it

First you sound like the book and your dcs laugh at you

Then you find your own way of saying it

Then you all get used to this new way of being with each other and you don't need to say as much, eg, a sympathetic nod when ds1's telling me about his day is sometimes enough now cos he knows I usually do the 'that sounds really frustrating' thing and I'm better at listening than I used to be

At least thats what I'm holding out for; sometimes it's like that

It is worth trying though, I need reminding to get off his case sometimes and it's good to have a formula to use while you're practising