"How to talk so kdis will listenand listen so kids will talk" - anyone want to go trhough this book?

[Porcupine]

and see hwat we think of it?

Its wuite heavy reading( not intellectually) just very close set type and lots of americna egs
But i reckon we cna do it.

thats the end of the dealign wiht kdis feelings chapter

God i will find this hard, I do everything that your bad examples do.

i take it tahats some kind of kids group thing. like brownies or summat (we never did 'joining whan i was little. my mum offered to get me in the cubs with my big bro but i declined to be a cubs suffragette - woulda been shit being hated for being the only girl)

all these tips are hard. goes against all conditioning and habit doesnt it.... i feel like giving myself a report; must try harder

LOL NG, exactly.

Can just see the kids saying something and me saying 'ohh erm, hang on whilst I check the book'

so is 'single word' int he next chapter?

(why mi asking you i have the book here derr)

What if they really do lose the frigging pencil though?

dd talks utter crap on times.

Call from house from dh, 'Youve forgotten your bag dd'

dd' It must have fallen out of the back of the car'

Me, 'What, back up the path and through the front door?'

What should I have said?

'Gee I guess it must have!'

??

lol mb

did dd respond 'don't get fresh'

Just spent ages wondering what cod meant by GONAD GET BOOK. Is that to do with the bollocks?

Ta NG, was very funny that food thread yesterday, had no idea what side i was on or who i was arguing with! ( well your side obviously as you were the only one i understood!)

my mum smirks and scoffs at my constructive parenting style. only coz shes jealous coz im better than she was
actually she says shes well impressed. but she still smirks when i do it. esp when it dunt work and the kid wins the exchange
cow

at all of you

boco i enjoyed being arsey on that thread was great way to vent after v frustrating day and you made it fun too!

mb - youre notsupposeed to have conversations w your dc that dont fit the pattern in the book - jeez, wheres the discipline, eh? no wonder your kids are scatty

Mercy - what you said about self centred behaviour - the example was that if the kid says they feel hot when its a snowy day, - they're not necessarily wrong, they may well feel hot. It's about respecting what they're saying about themselves.

I liked that example. If i ever say i'm cold my dp says 'you can't be, it's boiling' or if i say i'm hot he says 'you can't be it's freezing'.

I always scream 'FINE, I'M OBVIOUSLY WRONG, SHOULDA CHECKED WITH YOU BEFORE MAKING UP BOGUS STATEMENTS!' ect

So Am I really supposed to belive the Spotty Herberts when they tell me that they can't find the answer to question 1, when I know it is in the first paragraph?

'I can't find the question to number 1 miss'

'tell me how that makes you feel?' 'Do you wish that all the answers just flew into your head?'

Yup, I can see that working

mercy - i guess in that eg it wouldnt hurt to stop before contradicting and think its possible they are not talking bollox. they could be not well or something i spose. would saying 'really? i find that surprising coz its snowing outside and i feel really cold...' be reasonable?

dh to me
"when is beavers
" me " 6 - 7pm"
dh " are you sure"

me ( mroe recnelty)
" no i make this up to test you"

are you sure drives me NUTS

mb no you are crap
you dont ask them how they feel
you suggest a feeling

ok cods mate
" had a shite day at work am snowed under and dh is back late"

cod( aha hmm

mate

"oH YES AND HE HAS TO GO AWAY NExT WEEK"

COD" I GUESS THAT MAKES YOU FEEL LOUSY( IN CALIFORNIAN ACCNET)

Codsmate looks at her oddly

" are oyu feelign alright?

lol but your kdis wont say that as they dont REALLy care how you are as long as you provide food and tv remote control

NUTTY (as its HSe we are trying to help but secretyl we all know we ar withces)

how is htis sounding so far

'I can't find the answer to Q1 Miss'

'I guess that must make you feel farking stupid then?'

Nope, I don't think I'm getting into this

dh hates 'I guess'

are they really guessing he says

frustrated
you msut feel frustrated

only after you have ahhed and ahemed
was os glad to read sophable liked the book

bookmarking

'Ohh, ahh' pulls sympathetic face, 'You must feel very fr.....arking stupid!'

Nope, can't make myself do it

woicked withc