"How to talk so kdis will listenand listen so kids will talk" - anyone want to go trhough this book?

[Porcupine]

and see hwat we think of it?

Its wuite heavy reading( not intellectually) just very close set type and lots of americna egs
But i reckon we cna do it.

thanks!

derrrr actually,m disregard me and listen to boco. she pays attention and is right

Think the pencil thing is,

If dc's telling you about pencil, don't make it a reason to nag them (again0

just hear them

Does that make sense?

Nappies you and me keep cross posting explanations to people - you always do it more succinctly and less waffly than me though!

oooh I type slo-o-ow

Boco you put it better than me

Agree that it's a helpful book.
Not easy to read and the drawings are pretty awful.
Tons of useful stuff.
I realised that I was constantly denying dc their feelings and you hear it everywhere.
'Mum, I'm hungry'
'You can't be hungry, you've only just had lunch' etc.

codpiece when did you get into this book. cristinatheastonishing put me onto it about 18 months ago and it transformed our parenting (and ds's behaviour). it is the most genius book ever and you've reminded me that I MUST go back and read it again and stop the rot which inevitably sets in.

bravo for this thread.

what do you do with children who procrastinate at bedtime

oh mummy one more kiss
one more cuddle

oh mummy I need to tel.l you something, I love you mummy

etc
ad nauseum
arrgghghghghghg

Well will you look at this lovely thread, see how we're all listening and validating each other!

Bedtime is the only bit I do get right. Kids get into bed and stay in bed, full stop, no arguing or else LOL.

Glad you started this thread (cos I saw you mention it in GS's thread yesterday and asked if it was any good!)

I kind of see what the author is getting at but don't undertsand the thinking behind it.

Doesn't it lead to self-centred behaviour? I was particularly thinking of the it's hot, not it's freezing example. Why is it 'wrong' to point out that they are factually incorrect? Or is to do with what they say they are feeling even though it can't possibly be true? [dense emoticon]

boco - you are my current fave mner. we seem to be in agreement a lot and i like people who agree with me and, you said it much better than i on this occasion at least!!

i have lost the pwer to think intelligently for thew time being b/c i have been surviving all day on nervous tension and chocolate andf have just run out of both and fallen off the sugar cliff with a bang. so thats me out of this convo for a while!

KP: Yes DP, I understand it's frustrating for you to have to pick up your own socks. Imagine how much fun it would be if you lived in socks-picking-up-themselves-world? Wouldn't that be great?
KP's DP: Yeah!
KP: And imagine if all the dishes got into the dishwasher by themelves! How fantastic would that be?
KP's DP: Wow, Great!
KP; Well they don't! FEEL MY PAIN!!!

well kdis do tlak a lot of boollox ( do otu htink that cna be the title of my new book - " how to tlak bollocks just liek your kids"

ok mate has gone
i tried it out wiht her day fom hell story
she laughed when i did hte aha humm oh yes bit

so fell at first hurdle

HOMEWORK
try otut he lsitenign hting wiht a kid

adn NG I lol at oyur posts

she and i agreed that the next stage " singel weord" IS GOOD
HOLD ON WILL GONAD GET BOOK

have 2 seconds befoer beavers

what the hell is beavers???

2 mins b4 ytour beaver does what exactly?

also another tip is hold off giving advice

" mum i am tired"
mum "well gonad lie down then"

thats is wrong

yu need to listen "ahah"

adn verbalise "you must feel bad"

beaver cubs

or beavoirs

in our hosue

i think 'how to talk bollox like your kids' would sell... mind you - we all do already dont we?