No sleep over Mums - Residential trips?

[Glitterbells9]

My children only sleep at their Grandmas, and thats all I am comfortable with.

I am happy to be a no sleep over Mum.

I sleep well knowing they are with us, or My Mum.

Im seeking the opinions of like minded mums, what do you do with school residential trips?

Our school wants a 2 night 3 day trip for their first residential in Y4. He is one of the youngest still at 8 years old at time of trip.

We as a family aren't ready for that. I think it is too long, Dad agrees, my eldest doesnt sleep well potentially has adhd/autism awaiting assessment.

I think their first trip should be shorter, ease all concerned in to this residential trip stuff!

However, he may be ready next year or the year after… How do I navigate that?

How do I say no to sleep overs but yes to residentials?

Or do I stick with no sleep overs means no staying the night away from home?

With all due respects I know not everyone will share my views, and each to their own. No judgement from me if you love sleep overs, thats wonderful. However, it is not for me at these ages. (7 and 8)

I think it all depends on the child. Op says her DS doesn't actually even want to go on the trip so I think that's OK and his choice. I had 2 DC both now adults. DC1 never went on any school trips or sleepovers as a child. DC2 went on every trip going from about the age of 8. Both are now perfectly competent adults. No special needs though.

Parenting isn’t about when you are ready because in all honesty you never really are - DD is 16 and I know I will never be ready for her to leave home and go to Uni (her plan) but it isn’t about me.

it is about her and my son and when they are ready for this and following their lead. It is our job and duty and parents to give them the tools they need to grow, fly and leave us.

We did no sleepovers (apart from 1 friend) until 10. Had zero issue with school and brownie residential though.