Arrgh,had to start a new thread!
Yes,you can get more land in Tauranga. Well,somewhere like Omokoroa or somewhere.Wouldn't want to live much closer than that. And I woulkdn't want to live at he Mount. Lovely as it is. Too touristy,imo.
We would like enough land for a pool (eventually) maybe a sleepout and still enough for a veggie patch and garden for kids. Don't neeed acres +. Wouldn't say no though,if we could afford it! Be nice to have a few sheep or something/
I think Mum would have to fly to Tauranga. So that would be
Manchester-London,London-Singapore, Singapore-Aukland,Aukland- Tauranga
Bad.
justa howws the back? Hope physio was a help,we may have driven past you!
Your house sounds great.
My mums friend lives in Silverdale.She has about an acre with some sheep etc
Wasn't overly impressed at but didn't give it a proper look I suppose,just stopped to buy flowers for Mums friend! Always worth another look
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AngryBeaver · 11/08/2012 00:58
That's me told lolly!
The thing with my Mum is that she is just worried about my emotional and physiological state. She thinks that my body is being put under too much pressure by me repeatedly becoming pregnant. She says "You have to remember that you are MY baby and it breaks my heart to watch you keep doing this to yourself, please give your poor body a rest" that type of thing.
BUT,she is a retired Head teacher,and as such is a bit dictatorial. And she can be emotionally manipulative,imo. Albeit unwittingly (I hope!)
I think another thing she wants to talk about is my response to the news that her dp was not coming with her to visit. That will be the bollocking looong talk.
Anyway, we'll see.....
I would be utterly pissed off with dh if he played the visa card. Have you resolved anything yet? What about your nanny, would she consider it? Mind, I suppose she will have been working all day too,so may not want to do a night shift as well!
frick That is so sad. Her poor family. Terribly unfair 
vvviola House is great thanks! So much better than the last, which, now I am out of I will tell you, was fucking CREEPY as eh?! Lots of strange goings on. Me no likey
So much happier here, more like a family home. Great garden, high hedges and fences. AND TWO dishwashers. Have soooo missed a dishwasher (I was it!)
Dh gave me my xmas pressie early. A bike. (haven't cycled since Uni)
So I purchased some lycra,put it on, looked in the mirror and said to dh
"Oh fuck, I look like those Before and After photos.... and I'm not the After, am I?"
He ran away 
Mums dp is similar. He does try, but it's a bit hit and miss and you can see it's a huge effort.
But, I have no father, hence kids have no biological grandad. So Mums dp is Grandad to them. The kids know no different and adore him.
Since we announced we were moving he has distanced himself and made it known that he thinks we are cruel for doing this to my mother. That we have broken her heart and her life has suffered a fracture that will never heal. You know, nothing heavy or accusatory!
Anyway, he is like a guard dog with Mum. He ABSOLUTELY worships her and anything that upsets her is regarded as a massive problem to him.
Anyway, there was (as you know) huge drama regarding the move and things have been tense with him since then. He came over last year and stayed for 4 weeks, Mum stayed 8.
He enjoyed NZ but said if it weren't for us he would never visit again.
Now we barely see him on Skype. He might stick his head in and say "hulloo!" and then go off again. The kids have asked why Grandad doesn't talk to them anymore.
Mum says he is busy, or tired after having got in from Rotary or some shit.
Now mum is arriving next week and staying til March. She is making a lot of noise about how she is having to have an early Xmas with db and dn "because she'll be here" (big sigh) and "having to see all my friends and sort out all birthday presents until march because of course, I'll be in NZ" (big sigh) now it is "dp got very emotional last night at the thought of me leaving him for so long,it's going to be very hard for us both" I said "well I don't understand why he doesn't come with you then!"
This is when the long talk came into it.
She says it's about money, which is bullshit as they're wealthy and he has just bought a brand new soft top bmw or merc or something, given his daughter 20k for deposit on apartment in London and has a VERY good pension, plus he still does Consultancy work. ( I KNOW he has every right to spend his money as he chooses, my point is that it's totally not about money)
I said "Well the flight is not that much, you have already paid for the accomodation and he will just eat as he would at home? So whats the problem??" That was met with "oh you don't know you're born my girl!...I wouldn't come out here more than once or twice to see HIS daughters" (Totally different as they lived with their mum from late teens and mum really likes them but has totally different relationship than me and him)
Now it's changed and it's about blood pressure and insurance.
The bottom line is (as I've always suspected) he pretends to love me and the children to gain brownie points with Mum, but doesn't really give much of a shit. Certainly not enough to come and visit with Mum.
You wish you hadn't asked now don't you??
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Yep - I know if I asked my employer to sponsor me they could probs justify it due my specific experience that fits to the role I'm in.
Sibble - I know what you mean about letting sisterhood down. Thing is I know if I said he needed to be home he just wouldn't come home. It's too entrenched in our relationship sadly. Ultimately I don't have many friends who don't ultimately pick up the slack all the time.
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We wimped out. DD2 as well as being choked with a cold is going through a particularly "independent" stage at the moment.
The thoughts of having to keep her confined to her buggy at a parade ... or worse still, letting her out... 
Instead we taught DD1 to ride her bike without stabilisers. and I didn't cry one bit, oh no, not me
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lolly Don't leave the bastard! Just do this
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_strike
Oh, for those on the North Shore... I've found another cafe with a play area for containing biddable children (i.e. not mine for very long). Palmers Planet on Greville Road in Albany has a cafe and a little play area. It occupied DD1 yesterday long enough for me to pick some new tomato/courgette/cucumber plants.
I have however been banned from going there without some moderating influence... there's all sorts of pretty house stuff that no-one actually needs but is so completely irresistible
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