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DH in intensive care after stem cell transplant

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Lalaland50 · 08/02/2022 01:19

Hi, I'm devastated - after 2 years of treatment after treatment for lymphoma, my husband is in hospital having an allo stem cell transplant - he is now on +day 6 and was taking into intensive care on saturday with inflammation of the heart muscles (myocarditis). Today he had an extremely fast heart rate (190) which has now been brought down to about 138 and I've been told by the ICU doctor that he may not make it. He has fluid on his lungs and chest, and they are trying to get rid of this too. She said it hangs in the balance and he is not going in the direction they would like him to be, although he is stable at the moment. I have been asked to go and visit tomorrow with the kids (ages 9 and 12) - I asked if it was to say goodbye and the dr said not necessarily, but good to see him whilst he is alert.

I am devastated to say the least. I have spoken to his transplant haematologist in tears as i just don't understand how this has happened, and he seems to have a slightly more positive view. So, it's hard to know what to think. Has anyone had this experience before? or been in intensive care and had a good outcome? I can't believe it's come to this and don't know where to turn.

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YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 16/05/2022 10:45

Hello @Lalaland50 - we're so sorry to hear your news.

We've linked to your update in your OP. Best wishes from MNHQ.

HyggeTygge · 16/05/2022 10:45

Another stranger here adding love and condolences to you. So so sorry for everything you have gone through and this devastating blow.

DaisyQuakeJohnson · 16/05/2022 10:47

Oh OP I'm so very sorry for your loss and for everything that preceded it Flowers

Ispini · 16/05/2022 10:49

So sorry for you and your family, you must be devastated. Wishing you all the best .💐

DoItAfraid · 16/05/2022 10:57

I am so sorry to read your latest update and for your loss. 💐.

MagnoliatheMagnificent · 16/05/2022 10:59

So sorry to hear this. The only positive is now he is free from pain and illness. Hopefully you and your family have support around you. One tiny step at a time. Praying your dh finds peace.

TerriblyNaice · 16/05/2022 11:06

@Lalaland50 Oh you poor thing. I'm so sorry to read this, for you and the children.
I imagine that you're feeling the most awful mixture of confusion, anger and total distress.
Thinking of you all 💐

thegreylady · 16/05/2022 11:22

So very sorry for your loss 💐

Schoolisback1973 · 16/05/2022 11:32

I am so very sad to read this!! my sincere condolences to you and your family💐

sweetgingercat · 16/05/2022 11:33

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ChaToilLeam · 16/05/2022 11:36

I am so, so sorry for the loss of your DP. After all he endured, it must be devastating. 💐

RachelGreeneGreep · 16/05/2022 11:53

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP.

LakieLady · 16/05/2022 11:56

So sorry for your loss, @Lalaland50 . You've had the most awful experience and I hope you have plenty of support.

Idontgiveashitanymore · 16/05/2022 12:06

Hugs 💐

334bu · 16/05/2022 12:20

So sorry for your loss..

IdisagreeMrHochhauser · 16/05/2022 12:29

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Read the update! I will report both posts.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 16/05/2022 12:32

So very sorry OP. No wise words - just sending you all good wishes. Flowers

Roselilly36 · 16/05/2022 12:33

So sorry for your loss OP Flowers

Wam90 · 16/05/2022 12:44

Oh @Lalaland50 I am so sorry to read your update. I hope you and the children got to see him before he deteriorated further.
You sound like you’ve all be through so much over the past couple of years and I’m so sorry it’s ended like this. Thinking of you and your children at such a terrible time.

2bazookas · 16/05/2022 12:44

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theremustonlybeone · 16/05/2022 12:47

2bazookas you need to read the threa. OP DH sadly died

TwoDogs9 · 16/05/2022 12:52

So very sorry for your loss. xxxxx

Irishfarmer · 16/05/2022 13:08

OP I am so sorry for your loss 💔Your poor DH, 51 is so young to die. Take all support offered to you IRL from friends/ family you will need to x

pinkginpls · 16/05/2022 13:25

May he RIP, so sorry for your loss @Lalaland50

xxx

SunshineCake · 16/05/2022 15:35

I am so sorry for your huge loss Lalaland50 and so sad that you feel as you do about his treatment. Flowers.