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DH in intensive care after stem cell transplant

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Lalaland50 · 08/02/2022 01:19

Hi, I'm devastated - after 2 years of treatment after treatment for lymphoma, my husband is in hospital having an allo stem cell transplant - he is now on +day 6 and was taking into intensive care on saturday with inflammation of the heart muscles (myocarditis). Today he had an extremely fast heart rate (190) which has now been brought down to about 138 and I've been told by the ICU doctor that he may not make it. He has fluid on his lungs and chest, and they are trying to get rid of this too. She said it hangs in the balance and he is not going in the direction they would like him to be, although he is stable at the moment. I have been asked to go and visit tomorrow with the kids (ages 9 and 12) - I asked if it was to say goodbye and the dr said not necessarily, but good to see him whilst he is alert.

I am devastated to say the least. I have spoken to his transplant haematologist in tears as i just don't understand how this has happened, and he seems to have a slightly more positive view. So, it's hard to know what to think. Has anyone had this experience before? or been in intensive care and had a good outcome? I can't believe it's come to this and don't know where to turn.

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Perpop · 16/05/2022 07:30

I am so sorry. Love & light to you and your family ❤️

familyissues12345 · 16/05/2022 07:33

Oh Lala, so sorry for your loss Flowers

Dontjudgeme101 · 16/05/2022 07:35

I am so sorry for your loss @Lalaland50 💐💐💐💐

ABBAsnumberonefan · 16/05/2022 07:36

I am so sorry Flowers

MoonbeamsGlittering · 16/05/2022 07:37

Very sorry for your loss.

BellaVita · 16/05/2022 07:45

I am so very sorry. Sending much love xx

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Just read your update, I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself. Absolutely tragic.

nether · 16/05/2022 07:58

I'm so sorry to read that

Flowers
saraclara · 16/05/2022 07:58

I am so terribly sorry to read this news. My heart goes out to you and your children. My very best wishes to you all.

PandaBearBear · 16/05/2022 08:01

OP, I have just caught up and I'm so sorry for your loss. I was reading through your posts with hope in my heart for you.

I lost my DH after a stem cell transplant 18 months ago. He also had lymphoma. If you find yourself back here and want to send me a message, please do. Happy to let you say all the things.

Most importantly, take care of yourself and go easy. This is going to feel like hell for you all but you are going to eventually learn how to live with this pain. I'm so very sorry for you all.

LemonySippet · 16/05/2022 08:06

@Lalaland50 I'm so terribly sorry to hear of your loss, sending love to you and your family. My husband had blood cancer too and so much of your story resonated with me. Keeping you all in my thoughts 💐

JazzHandsYeah · 16/05/2022 08:07

I’m so very sorry for your loss xxx

DaleTrimont · 16/05/2022 08:16

I am so terribly sorry to read this OP. All condolences to you and your family.

BingeBitch · 16/05/2022 08:17

sending love Lala. Can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through. Condolences to you and your children I am so so sorry. 💐

MinkyWinky · 16/05/2022 08:21

I'm so sorry. Sending a very large visual hug to you and your family.

LumpyandBumps · 16/05/2022 08:34

What an awful rollercoaster of emotions for you. So sorry it ended this way.

Scotmum83 · 16/05/2022 08:35

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fuckfuckfuck2021 · 16/05/2022 08:36

@Scotmum83 maybe read all the posts from the op before replying?

GrannyBloomers · 16/05/2022 08:37

I am so sorry to hear the news. Its been a horrific illness and all this time spent on the edge must have been very difficult to deal with.

LorW · 16/05/2022 08:39

I’m so sorry for your loss OP ❤️

Scotmum83 · 16/05/2022 08:41

Appologised I’ve asked for my post to be removed.

Lalaland50 · 16/05/2022 08:48

Thank you for all the messages, it’s making this morning a little more bearable. He was only 51 and was so incredibly brave. I can’t get his last few days in the icu out of my head. He was terrified and in so much pain. It was truly a nightmare for him. I have a therapist but I have no idea how I will get over this.

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Lalaland50 · 16/05/2022 08:49

It was like he was being assaulted on every level. I feel as if he’s been slowly murdered.

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Buildingthefuture · 16/05/2022 08:56

I’m so so sorry @Lalaland50 . I’ve no words, just a massive unmumsnetty hug xxxx