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DH in intensive care after stem cell transplant

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Lalaland50 · 08/02/2022 01:19

Hi, I'm devastated - after 2 years of treatment after treatment for lymphoma, my husband is in hospital having an allo stem cell transplant - he is now on +day 6 and was taking into intensive care on saturday with inflammation of the heart muscles (myocarditis). Today he had an extremely fast heart rate (190) which has now been brought down to about 138 and I've been told by the ICU doctor that he may not make it. He has fluid on his lungs and chest, and they are trying to get rid of this too. She said it hangs in the balance and he is not going in the direction they would like him to be, although he is stable at the moment. I have been asked to go and visit tomorrow with the kids (ages 9 and 12) - I asked if it was to say goodbye and the dr said not necessarily, but good to see him whilst he is alert.

I am devastated to say the least. I have spoken to his transplant haematologist in tears as i just don't understand how this has happened, and he seems to have a slightly more positive view. So, it's hard to know what to think. Has anyone had this experience before? or been in intensive care and had a good outcome? I can't believe it's come to this and don't know where to turn.

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OP posts:
Balderdaah · 16/05/2022 03:26

I'm so very sorry to read your update. Flowers

LimoncelloMadness · 16/05/2022 03:36

I'm so very sorry. Flowers

Josette77 · 16/05/2022 03:36

I am so deeply sorry for your loss.

Josette77 · 16/05/2022 03:38

I found this today preparing for my step fathers death. I thought you might like it too.

DH in intensive care after stem cell transplant
DH in intensive care after stem cell transplant
Goosey3 · 16/05/2022 05:06

@Lalaland50 I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss 💐Its clear from your posts how loved your husband was and I know he’ll have known that too ❤️ You’ve been through a huge trauma here - please be kind to yourself and look after yourself. Reach out for help however big or small. I hope you have lots of family and friends around you ❤️

Ifigotherewillbedouble · 16/05/2022 05:21

I am just so shocked and saddened by your update. You and your family have been through the most horrendous time and I’m just so so sorry your poor dear husband’s body couldn’t take any more. I was so hoping for good news, as I’m sure everyone was, but life can be so unbelievably cruel. Lots of love to you and your family.

TwinMama6 · 16/05/2022 05:26

You all had a tough time, I’m sending condolences 💐 to you and your family. Please look after yourself as you have been through a lot. Get bereavement therapy for you and the kids if it’s available

twinsister · 16/05/2022 05:27

I’m so very sorry to read this update. You and your children are in my thoughts today. Sending you strength and love

Thesheerrelief · 16/05/2022 05:29

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.

CorsicaDreaming · 16/05/2022 05:51

I am so sorry to hear this @Lalaland50 💐

WinterCarlisle · 16/05/2022 06:01

I am so so sorry x

Vladi10 · 16/05/2022 06:20

So sorry for your loss @Lalaland50 life can be so cruel. Sending so much love and hugs to you and your family at this very sad time.

Misspacorabanne · 16/05/2022 06:33

I'm so sorry op, I only read the thread this morning. Thinking of you and your family at such a sad time.

Fadeout83 · 16/05/2022 06:38

I am just so so sorry for your loss and the experience over the past few weeks. Your poor DH. Shedding many tears for you right now. I recall loved ones ICU stays (with no happy
ending) all too well and have the deepest empathy for you.

FlamingoQueen · 16/05/2022 06:39

I’ve just read your update - I am so sorry for your loss 💐

FannyFifer · 16/05/2022 06:40

I'm so very sorry to hear about your husband. My thoughts are with you & ur family. Xx

SomethingWycked · 16/05/2022 06:47

So very sorry, thinking of you & your children.

AlwaysFireFighting · 16/05/2022 06:48

I am so sorry 💐

MacavityTheDentistsCat · 16/05/2022 06:55

💐So sorry for your loss.

Letsgoforaskip · 16/05/2022 07:03

Your love for him shines through your posts. I am so sorry that you have all had to go through this.
Sending you and your children strength and love 💐❤️
It’s impossible to imagine now but there will be better times ahead.

HawthornLantern · 16/05/2022 07:08

I am so, so sorry. Heartfelt condolences. Wishing you all possible support and love.

puddlesofmothers · 16/05/2022 07:08

I'm so sorry to read your update. I am very sad for you you have my very best wishes x

WafflesRMine · 16/05/2022 07:16

I am so very sorry to read this. Sending you my condolences and strength for you and your children to get through the difficult days. I hope you have support around you. I am a widow too, my kids were 14 and 3 at the time.

chocolateoranges33 · 16/05/2022 07:23

Im so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and your family.

McPie · 16/05/2022 07:24

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers