Court order/holiday/passport

[Chippyeggs]

We have a Child Arrangement order (DV history, ex took me, v controlling via order)

Order states children live with me, passports held by me, written permission required for holiday abroad 28 days in advance.

Ex informed me he would be booking a holiday abroad and would be writing to me giving details. Told Ex passports all out of date but was happy to share renewal costs.

Ex has ignored me, however I strongly suspect he has renewed the passports and is not giving them to me (I have asked what’s happening and been ignored) and based on what children say I believe a holiday to Greece has been booked, which I would agree to, however I think Ex is going to just go without letting me know or asking for the required agreement.

Does anyone know where I stand over this? It’s in the Order I hold the passports and that both of us need to give all details of any holidays booked. He only has 10 days at a time, so my worry is he will be true to form, ignore the Order and just go for two weeks, leaving me with no clue where he is or when he will be back, whilst ignoring all attempts to contact him.

Ex ignores huge parts of the Order whenever he fancies, so this is not based on nothing.

I would suggest this is raised in court if you do have to go again (fingers crossed you don't).

A family member insisted it be used and it actually was recommended in the Section 7 report that was ordered in an earlier hearing.

Were any reasons given as to why they don't want to use it. Must be horrible having to check your emails/messages and seeing his name pop up. in the OurFamilyWizard app, you can check when you feel strong enough to.

I wish you the best and hope this is sorted soon. The stress is palatable in every message you post.

He doesn’t want to use it because I suggested it and it removed control from him. That’s basically the long and the short of it.