Trying to conceive baby#2 following ivf treatment for #1

[lucieloos]

I thought I would start this thread as I can't see anything similar. We underwent many rounds of icsi and following a couple of bfns, and an ectopic pregnancy we were finally blessed with our beautiful daughter last year.

We recently started thinking about baby no 2 and had 4 frozen embryos of which 2 had been tested and found to be chromosomally normal so are meant to have a better chance. We didnt have the other 2 tested.

A couple of weeks back we had our first fet with one of the tested embryos and got a bfp super early at 4dp5dt. Sadly by 8dpt the line was barely visible and resulted in a chemical pregnancy. I've been feeling really down about it as this was meant to be a super duper embryo with no genetic problems which they said was the main reason embryos fail.

I thought it would be easier trying for #2 and of course it is in a way as I realise how lucky I am to have had a baby but I can feel the infertility fog starting to descend again as I realise although I've had a brief respite I will never be like my fertile friends and I do really want another baby and a sibling for my little girl.

Im feeling a bit negative at the moment. We will probably go back for the other tested embryo in the near future but I can't see how I would ever get lucky enough to get 2 bfps in a row. These things just don't happen to me so just not too hopeful about it at all. We said that if we used all of our frosties with no success we would be happy with what we have but already I am thinking should I do more fresh cycles. I will be 39 soon though so time isn't on my side for that.

Anyway just wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation and would like to share the journey. Please come and say hi.

So sorry about your result Pony. Take care of yourself.

Good luck for next Wednesday Lucie. Sorry you've had to move your goalposts re. being pregnant going back to work.

Sorry about AF Snow - I hope you're ok with it.

Thanks for the commiserations - unfortunately there's only one laboratory here (not in the UK) that does the SA (and only two days a week!), so not much I can do but wait. Pfft. I'm really really trying not to wish time away but wouldn't it be great if just for once things went to plan for us all. Ah, the joys of infertility!

Ghengis, sorry that's the only option and you have to wait. I find that the hardest thing and yes it would amazing if just for once things went to plan for us all!

Snow, that doesn't sound a very nice place to work! Definitely an anticlimax with the period. Much lighter and shorter than I expected!

Hi all, update from me.

All 7 embryos are still growing, 2 are perfect and the rest a bit slower.

However still cautious as today is day 3 and isn't that when the sperm takes over? And in our case we have male factor.

Funnily enough, I always end up with 2 from however many get collected.

Flying back tomorrow night to have the transfer on Saturday at lunchtime. The flights practically doubled in price overnight

That's brilliant news twinkle keeping everything crossed you will have some great embryos to transfer on Saturday. I feel your pain about the flights. I'm debating whether to book mine now before the lining scan and hope everything is ok or wait by which time they will have shot up in price! Not easy is it.

It's so expensive @lucieloos

Going business class on the way out, can't even drink the free booze 😩

Oh no that's a shame twinkle but hopefully it will al be worthwhile and you will be our first bfp on this board

Great news about the embryos Twinkle! Fingers crossed for you. That's awful about the flights (and the lack of free booze!!)

Wishing you lots of luck today twinkle. Let us know how you get on.

Thanks lucie. 3 made it to 5-day blasts and 2 are at morula stage. Had 3 transferred!

3 blasts transferred??! Woah! That’s full on. Why so many?

Keeping FX for a successful tww twinkle!

Due to my age (39). And to increase the chances. That was their advice. Bit scared!

Wow. You are brave!! Fingers crossed one of them takes x

Wow that's brilliant twinkle! You should have a really good chance with 3 day 5 blasts!! Hope the morulas make it to freezing too. When is test day? Are you an early tester?

Good luck to everyone. I am currently pregnant with DC2 from FET. I had a freeze all ICSI which got 4 blasts in 2015, the first FET became my first DC (now 2) and second transfer last August resulted in this pregnancy. So we have had two transfers and two successes. I can't believe how incredibly lucky we've been, and reading this thread just hammers it home!

I have to admit second time round has been so much better. The FET (compared to the freeze all cycle) seemed so much less onerous and knowing that we had 3 in the freezer, so 3 possible chances definitely took some of the pressure off. The downside is the feeling of time marching by, even privately funding the FET we had to wait many months.

We still have two good quality blasts. I'm not sure what we'll do with them once DC2 is born. It's something we've been thinking carefully about but not reached any conclusions... Just one of the many difficult things you have to deal with when having fertility treatment that 'normal' people don't have to think about.

Anyway I'm wishing everyone on this thread lots of luck and really hoping there are more amazing FET miracle babies soon.

Test on 4 April.

So stressful flying back and forth to Athens, I just wanted to do whatever increases my chances. I've had 5 transfers now, and 1 DS.

Welcome @TooManyHappyMeals

Hi toomany really good to hear of your success stories. Hopefully we will all get a little of your luck and there will be lots of bfps on the way for this board.

Twinkle, I know the feeling. We are going for single transfer as cumulatively the success rates are higher doing one at a time with more cycles but I think if we end up doing more fresh cycles and we had 2 blasts I would consider putting them both back just because it is hard work flying back and for all the time. It wouldn't be so bad if it was just me but got our little girl to think about now too.

My feeling is that also they wouldn't have recommended 3 back if they didn't believe it would be ok.

Great news Twinkle, I'm glad it all went well! Now to wish away the time until 4th..

I'm glad it all went so well for you Toomany, and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Oh, and how are the morulas Twinkle?

Hey was just coming here to update. 2 morulas turned into blastocysts, 1 an expanding grade AA and the other an AB. Totally, totally shocked! Never had such good results before ever!

That's amazing twinkle did you do anything different this time?

@lucieloos - I took CoQ10 and generally ate a lower carb diet. Been eating eggs for breakfast for the past year!

I also took pregnacare conception and an iron supplement (as I know my iron levels are low anyway).

But for balance - I also didn't think this was going to work so I didn't give up alcohol (not a big drinker anyway but still) and I smoked the odd cigarette here and there. I know that is totally wrong when TTC but I have really felt like this isn't going to work and I was only doing this cycle to say to myself I had done it and to try to move on with my life. To think we now have 5 potential chances has completely shocked me.

That's amazing twinkle I could only dream of 5 blasts. I did all the coQ10 etc although haven't tried low carb. The most I got was 3 blasts but I think that was a one off fluke. Normally it's just the one although I think I did have 2 at one point as well. I'm so pleased for you though as you must have a pretty good chance having had 3 transferred but if that doesn't work you can nip back out for the frosties as well. We need a good success story on here to get us going.

I have my lining scan on Wednesday morning. Really hope it goes well as I've booked my flights already as the price kept going up!