IVF SEP/OCT Part 2- Get your Stretchy Leggings here ladies!

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IVF buddies September /October continued, heading into November & wearing VERY comfy stretchy leggings & trousers (perfect for Xmas too!!)

Omg Minster what r you doing to me 😂

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So Minster. You not ready to reveal yourself but you teasing me with all this window reflections and 100s of photos and I can’t see much! I won’t sleep tonight 😅
So what u worried the most? The fact that you not having treatment or that they may say “u can’t have it” coz u delayed it for that long?
I am very sceptical about this councelling so worried it’s not gonna work for me ☹️🤔 but we ll c.
Will your friend be with you at xmas when u announce what’s happening?

Dinks sorry you still feeling unwell but it’s all for good reason 😍😍 I like to prepare for things as if I don’t say something that I wanted-I will be thinking about it for ages afterwards ☹️🙈 plus I don’t believe much in this. I had very distressing episode in my life and mental help services came to speak to me. Instead of helping me to get through what I went through, they were asking questions like “r u hearing voices?!?” I was like wtf?!?! And then every day new people would come in and ask what happened again and again for 3 days and then I told them to F off. Useless! Anyway haha I am sure you will hear about my session on Wednesday 🙃

Minster yessss it's propa freezing!! Unfortunately ma OH hv busy work on Fridays nd Saturdays so he can't luk after me but other days he rly helping etc he even learn how to hoover

A feeling gd just getting all sort of spots on ma face cz of dis hormones a used to hv lyk one spot b4 period BT nw der is abt 20 lol plus a fink a hv eczema, cz ma skin all De tym dry even tho a put too much body lotions it's still getting dry.. De most bad it's wen a hv a shower or bath a fink dis "hard water" not work for me cz a getting red dry patches nd sumwer lyk Lil spots with do itch Lil bit.. Cz wen a was in Spain der was normal water nd a had nuffin lyk dis.. Awe a tried too many creams nd a fink at only sudocream work fine

Good morning everyone,

Writing from bed on a very chilly morning!! I am trying to summon the strength to get up and have a shower so we can go to the farmers market. There might be a cake stall there and I have decided I need cake (for the baby, obvs...)

Atik I have got the worst eczema right now!!! It’s in my armpits, all down the front of my shins, and in my ears. I’ve never had it this bad before... it’s so itchy I could cry, and my normal steroid creams aren’t suitable in pregnancy! Also have huge spots, but thanks to PCOS I always have huge spots... You aren’t alone!!

Minster Clearly you live in a castle!!! I love the signs!!! But yes, castle. I was trying to see a reflection of you too 😂

So sorry your treatment will be delayed :( It sounds like a crappy series of events, but hopefully the good news from the scan will keep you going. Will missing the treatment have long term effects? Or just mean the next treatment is extra hard?

Aliona Your previous experience sounds absolutely awful!! That sounds less like counselling and more like a mental health assessment... hopefully this time will be much more helpful. You can tell them if you don’t find it helpful, they can maybe change their approach.

As for me, I have a cold. Been sneezing all week and today I am totally stuffy and can’t breathe. It’s really not helping with the nausea, yet somehow I want cake?!

Hope you all stay warm today and have a lovely weekend ❤️❤️❤️

😂 Dinks I send my OH to walk puppy and myself decided that I need to stay in bed and have tea and biscuits what’s my excuse though?!?
I am sure Minster is not telling us something and she is undercover duchess of Yorkshire and lives in a castle! That’s why she is not revealing herself and keeps teasing us!
I am worried now about your stories of skin problems 😰 I thought I just managed to get over teenage phase with spots and u saying they r coming back with new strength?!? ☹️☹️☹️
Also all this pessaries that we have..if they help to keep the pregnancy why not given to every pregnant woman the second they know abt pregnancy?!

Aliona I am willing to be flamed for this but I never had a single spot in my life, til I got PCOS around 5 years ago. Then it was giant red spot city. My face like Jupiter. They haven’t got better with pregnancy (yet... there’s always 2nd trimester!!) but my spots are def caused by PCOS, rather than the treatment of anything. Fingers crossed you will be fine!! (And if not there is Estée Lauder doublewear foundation 😂)

If Minster owns a castle maybe we could get jobs on her estate?? I can sew, so I could repair the curtains and clothes... Aliona you could be the dog wrangler and manicurist... Our lives are sorted 😂

I’m not revealing myself either :p mainly because I don’t use social media!! I do have account for facebook, but I never log in to it... I got too depressed with all the shit on there. Also my picture on there is like 5 years old I am not that thin and pretty anymore 😭

P.S. I had tea and biscuits in bed too!! I have now dragged my ass for a shower though, and we’re going to the market :/ At least it isn’t raining....

P.P.S. I have no idea about the progesterone... I got it automatically, but I think otherwise they only give it if there’s a history of miscarriage? I have now finished mine - I had injections not pessaries, not sure which is better tbh!! Pessaries can be messy but the injections are really annoying after a while, because you run out of places to inject that aren’t already bruised. Still, I am grateful they got me to this stage, but I have nothing to compare with. Others might have more experience?

😂 Dinks I gone off double wear from EL, I look like a cupcake in it. Maybe wrong shade 🤔 but I am 100% sure I will be covered in spots coz of this pessaries ☹️☹️
Just don’t get it, why only for those with misc experience? Maybe loads of them can be prevented? Just not getting it

How’s everyone? Where r all other girls gone??

I don’t live in a castle or on an estate, (far too stuffy, trust me I know a fair few ppl that do that DH shoots with & they are right up themselves!!) we were looking for our dream place for a couple of years & last year finished our dream converted barn so I’m still in very much excited stage that it’s first Xmas in our dream house that we designed all ourselves grand designs style...massively stressful like on tv but totally worth it...all u lot that live in the expensive parts of the country should move to the sticks!! Hence us hosting Christmas combined for DH & my family in new house this year 🎄🎄

The treatment is what keeps my tumours in remission so if I stop my treatment my rumours can grow back so that’s my fear...plus if it starts to affect me then it could stop working (another “wonder” treatment nearly killed me in 2011 when my immune system overreacted & started eating healthy cells which is what they are worried about). Also if I stop the treatment then I’m no longer eligible for it again on NHS hence can’t carry a child would have to pay privately & it costs £5916 per 3 weeks (over £100k per year!) I then wanted to have it again...so the worry of losing it on NHS is also a concern. So both ongoing health & not losing it!!

Grrrr just wrote a post and instead of “post” pressed “next page” and it’s all gone 😡😡
Minster so nhs stopping you from having treatment for now and at the same time they can stop you from having it at all 🤯🤯

Converted barn 😍😍 sounds awesom. Used to be hooked up on grand disign when moved to uk. Well still love it.. just can never afford it 😅

dinks a started hv dis dry skin from few month ago in ma arms, chest nd tip of ma back nd the worst is after shower or bath nd a fink it's cz of dis water cz in Spain they don't hv hard water nd a was okay. Nd as a set a tried too many creams body lotions etc nd Nuffield was help only sudocream helping. Try it maybe will help u x

Minster I did think you were far too nice to live in a castle!! Unless you bought a ruined castle and turned it into a house?? Might be projecting my own lifetime ambition a bit there ;) I am obsessed with Grand Designs so am sooooo impressed you’ve made your dream house!! It looks fabulous.

That’s pretty scary about the treatment - is your regular consultant involved with the latest developments? Hopefully he will have your back and make sure they don’t stop the treatment; it’s not like you’ve stopped to go on a jolly around the world 🤨 NHS really annoys me sometimes. CCGs are the worst thing to happen to health in this country for a long time. I have everything crossed for you, that you get back on your treatment asap!

We went to the farmers market, and I almost fainted. On the plus side got cake!! Well, a jam donut. Also met a guy with the cutest puppy, some kind of terrier, almost looked like little grey lamb. Now at home under a blanket watching Muppet Christmas Carol as it’s flipping freezing!!

Hope you’re all having a nice day ❤️❤️❤️

P.S. Atik I think the water here is really hard too :( Where my parents live the water is soooo soft, it makes my hair really smooth and shiny, and my skin doesn’t feel like sandpaper!!

I will try sudocrem, I completely forgot that existed, thank you!!!

He he he, thank you dinks for saying I’m too nice! I’d hate to be stuffy!! I love farmers markets, pleased you went and got some food but you maybe need to eat more if you feel faint??!! It’s such lovely countryside around Yorkshire, I love it here, I’m originally from the midlands and so pleased I settled up here, it’s gorgeous. We are very lucky to have found a barn that was perfect for developing a couple of years ago & finished it in March....but we did it thinking it would be us & 2 dogs & do it’s very much stone floors & quite sharp edges, not really child focussed as we realised when DNephew came along last year!! But that can be remedied!! 😁😁

Sudocrem!! Blast from the past!! I think that might be our friend for a while now into babydom!!

We haven’t heard from rose for a while, I hope she is ok??

Dinks my consultant (a lovely lady who pushed the IVF thing) will hopefully be on top of it but I won’t see her until the 21st Dec, she’s the only one that will listen to me to get a plan to get back on my treatment OR I thought maybe even try & use the break to try & get more eggs harvested as my deprovera contraception is due in January so if I skip that then that’s a 5 month break which is what is needed so maybe use is as a positive thing... in fact my MIL asked the same thing earlier...could we use this break to get eggs???

Little does she know!!!!! It’s all so convoluted!!!!

And yes aliona it’s stupid.

Grrrrrrr!!!

Grrr Minster it’s impossible to keep face straight when family asking questions or saying things. Mum keep asking me how’s things and I am just dying to tell her but I know it’s better to keep my mouth shut🤫
Yes where is Rose Dbear Otters and the rest?!
I didn’t find energy to go out today and spend day as a couch potato 🙃 got my wine and mince pies and xmas tree!! First time ever that early. In Russia we put the xmas tree around 28 or so, for new year and not xmas. Do feel weird to have it that early 😬

Me too Aliona, on the Xmas tree front, I’ve just put ours up, the tree bit but not decorations yet, first time ever this early as the minster thing this week, usually would do it next weekend, DH hates it this early, he’s 🙄🙄🙄 But I have wine & it’s fun!!

It was really weird vaguely talking to MIL about the IVF as she knows nothing but DH really wanted to tell them but now it’s worked we have our secret & had a scare he’s all for keeping it quiet so i quickly changed the subject!! Sooo hard

Girls with positive do ur boobiese hurt too? My started hurt 2 days ago (they always hurt b4 period so a hope it's not that..) nd still a hv lyk bloated pain on nd off on ma left side under stomach..

Hm. After whole day was expecting to come to loads of stories 😁 dead quiet here. Hope all having a wonderful weekend.

Atik well you r pregnant, so of course you can expect pain in your boobs 😅

Yeah I can’t comment on the boobs thing as I’m not the one that’s pregnant!! 🤣🤣

And star is on a silent retreat so quiet from her!!! We’ve had a busy weekend seeing family do had to be a bit radio silence really sorry, on another note though my friend is getting morning sickness now which she says is a good sign that the pregnancy is sticking??!! I don’t know if that’s true but I like to take a bit of heart and I’m just trying to think in terms of a couple of days at a time really gets us past little time lines and danger points?

Hi all!!

Apologies wk/end has been super hectic, will try and catch up properly this eve or tomorrow! We also have our xmas tree it's massive (compared to our very small front room) at the moment it's naked so will be dressing him this eve!

Currently im just trying to keep busy to take my mind of waiting of AF ...think she will arrive soon as my patience was wearing thin at the wk/end whilst xmas shopping! LOL ......Have my counselling session tomorrow and 2nd acupuncture tomorrow so at least I feel like I am doing something!!

minster LOVE the lights you DH is very talented to have made them!! your rustic theme looks a lot like the theme I went for (all beit mine was in the summer). sorry to hear your being mucked around with treatment I hope someone sees sense!

dinks how are you feeling how is the cold?

Aliona how are you ?

atik I would say sore boobies are a good sign !

Star how was your silent retreat!?! I want to hear all about it!!

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otters, rose hope you are both well too?!

Afternoon everyone,

I am WFH today (yay) after a yucky feeling weekend (not yay). The nausea is unstoppable, plus the cold... ugh.

Minster Hope your friend's morning sickness isn't too bad! This is when mine started, and my GP said that not all women get morning sickness, but there is a higher live birth rate amongst women than do, compared to women that don't. So I took it as a good thing (despite how crappy it is!).

Aliona When I was at school I had a friend from Ukraine and they had two Christmases, one on UK dates and one on Ukraine dates when her grandparents came over. Basically they had Christmas for 6 weeks of the year lol. Hopefully your passport will come and you will have time for a second Christmas?

Dbear Christmas shopping at the weekend! Ugh! I am doing all mine online... I have no time for the city centre lol. Hope AF gets out of the way soon, and that your appointments tomorrow go well!

Atik My boobs hurt the whole time, and still do! So, think it's a good sign! I can't help with the bloating as I had massive bloating from OHSS, but I think it is common to bloat.

Star Hope your retreat was good? Have you come home with a need to talk non stop?! (I know I would!)

That's it from me. I have to join a teleconference now but I suspect I'll spend my time looking at paint colours online...

Hope you're all well xxx

Hello ladies!

A few pics from my amazing silent retreat. Did you miss me? 😜

Anyway, I will catch-up with you all later as I am super busy at work right now.

Got a phone call from the Clinic to let me know the other embies did not grow enough to freeze, I felt really sad for s little while - but I
all good and focusing on the ones I have in me 🙏🏻✨💫❤️.

Yes I have had numerous strange sensations that I have never had before but the 12 will be the day we will all know.

Love to all ladies and hope you are all well 🌟

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Hey All 👋🏼
Star yes missed you 😁 chatter box. Glad you enjoyed your retreat. I m indoors alone for so many days and willing to shoot myself 😅 Shame you didn’t have any frozen ones, but it doesn’t matter. You have 2 little fighters where they should be and fingers crossed it will be all good.

Dbear I am fine, bit depressed but it’s normal 😅 did you have your councelling session yet? How was it? They meant to send me email with details but didn’t so spend 3 hours trying to figure out where I should be going. Hope I got it right. Also asked Gp to refer me to gynaecologist and they did, letter arrived saying clinic will call before 4th and they didn’t. Rang them myself-they don’t have a clue about anything. Had to chase Gp again. I mean seriously?! What’s wrong with this health system? Argh

Dinks as orthodox Christian we celebrate xmas 7 january. To do with old style calendar. The country lives like everyone else but religious things celebrated according to old calendar. My status still says “awaiting decision” so doubt it will be any time soon. My friend send hers end of October and now it says “decided”.. so within one month! So we worried it’s not good news ☹️

How’s everyone feeling?

Hello all,

Sorry for the radio silence! i was in London at the weekend, and then work has been super busy.

How is everyone doing?

Minster are you feeling better? Is your treatment back on track? How is your friend? I hope she's not suffering too much with morning sickness.

Star Sorry to hear about the lack of embryos in the freezer. We had the same thing happen, and I was a bit surprised and sad. But as you say, just focus on the ones you do have :)

Aliona hope you get your appointments sorted out soon.

Dinks how are you feeling? Hope the cold is going now that the weather isn't quite so awful!

Dbear how are you? I had a sneaky look at your instagram. You are so pretty, and looked gorgeous at your wedding! (I realise that makes me sound like an insane stalker!).

Apart from having loads of work to do, I'm doing well. My stomach is still massive. Not sure if I can still blame the OHSS, or I need to accept I'm getting a bit fat?!

I've been having a mild panic over the past few days that apart from a big tummy i don't really have any other symptoms... I definitely do not want to have morning sickness, but in a weird way, I want it to know that things are moving in the right direction! We have our 6 week scan (although it's more like 6.5 weeks) on Thursday. I can't wait for it to know what is going on... I'm sure everything is fine, but you spend the entire IVF process worrying about the next stage that I'm struggling to not question what is happening now. I just wish I had a home scanner machine so i could do a quick check myself! :)

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